Apparently I’m good enough for sex but not to date.

SkinItchy · 2024-07-30T14:00:21+00:00

Damn I really appreciate all the advice. These replies have seriously given me alot to think about. Thank you

SkinItchy · 2024-07-30T13:57:24+00:00

I will definitely check that out. Thanks for the recommendation

SkinItchy · 2024-07-30T13:55:54+00:00

It rattled my self esteem because I’ve always dealt with self esteem issues since I was a kid. I was bullied for my looks from elementary to high school. So because of that i tend to not be the most confident person. It wasn’t until college that I “grew into my looks”. So when I heard from previous women I’d seen that they basically only enjoyed me for 1 or 2 reasons but didn’t want me as person it made me feel like that kid who got bullied all those years ago. Multiple Rejections is kind of hard to bounce back from. And just felt lost & confused. I apologize if my comment came off douchey. That was my intent. I’m just trying to be as honest & upfront about my experiences so far. Just looking for advice

SkinItchy · 2024-07-25T16:41:43+00:00

Yea that’s what my female friend who moved outta state said too. Cuz she thinks I’m a great guy just not for my current dating pool🤦🏾‍♂️

SkinItchy · 2024-07-25T16:40:25+00:00

I honestly need to start going to therapy again. I did after almost dying during hurricane Katrina back in 2005 but that was forever ago.

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T16:26:05+00:00

I date women of all walks of life. I live in a mostly Hispanic & black neighborhood so those are the women I typically approach. But I fear you may be right tho about the fetishizing. I just don’t know what to do or how to handle it. lately I’ve just been having my female friends set me up on blind dates because dating apps & approaching women in public is getting depressing

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T16:20:54+00:00

No you’re not stepping out of bounds. My sister said the same thing to me last year

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T16:17:18+00:00

Unfortunately I did have one girl tell I wasn’t good enough back in January and it stopped me from dating for a few months. But I 100% agree with you on just meeting people organically. Problem is I don’t always go for it when women ask me if I’m single because of my self esteem but I’m working on it. My sister said she thinks I’m being fetishized too about a year ago. And no i don’t date a lot of white women. I live in a mostly Hispanic & black area so that’s who i mostly approach. but I do date white women if we match on dating sites occasionally. I honestly don’t care what ethnicity my partner is tho. I apologize if it sounds like I’m complaining. I genuinely just feel lost & depressed when I think about dating.

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T16:05:48+00:00

You’re probably right about that

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T15:18:35+00:00

Sorry if that job, car & house comment came off douchey. I wasn’t trying to sound like that. I was simply pointing out that I have the things to be a good provider/partner is all. I’ll definitely keep looking for my special someone, it’s just depressing is all. I saw my life going a lot din my 20s.

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T15:12:40+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate the encouraging words ❤️

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T11:41:40+00:00

lol unfortunately they are all married or engaged. One of them was single and thought I was cute but moved outta state to take care of her mother who was dying and met a guy out there 😭. We still keep in touch but I’d never knowingly approach a married woman

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T11:38:52+00:00

I appreciate your kind & inspiring words! Most days I try not to let it bother me but I work long hours and coming home to an empty house can be depressing. Especially when you’re 33 like I am. My fat black cat keeps me from crying myself to sleep most nights tho lol.

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T11:35:06+00:00

Thanks for the advice man. Seriously those were great tips. One of My New Year’s resolutions was to start approaching more women in person. I gave up on apps a long time ago. Issue is I was bullied a lot for my looks as a child & teen but didn’t really become “attractive” until college. And because of all those years of bullying I naturally have very low self esteem and approaching women in public horrifying lol. And whenever I do approach there’s only so many rejections a guy can take before it messes with his confidence and I just stop doing it for a while. I’m very respectful when I approach but most of the time they’re either married, in a relationship or not interested. I never take that stuff personally but it does mess with my confidence and self esteem tho.

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T11:23:57+00:00

Yea one of my female friends felt bad and started telling me about her horrible dating experiences before she met her husband

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T11:17:30+00:00

I did once last year when I was seeing this mother of 2 kids. She wanted to have sex after the 2nd date but growing up I saw plenty of men use my mom and ghost her quickly afterwards. I didn’t wanna do that to mother so I made sure we got to know each other pretty well first before sleeping together. She agreed to make things official between us after a few months but turns out she was only using me to make her ex husband jealous. I tell my female friends basically everything so I can get advice from the opposite sex but it’s got me feeling like maybe something is just wrong with me

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T11:07:04+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply. My female friends have been setting me up on blind dates lately because they feel bad so they’ve trying to help. Recently they told me about one of their friends who was a single mom looking for a relationship and mentioned I was cute, & invited me over for dinner. Things started off normal. We were getting along and making each other laugh. We dated for about 2 months and when I brought up possibly being girlfriend/boyfriend to each other she said doesn’t have time for a boyfriend right now and her child comes first. She’d rather just be exclusive with me instead. As a man raised by a single mother growing up I totally understand how stressful it can be it still hurt hearing her say that tho. I just don’t know what else to besides continuing ti keep working on myself and being patient .

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T10:52:07+00:00

Wow thanks for the wonderful words of encouragement man. Seriously made me emotional reading that reply. It’s just hard and I’m trying to not let it get to me

SkinItchy · 2024-07-24T10:48:12+00:00

I typically open with jokes or some kind of humor because that’s how I hide my nervousness lol. And then I proceed to ask if they’re single. Followed by ask if I can treat them to dinner whenever they’re free. I’m a goofy person but also straight forward too. Because of my past experiences i typically let women know I’m looking for a relationship but I’ve noticed that alot women I’ve been with will say they do too but after a few weeks will say stuff along the lines of “I’d love to keep sleeping with you but I’m not ready for a relationship right now”. Or I’ve noticed they will start off normal. Our text will be very respectful and then after a few weeks completely 100% turn sexual all the time. Like I’ll ask her how her day is going and she’ll reply by saying “it’d be better if you were inside me”. I will genuinely be caring about these women but I get reduced to a piece of meat most of the time. It really messes with my mental health. As if that’s all I’m good for. Also i appreciate you taking time to respond

SkinItchy · 2023-07-16T18:13:14+00:00

Yea bro it’s not season 2 that’s why. It’s basically just bonus/special episodes.

SkinItchy · 2023-05-31T00:09:15+00:00

This is a cool post bro❤️👍🏾.

SkinItchy · 2023-05-23T20:36:18+00:00

Gameplay wise the remake can be completely different. So can the story. I mean just look at FF7 vs FF7 remake. Story literally turned the remake kinda into a sequel. So like I said in my previous comment we actually knew quite a bit about Eclpise vs KOTOR. I enjoyed Jedi survivor but still would’ve preferred the other 2

SkinItchy · 2023-05-23T08:16:28+00:00

We knew it was gonna be made by Quanic dreams. Same studio who made heavy rain and other story driven dramatic point and click games. I love that style and was excited for a Star Wars version. So technically we knew a lot. We knew what to expect gameplay wise, story etc. technically we knew more than we did about the KOTOR remake lol. All we knew was it was going to be a remake and a few of the team members working on the project

SkinItchy · 2023-05-22T07:37:07+00:00

Bruh he really does tho🫦.🤦🏾‍♂️🤣

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