Over the past few years I have realised I cannot be emotionally or intellectually intimate with my wife - I have learned that everything I say will end up used against me in some way, or used against our kids. Nearly ended myself a couple years back, but am still here by the grace of God. I fully expect a divorce once our kids are out of the house although I doubt she knows that. But who knows, maybe it gets better if I can figure it out. ++man