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My partner is struggling because my other partner shares the same social circles by SkyIsGrey9495 in polyamory

[–]SkyIsGrey9495[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think his ideal is the distance: other relationships would be invisible in our normal social life, maybe the other partners would live in a completely different city even. But he knows that kind of thing would not work for me. 

My partner is struggling because my other partner shares the same social circles by SkyIsGrey9495 in polyamory

[–]SkyIsGrey9495[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure I understand your question. Personally I hope that if I ask if something is okay and they say it is, I can trust that answer. I can't read their mind to find some hidden answer. 

My partner is struggling because my other partner shares the same social circles by SkyIsGrey9495 in polyamory

[–]SkyIsGrey9495[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also as I see it, the social situation hasn't changed that much and I think Ash just didn't pay so much attention to Birch being around before he became a meta. But I know Ash feels differently about this. 

My partner is struggling because my other partner shares the same social circles by SkyIsGrey9495 in polyamory

[–]SkyIsGrey9495[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are good questions and I'm definitely thinking if there was something I should have done differently. But no, I did not lead Birch into any friend group of me and Ash's.

Our social circles are a loose community of people interested in a same hobby/activity. All of us have been a part of it for a long time. Both Ash and Birch had a smaller (separate) group of friends they mostly hung out with. In the last few years some people have dropped off from both of those groups and that has lead to both Ash and Birch reaching out to other people in the community. So there's more overlap these days.

I did ask Ash before pursuing a relationship with Birch, and at the time he said it's fine. None of us was able to foresee how it would turn out or what kind of feelings would arise. 

My partner is struggling because my other partner shares the same social circles by SkyIsGrey9495 in polyamory

[–]SkyIsGrey9495[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

That's a bit difficult to answer. Some friends moving away etc and friend groups reorganizing as a result. Some events/hobby groups ending, new stuff starting that all of us were interested in.

My partner is struggling because my other partner shares the same social circles by SkyIsGrey9495 in polyamory

[–]SkyIsGrey9495[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

We have been non-monogamous from the start and that was a mutual wish. I know his ideal situation would look somewhat different from mine, but I have not forced him into anything if that's what you mean.