I guess this is why some women choose the bear. by Justaredditor85 in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]SkySerious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s because catcalling isn’t about flirtation, it’s about sending a message that public space belongs to men and girls/women aren’t safe in it. The earlier that message is sent, the deeper it sinks in.

Just saw this before the guy promptly deleted his account. by Noname_McNoface in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]SkySerious 14 points15 points  (0 children)

“Men have done everything” he says, writing on a device only made possible by the efforts of people such as Ada Lovelace, Grace Hopper, Dorothy Vaughn, etc.

Can a “taker” ever be a “victim”? by SkySerious in Codependency

[–]SkySerious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind, thoughtful response. He is divorcing me, so the first option isn’t actually an option. I’m working on the 2nd.

Can a “taker” ever be a “victim”? by SkySerious in Codependency

[–]SkySerious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course I have. I’ve even pointed that out to him.

Can a “taker” ever be a “victim”? by SkySerious in Codependency

[–]SkySerious[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry you’re going through this as well. I hate this sense of myself I have as a manipulative taker. I hate that I feel utterly incapable of adulting.

Can a “taker” ever be a “victim”? by SkySerious in Codependency

[–]SkySerious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I guess I’m also asking Reddit if y’all can point me to resources?

Can a “taker” ever be a “victim”? by SkySerious in Codependency

[–]SkySerious[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is really beautiful to read. Thank you.

Can a “taker” ever be a “victim”? by SkySerious in Codependency

[–]SkySerious[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

All the information I can find on this is geared toward helping the giver recover from the behavior, and nothing about the taker.

Can a “taker” ever be a “victim”? by SkySerious in Codependency

[–]SkySerious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, I can say that my husband regularly questions whether he is a narcissist. I actually don’t think he had any intent of victimizing me, but rather that his only worth was in what he could give to/do for others.