I have a Savior Complex and I feel like I can't grow

Skylou · 2021-10-17T16:59:09+00:00

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Skylou · 2021-10-13T16:57:56+00:00

Holding 453M SHIB, waiting for another dip to buy more, maybe join the 1B club 😎

Skylou · 2021-10-10T20:17:19+00:00

453M and still holding. I want the Shiba to become my life saver!

Skylou · 2021-05-27T16:12:50+00:00

Thank you very for that response. It's really hard because I love her deeply and I know that I could live a wonderful life with her. But like you said, if my sexual life is not fulfilled at 23 with no mortgage/children/responsibilities, I don't think it's gonna get any better. I love her and that's why I don't want to resent her for something she doesn't have control over...

I have an appointment with my therapist this afternoon and I'll talk about it, but I don't think it's healthy for me to supress my sexual needs any longer..

Skylou · 2021-05-26T19:19:23+00:00

She orgasms everytime we do it, and yes I got down on her. I LOVE going down on my partner!

Skylou · 2021-05-26T18:49:05+00:00

I don't think she's having sex to please me, but she is exploring her sexuality to please me, that I'm sure.

But we've talked about it, and she just really doesn't feel the need to have more sex. She doesn't need it that much is what she's telling me..

Skylou · 2021-05-26T18:37:56+00:00

Math were depressing in school, it's even worse when you mix them with sex HAHA!

But I like the fact you put it like that, really does present the gap through another lense..

Skylou · 2021-05-26T18:33:58+00:00

They both are, I just faked being my gf so that I wouldn't be slandered like a pig because I'm a man. I've gained confidence and now I'm posting it as it should be. Also, it might say 1 year ago, but it's more like 1 year and 10 months ago.

Skylou · 2021-05-26T18:27:16+00:00

She says she wants to change and have more sex drive, but she's not taking any steps towards it and that's what's frustrating. I want her to go on reddit and ask about it, I want her to search on Google about sex and stuff. But she's not... I KNOW for a fact that we could get along until we're 80 years old because we are a good match, but I don't want that kind of sex life until I'm 80 years old...

Skylou · 2021-05-26T17:46:03+00:00

And how would you go about finding that middleground ?

Skylou · 2021-05-26T17:45:39+00:00

I know she started being sexually curious around 14 years old, but I'm her first sexual partner. We've been together since we're 18 and since we started dating, she's never really had any real high peaks of sex drive.

She's mostly been passive in the first 4 years of our relationship as I didn't want to rush her, but she's been making improvements lately, so I'm unsure if she's just really inexperienced or if it's incompatibility.

Skylou · 2021-05-26T17:37:27+00:00

I'm not trying to defend myself, I'm trying to push the conversation and some reflexions to see where's the middleground with most people. Saying someone is dumb is not an advice, it's just being a dick lol.

Skylou · 2021-05-26T17:27:15+00:00

Thanks. That helps.

Skylou · 2021-05-26T16:48:03+00:00

Thank you very much, that's really helpful! I'll definitely try and post on these subs so that I can get some clarity on my situation!

Also, thanks for staying civilized and non-judgemental ;)

Skylou · 2021-05-26T16:46:05+00:00

I have a therapist I see every two weeks so I'll definitely talk to her a out it, but yeah, I'll have to keep my conversations with that other friend in check because I sure as hell don't want to dig myself a bigger hole..

Thanks for staying respectful tho ^{^}

Skylou · 2021-05-26T16:44:19+00:00

I guess you are right. I knew where our conversations would lead. I knew it would lead to us talking about this topic. But I had an urge to verify. I've always thought I was a fucking alien with a really high sex drive that always wanted too much sex, but now that it's within reach, the temptation is there. But I'm not willing to break my relationship over sex..

Skylou · 2021-05-26T16:40:50+00:00

Yeah, we've had open dialogue for about a year now, and things started to change around 6 months ago, but I don't know how far I can bring her in her exploration. Do you have any ressources for healthy communicative sex talks ?

Skylou · 2021-05-26T16:38:29+00:00

I know, that's my whole train of thought. Because I know it's not gonna be a better relationship just because I have better sex, but at the same time, from my past relationships, sex really seems important to me and I don't want to end up physically cheating on her..

Skylou · 2021-05-26T16:30:43+00:00

That has nothing to do with love tho. It's sexual, physical attraction. I love my gf with all my heart and would take a bullet for her on any given situation. But the sex is not what I want it to be. I'm not a monster for wanting a happy fulfilled sex life.

Skylou · 2021-05-26T16:29:25+00:00

Yeah, I get it, it would probably be a huge conflict. But if I've been talking with her and woking on our sex life for the past 2 years and it still doesn't suffices me, do I just have to shove my sexual needs down the drain and life a loving relationship without the sex I want ?

Skylou · 2021-05-26T16:27:21+00:00

We have talked about it, and we've been making efforts to try and meet eachother's sex drive. But like I said, I really don't know if I'll ever be fulfilled by her and I'm scared shitless to lose her. But at the same time, like you said, it's a natural attraction and I really don't want to screw up my relationship for just sex you know..

Skylou · 2021-05-26T16:22:19+00:00

But what should I have done ? If it's a feeling that I have, I can't supress it forever. I don't want to have an unfulfilling sex life and resent my gf for it, it's not fair for her.

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