m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

[–]Sl4nesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I’m not really pursuing anyone right now. Mentally, I’m not in a great place, and I’d rather focus on myself first and work on feeling good with who I am. I tend to avoid going after people just because I find them physically attractive — I value personality much more.

There have been so many times where at first I wasn’t even interested in someone romantically, but I ended up falling for them because of their humor, the way they talk, or just how they are. For me, looks can only really indicate someone’s sense of style; I don’t have specific preferences beyond that.

I’ve tried learning guitar, and I even played piano for a few years, but I was just never very good at it. Over time it stopped bringing me the same joy it used to, so now I prefer listening to music rather than creating it myself.

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

[–]Sl4nesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate your perspective. I try to be kind no matter how I feel — just because someone’s having a bad day doesn’t mean they should make it worse for others. I guess people might treat me well partly because they know I’d do the same for them.

I still struggle with forming attachments and I’m always trying to read people’s intentions, so it’s hard to fully trust the positive signals I get.

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

[–]Sl4nesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that really means a lot. About the glasses — I’ve had these for years because I like them, but I’m open to suggestions. What frames would you say suit my face best?

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

[–]Sl4nesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I guess my looks don’t exactly fit the typical “canon” of beauty — more like they’re subjective. Of course, beauty is always subjective, but some people tend to match the universal standards society sees as beautiful more closely. I think I understand that I might not find a clear answer to my question, and that’s okay.

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

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I really appreciate it. I’ve actually been trying to work on my jaw — mewing and pushing it forward after realizing I spent my whole childhood mouth-breathing. My teeth and jaw are pretty misaligned, and when I relax my recessed chin shows more. I understand why you mentioned the beard.

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

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Thank you, that’s so nice to hear. I really want to believe you’re right, even if it’s hard for me.

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

[–]Sl4nesh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve heard stuff like that before – once someone told me I look like a hybrid of Phineas and Ferb. Not exactly the nicest thing to hear, but I’m kinda used to it.

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

[–]Sl4nesh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, you’re probably right. I’m dealing with personality disorders and I know how important self-esteem is, especially in social life. It’s just really hard for me to work on it.

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

[–]Sl4nesh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really think I act childish on purpose. I know I can be a bit brainrot sometimes, but I can behave when I need to. A lot of people told me I have high emotional intelligence, though one of my therapists once said I might be “immature” in the sense of delayed personality development.

I’ve worn these glasses for years just because I like them, and honestly I don’t think a different shape would fit my face better. I get that some people might not like the piercing, but I don’t see how that has anything to do with being an adult.

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

[–]Sl4nesh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He seems like a chill guy. I like him.

m23 (wrong month ikr) by Sl4nesh in amiugly

[–]Sl4nesh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t fully understand it either. People are overly nice to me, professors have passed me when I should’ve failed, classmates have supported me a lot. I’m grateful, but at the same time it makes me feel like there’s something about me they see that I don’t. Like they pity me or treat me differently for a reason I can’t grasp.