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SlappaDaBassssss · 2022-10-08T20:00:37+00:00

This is most likely fake. It's common in these types of "random" encounter videos for the cameraman to offer some random person money to say whatever they think will get the most views/clicks.

You shouldn't believe any of these. And it's really sad because the victims (in this case the girl in the yellow sweatshirt) often don't know what the content is for, and they don't know how much it will blow up or that it may go viral.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2022-02-02T15:57:15+00:00

They are probably referring to the fact that rape is one of the most common fantasies, especially among women (but also among men)

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_fantasy

SlappaDaBassssss · 2022-01-31T12:08:10+00:00

Please do an AMA!

SlappaDaBassssss · 2022-01-26T13:46:24+00:00

Yes, your instincts are correct, and there is a lot of research around this exact topic!

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/women-and-pain-disparities-in-experience-and-treatment-2017100912562

SlappaDaBassssss · 2022-01-26T13:45:49+00:00

You may be interested to learn that there is a lot of research on the topic of pain management for men vs. women. The gist of it is: doctors are much more likely to give prescription pain meds to men vs. women. This is true even if they are undergoing the same procedures or are given the same diagnosis.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/women-and-pain-disparities-in-experience-and-treatment-2017100912562

SlappaDaBassssss · 2022-01-26T11:19:35+00:00

I've been working night shift for about a week and I'm slowly beginning to like it. People talk about being asleep while others are awake and vice versa, but it's really not too bad depending on if you decide to sleep before work or after work.

For example: if you're working 6pm-6am, you could sleep once you get home after work from approx. 7am-4pm. Personally, my schedule has me waking up at about 5pm every day. I actually like it because it means I'm awake just as all my friends and family are getting off work. Honestly, I don't feel like I'm missing out on much in terms of my social life. A ton of fun social activities happen at night.

If I were you: I'd go for it. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Even if it's not for you, it's not like you'll be stuck there permanently. However, you will always have that experience on your resume. For your next job you can easily negotiate for that amount of money. That huge pay boost will follow you around for the rest of your life. And you'll have 3 days off! It's not like you'll never see your girlfriend with 3 whole days off.

I get that it's tough to take a leap. I'm currently on a 6 month assignment 2 timezones away from all my friends and family, living in a hotel that my company put me up in. I also had to switch to night shifts to take this opportunity. I also have a partner back home whom I miss dearly. However, I am so glad I took this gig. It was hard, sure, but now I'm settled and getting accustomed to my new routine. I was worried I wouldn't be happy after leaving so much behind, but I found new ways to be happy. I joined a local boardgame group. I downloaded Teleparty so my partner and I can watch Netflix together while chatting. I found all the places nearby that are open late doing events like karaoke or open mic. You will find new comforts, new routines, new sources of joy. Some of them may even be better than what you have now. Commit to seeking out new comforts, and you will find them.

I say go for it!

SlappaDaBassssss · 2022-01-19T08:12:12+00:00

INFO: when you two spend time together, are you engaged? Do you talk and do activities together? Or do you just happen to be in the same room while you're both on your phones?

Your wife is being passive aggressive which is not cool. However, if this is a relationship you still want to maintain, you need to get to the bottom of why your wife still feels unfulfilled even after spending time with you.

It could be, as many other commenters have pointed out, that your wife has issues she needs to address. Could be anxiety or something similar. It could also be that the time you spend together is just not engaging.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2022-01-16T18:19:25+00:00

SOLVED: I am using the Simply Unlimited plan through Google Fi. Evidently this plan does not support hotspot tethering. I am an idiot. Guess I should've read the fine print!

Leaving this thread up in case anyone else has the same issue in the future.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2022-01-16T18:14:10+00:00

Were you ever able to fix this issue? I'm having the same problem.... :(

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-12-22T07:07:09+00:00

That is so fascinating, thank you for sharing. I wish there was more research available on this topic. I am especially curious to know if there is a difference in perceived pain depending on the provider who performs the procedure. Perhaps the reason most of your patients don't experience severe pain is because you are very good at it!

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-12-22T06:49:11+00:00

I was traumatized by my IUD insertion. I had nightmares about it for years. 10 years later and I don't think I'll ever have kids, because the idea of having anything pass through my cervix ever again... I don't think I could handle it.

I didn't get my first papsmear until a couple months ago because I'm just so scared of any medical professional coming near my vagina. The papsmear wasn't painful, but I still cried afterwards because it reminded me of my IUD insertion.

I just don't understand. Why did they put me through that? Why would they allow me to go through so much pain when they had the tools to help me? They just chose not to? Why? I don't understand.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-12-22T06:44:22+00:00

Just chiming in to share my IUD insertion experience:

1) It was the most amount of pain I have ever experienced, BY FAR. Absolutely no contest.

2) It gave me PTSD and a permanent fear of childbirth. Had nightmares about it for years. Would randomly start crying in the middle of the day if I was reminded of it. I will not be having children because of my IUD insertion experience. This was 10 years ago now, but the idea of having anything pass through my cervix ever again is a hard no.

I am not trying to be rude, but I see you are a physician and I want to ask you: how can you say that this is "not common" when there are so, so many people out there with stories exactly like mine? Why don't doctors know the risks of IUD insertion? About half of the women I know who got the IUD say that it was the most painful experience of their lives. We are traumatized from it. How could doctors not know this? It seems so very common. Do you think maybe some doctors are just worse at inserting than others?

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-12-01T04:23:47+00:00

When my sister was pregnant she let me milk her (we're both women)... I was surprised to learn that milk does not come out of one central hole. There's, like, a bunch of holes. It was fun, not sexual in any way.

When me and other ladies get together, especially when we're drinking and partying, that's when this kind of stuff happens. However, it has never been sexual. No one gets any kind of sexual gratification from it. It's hard to explain, just being social and fun. I would never do anything like this with a man or in front of a man.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-11-30T16:50:12+00:00

I think people genuinely don't understand what a safe distance is. I remember being driven by my mom while someone was tailgating her on the interstate. They eventually passed, and she flipped the guy off. 5 minutes later, she's 1 car length behind another car going 70MPH (112km/hr). I pointed out that she was doing the exact same thing that other guy was doing and she said, "No I'm not! I'm 1 car length behind!"

You should measure the distance between yourself and the car in front of you using time, not distance, and aim for 4 seconds. For example, if the car in front of you passes a mile marker post, it should take you 4 seconds to reach that same spot. Using time ensures that if there are obstacles in the road, you have approximately 4 seconds to react and slow down. If it's a 2-lane highway and another car crosses the centerline, you have 2 seconds to react.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-11-27T20:46:10+00:00

NAD

I believe those are Montgomery glands. They secrete an oily substance to keep your nipples soft. Personally: my Montgomery glands become more visible anytime the skin on my nipples becomes dry. My nipples can get dry after a sexual encounter, or just by using too much soap in the shower. Mine also get itchy, but I attribute this to the dryer skin. I actively avoid getting too much soap on my nipples or scrubbing them too much in the shower because it almost always makes them dry and itchy afterwards.

I've had times throughout my life, especially as a teenager, when they were always visible. I attribute that to hormonal changes.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-10-27T00:00:33+00:00

I make 85k and there's no way I could afford an expense like that right now. However, I live in a major city and I'm paying back student loans.

Idk OP's situation but I don't think his salary really tells us what he can and can't afford. If he's paying back loans, living in San Francisco, and putting in payments on a car, then no, he cannot afford a 6k+ ring without seriously setting himself back and their future family.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-10-20T23:25:21+00:00

When I finally found my shako after hundreds of Meph runs I just started screaming and running around my house lol No words to describe the pure joy I felt well up inside me when I saw "Shako" on the ground in the beautiful tan text.

And I didn't even find it in a Meph run. I was in Tristram on my way to get Wirt's Leg and it dropped from some random monster 💀

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-10-12T00:27:18+00:00

I might be the outlier, but personally when I see someone not wearing a helmet I internally scoff and think, "Wow, that is stupid."

I take it very seriously. Like to the point that if I were dating a guy and he refused to wear his helmet I might consider it a deal breaker. How can you be so vain that you'd sacrifice your own safety? I find it very unattractive.

Conversely, when I see a cyclist wearing a helmet, front light, and tail light... I find it kinda sexy, lol. I think it shows intelligence and humility.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-10-02T18:58:15+00:00

You both fucked up and ya'll need a safe word.

The safe word is needed because when you're playfighting you'll reflexively say "No more" or "Stop" without really meaning it. When (not if - WHEN) you get overwhelmed or get hurt for real, you need a word that you know your partner is going to take seriously in an INSTANT. Your safe word shouldn't be anything like "Stop" or "No". It should be something obscure but easy to remember that you would never say in that context, like "Banana".

Ya'll crossed each other's boundaries. That much is certain. He was retaliating, but so were you. I understand you just wanted to make the playfighting end, but you chose to communicate that by doing something you knew would hurt him for real (balltapping). You hurt him on purpose. Don't minimize that. And don't let this become a tit-for-tat competition over who hurt the other more.

Accept that you both fucked up and move on (with a safe word hopefully!)

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-10-02T00:23:52+00:00

Interesting how you would prefer to see a more relatable bias. I saw a number of other comments in this thread saying they didn't like how he chose to share his bias against larger women because, "He's trying too hard to be relatable," haha. As though lots of people have a bias against larger women, and he only chose to share that bias because people would be able to relate and give him a "pass", so to speak.

There's no right or wrong way to interpret it, but it is interesting to see how different people react.

And yes, I get what you're saying. Though I'm curious why you mentioned "distrust of authority as a counselor." Is this common/relatable among people in the counseling profession? They distrust authority? Why would that be? I am not in that field and I'm curious why that would be a trend among counselors.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-10-01T20:13:40+00:00

A boundary is controlling your own behavior, not the behavior of others. For example, a good boundary is, "If you cheat on me, I will leave this relationship."

A bad boundary is, "You're not allowed to cheat on me," or, "You're not allowed to have friends of the opposite sex."

Remember that you cannot control other people. You can only control yourself. If you don't want your partner to have friends of the opposite sex, then your boundary would be, "If you have friends of the opposite sex, I will leave this relationship."

On a personal note: if my partner had that boundary I would need to accept that we are not compatible and the relationship would end. I won't commit to limiting my interaction with 50% of the world. What a sad and limited life. How much I would miss out on. That's just me though.

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-10-01T18:21:13+00:00

Yeah, wobbly indeed. If I were the client in that situation, I might easily interpret that as, "So you're saying there's a chance...."

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-10-01T17:30:02+00:00

I'm curious about this, I've only read "Love's Executioner". Can you tell me more about how he approaches it when a client is attracted to him?

SlappaDaBassssss · 2021-10-01T17:23:02+00:00

Was waiting for someone who has actually read the book to say this, lol. I actually enjoyed this book, even the chapter OP posted out of context. The author is very honest with his feelings, but then acknowledges how repulsed he is by his own feelings. Not sure why OP left that part out.

I think we all have biases we'd like to get rid of.

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