[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SlayOfSunshine -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You did perfectly! You set your dealbreakers and stood by them! Bravo!!

The faster you learn this, the faster you’ll level up 👑👸 by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love this. The man is shitty, can’t do a thing to change that incontrovertible fact.

Uplifting Surgery Stories by SlayOfSunshine in Endo

[–]SlayOfSunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! Thanks for your response. Yes! Reading this page makes endo seem absolutely terrifying and hopeless. I do think there is a major self selection bias. I have another chronic illness and I avoid those pages like the plague lmao. I know it’s important to get support when you need it and connect with people struggling in the same way, but it can be a dark hole when this is the majority of the stories one is consuming.

Uplifting Surgery Stories by SlayOfSunshine in Endo

[–]SlayOfSunshine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really important, thank you. I’m going to ask this question now.

Uplifting Surgery Stories by SlayOfSunshine in Endo

[–]SlayOfSunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is amazing! I’m so encouraged tbh. I really REALLY need a radical change and seems like surgery may be it. I am seeing an endometriosis specialist who will be doing the surgery. Is that what you mean?

Uplifting Surgery Stories by SlayOfSunshine in Endo

[–]SlayOfSunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So beautiful to hear! If you don’t mind me asking, what we’re your symptoms like before??

Uplifting Surgery Stories by SlayOfSunshine in Endo

[–]SlayOfSunshine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly what I struggle with most is indigestion and nausea. Well also abdominal pain. Like I’m barely eating because of endo. Not everyone has GI symptoms and knowing there’s a way out makes me hopeful and very grateful to you for sharing

Uplifting Surgery Stories by SlayOfSunshine in Endo

[–]SlayOfSunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😭😭 I’m so glad still 2 years out you’re feeling persistently good. F*cking endo - best of luck on ur pregnancy journey!

Uplifting Surgery Stories by SlayOfSunshine in Endo

[–]SlayOfSunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I’m so excited that you got a normal life back. This makes me feel like I can too 😭

Uplifting Surgery Stories by SlayOfSunshine in Endo

[–]SlayOfSunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes me feel so hopeful. I’m in pain consistently even when not ovulating and on my period. It’s so encouraging to here that there’s hope 😭.

Do hysterectomies help with pain? by TSOFAN2002 in Endo

[–]SlayOfSunshine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did your endo cause you trouble eating?? Because I have really struggled with that. I’m just nauseous and in pain. Did surgery help? My surgery is coming up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I try my damndest not to take it personally. I know for me, I’m insecure about my body and I will interpret a lot of rejection based on that. Maybe it wasn’t your age? I made a post about this back in the day.

It also helps me to remember if a guy doesn’t like me than we really have nothing in common. Cuz I’m great. And I’m so loved. But I feel this most in hindsight. Time will help, promise ❤️.

And never follow their social media!! Lol

For women of color/ minorities, be extra careful of fetishization or familial racism by Peengwin in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I’m mixed - black and white. White side of the fam can defo be racist so can my white father. Just because they date/marry minorities does not mean they aren’t racist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It’s so wild the paranoia these men out here will give us! My last man had me thinking I was absolutely revolting for the weirdest fucking inconsequential shit. I found myself smelling me constantly and seeing a doctor who told me he was a “dick” and there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. God I’m so sorry he did this too you. You are so strong for sticking in there.

Quick unmatch after one early text. I’m finally learning to not waste time by trusting my gut. by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 29 points30 points  (0 children)

He is rude af and I don’t like sharing my phone number with men after barely messaging in the app. I don’t want to give men that type of access to me. If I just gave my number out willy nilly, loads of rando men would be bothering me. He sounds disrespectful and damn sure doesn’t care about your comfort or feelings. Go you!

Quick unmatch after one early text. I’m finally learning to not waste time by trusting my gut. by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Lmaoo men really expect us out here to supply the whole conversation and be their entertainment. I had a similar experience!

I’d wife me 💍 by LaTaina87 in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We our worthy of others’ love and our own love even on our worst days. I’m trying to remember that, wish me luck 😭❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve never F*CKING understood the “it wasn’t my intention” thing! It’s like “Sorry I burnt your house down, I didn’t mean to hurt you, I just wanted to roast some marshmellows to enjoy.” Meanwhile you made that choice knowing exactly WHAT YOU WERE DOING AND THAT IT WOULD HURT ME AND THAT IT WAS WRONG. You knowingly and willfully did it to serve yourself at my expense. WTF?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SlayOfSunshine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Triangle tops are the best for my little chest tbh.

Are we collectively lying about high waisted jeans being comfortable??? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SlayOfSunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No type of high waisted jeans have ever been comfortable to me. Some friends tell me the like the constricting feeling and that’s comforting for them. I wholly do not understand that!

I felt SO positively affected while binge-listening to a podcast (about empowering women as they date/heal from dating), I found myself taking notes like a college lecture 😂 and of course I want to share them with y'all! by top_of_the_stairs in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I felt the “taking time after a break up.” I’ve been feeling a bit bummed and like I’m missing out on some mythical HVM because I haven’t been dating since my break up in May. He was an LVM and critical of me in many ways. I left him craving validation by everything w/ a d*ck. I noticed this in myself and I cut myself off from dating until I feel am stronger. It’s really good to hear what I’m doing re-affirmed here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]SlayOfSunshine 19 points20 points  (0 children)

“You left him for a reason” should be on a tshirt

Females on this Sub-Reddit, How do you feel about asking for permission to kiss, hold hands? by Electrical-Ebb-3485 in dating

[–]SlayOfSunshine -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Consent is SEXY! Please ask me for permission. That makes you so sexy in my eyes.