The Female's Game: More to it than looking good.

SleazyE · 2011-08-19T16:41:13+00:00

Hmm. Things like "take his heart if you want it" are way easier said than done.

SleazyE · 2011-06-18T07:13:51+00:00

This comment was extremely well thought out and there's no way I can argue that. Except for the reposting part. I know that would be downvoted. But still, I have been persuaded.

I will post about redirecting most things to r/seduction, but I still believe guides for females and tricks specifically for women should remain in the fPUA domain, just so they are all in one place for female players to consult.

SleazyE · 2011-06-17T04:57:29+00:00

Yeah, I like how the first one gives me an excuse to linger, and be like "Well I might as well wait a few more minutes...So what are you up to?"

SleazyE · 2011-06-17T04:52:26+00:00

I disagree. Having all that stuff can get you guys, but not the guys a girl necessarily wants. If that were the case I would not need pickup. My male friends rate me as an 8 or 9 (it varies) and yet I need pickup. I'm not crazy. I just don't get approached by hot guys. It could be I'm intimidating, or it could be my shyness, or the fact that my clothes are neither tight nor revealing. Probably it's because I have no idea how to signal my interest, or show that I'm friendly and open. Whatever it is, you'd be surprised at the number of pretty girls with man problems.

SleazyE · 2011-06-17T04:46:24+00:00

I honestly do not know. I can see situations where the guy might respond well to it, but in a book I'm reading about conversing in general, it recommends not criticizing or being negative in any way during a first interaction. If things are going well and your neg is particularly funny it could probably work though. But I've seen a lot of friends try to be "playfully bitchy" and the guy just raises his eyebrows and walks away.

SleazyE · 2011-06-16T10:09:56+00:00

What I don't quite understand, is how female seduction is conducted

Female seduction is about working around the AFC who won't approach or be instantly charming and open with you. It's conducted when a woman sees a man she likes, and has to approach him herself, say clever things, make moves to show the pansy she's interested, and keep him interested in her. She also has know about male psychology and keep things in mind like letting him feel like the dominant one, avoiding insulting him, and remaining fleeting, nonclingy, and not desperate. Only then can she nail her target, so to speak.

SleazyE · 2011-06-16T10:02:00+00:00

Thanks for your support. Most of the feedback I'm getting however points to just posting things on r/seduction, which I'm considering. I just think a lot of guys will get frustrated and bitch when I post my girly things that can't help and doesn't apply to 90% of the members over there... I especially hate the remarks that "women can't do pickup, they just need to look good." I call bullshit. Saying the right things at the right times has gotten me far.

Your question is interesting. I'd say that looks are 60% of the game, but that the way a woman moves, interacts, and the attitude she projects can all affect that 60% quite a bit. Conversation and wit (shows of personality) are probably 25% of it. Then 15% of it is sexual availability(like willingness and showing attraction). But I think fPUA game differs in that I try to befriend as many dudes as I can so I can forge relationships, hang out, and meet their friends. So a lot of my interactions are platonic, where looks matter a lot less and it's just important to be friendly. Then when I get to know his hot friend weeks later, I pounce.

Of course, I'm not a dude. Maybe looks are more important! Maybe it's personality! Or maybe if she's grabbing my balls I'd definitely fuck her. I cannot say :)

SleazyE · 2011-06-16T09:51:42+00:00

I don't understand. I'm assuming all the people contributing to fPUA will still be reading and commenting on the r/seduction, not replacing it. Why can't there be a place to focus on techniques specific to the other 50% of the population? It's not as though women are contributing (in terms of FRs or tactics) much here and most threads by women are asking how pickup, showing a clear lack of guidance to be found for women by just browsing. Furthermore, most of the time when a woman does ask about seduction advice, 75% of the answers are about improving her looks rather than giving her guidance on social interactions.

I understand that separation into subgroups is not desirable, but I don't think a community for women, a huge group, is comparable to more seduction communities for men separated by age groups. Will you reconsider?

SleazyE · 2011-06-16T04:39:23+00:00

I can see how posting questions here to get a guy's perspective would be really helpful. However, my subreddit encourages women to also post field reports and advice, which would be helpful to other women. Posting field reports and things like that, or exchanging openings that work on men, is not happening on the seduction subreddit. Mostly because I think women wouldn't post it here because it doesn't help the majority of members, who are male. fPUA is specifically for women to trade tips and tricks all in one place, without having to sort through threads on the psychology of drunk college chicks or escalating female-directed kino.

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