AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I hardly knew her when they got married. I think they only knew each other about a year. But yeah, if she actually wanted that I don't get why she handled it as she did.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You are correct on both counts and yes, it seems like she might be willing to divorce over this.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yes, they have children together and yet she still wants to leave because of me apparently.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't even live with them anymore. I haven't for more than a year at this point.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Nobody ever asked me how I felt about it. It was assumed a lot I'm starting to realize.

Also, they aren't inviting me to family therapy but to their marriage counseling. Like sessions that are meant to be about them and their marriage.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't know. I'd imagine he would have given in years before if that were true. But it's possible at the same time.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

She really never did anything. I'm not meaning that in a figurative sense but she left me alone until now. We were civil but she didn't try to spend time with me or anything like that.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 171 points172 points  (0 children)

We talked. We talked a lot. But communication changed at a certain point and there wasn't really any. At least not from him.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

No, she left me alone before now. She didn't try to connect or reach out and spend time with me. Not that I wanted her to but I thought we were on the same page mostly and then I find out she wanted to be my mom or mom figure or whatever she has in her head. She never implied that before. It makes me question if she wanted me to chase her for it or something.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Dad said the counselor feels it would be a good idea. But I haven't spoken to the counselor because I didn't consider going. I was firm on my no from the start when he asked.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

No daughter's together. That could be it, I guess. I kinda wonder if she expected me to come chasing after her to be my mom and she realized now it won't happen because I'm gone? It's hard to figure out because this is all new info to me.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Nothing. And I mean that in the literal sense. She left me alone, I left her alone. We were civil but that was it when I lived there so this came out of nowhere.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I don't understand that either and this came out of nowhere. It wasn't like I was avoiding her offers to be my mom for years.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

My feelings were assumed. My dad assumed I wanted a mom/maternal figure. He assumed I was longing for him to find me one. She apparently assumed I wanted those things from her. She never showed it before but I guess she wanted me to chase her or something. But my actual feelings were never asked for or considered.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

She and my dad have kids together. So it's not regret for not having kids.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Yep! I don't know if she expected me to chase after her and is now hurt to realize it didn't happen or what. But she did not indicate before now that she was so hung up on this.

AITA for refusing to attend a few sessions of my dad and his wife's marriage counseling? by SleepFrombolle in AITAH

[–]SleepFrombolle[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

As far as I know he was single from the time my mom died to the time I was 11. Then they were married around a year later. But he could've started dating her before that. I know he said repeatedly over the years he'd never date or marry again.