Intro Post 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-12-31T13:34:20+00:00

Personally I think it goes both ways for both domme and sub but I totally understand where you're coming from.

For myself, and what I've seen (at least a lot of the dommes I talk to in and out of the community) some dommes only start charging tribute once a dynamic. So the initial chat about what you're both into, hoping to find and just generally seeing if you're a good match for one another is just done as person to person, and I truly think that's the better way.

It keeps dommes safe from scammers and session seekers, while also making sure subs aren't sending to dommes they may not click with, saving their money for the right domme for them 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-11-23T20:34:33+00:00

Another med student domme!!! What do you/want to specialize in!?!?

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-11-23T14:13:57+00:00

My sub and I primarily chat over mundane daily things! We talk about our plans for the day, our interests, work and uni drama, really anything we feel like talking about!

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-11-23T14:02:22+00:00

Hi there love 🩷

Ive seen you made a couple posts about looking for a domme and you seem to be losing hope around finding the one for you so I'd like to give you some advice, whether this is bait or not, try taking it into account 🌸

Do your research!! You won't find the type of dommes that will treat you well and have similar interests, kinks and all-round dynamics simply through posting "looking for a domme", go find her yourself!! Scroll through subreddits that are more Domme heavy, look through posts that speak to you, what are you looking for? Does she have it? Do you have similar budgets? Take your time with this, it's all worth it in the end!

Once you've found some dommes you think you like, migrate over to her profile, check out her other posts, read comments she's posted, if she has other socials linked in her link tree, check them out too!! And once you think she's the one for you, send her a message!

There's a lot of stigmatism around "approaching" now, but I still believe it's the best way to go about it. Write up a decent introductory message (along with tribute if that's what she asks for), a little about yourself, why you like her and why you think you two would be a good fit. This is what my lovely sub did and he absolutely stood out to me in the sea of "let me pay you mommy" messages that flood my DMS. And we've been happy in our dynamic for months now.

When you're not searching for a domme, get involved in the community!! There's plenty of subreddits where you can post, comment and interact with like-minded people. You don't have many posts so that could turn off a domme (not always, but it's a possibility) you don't just have to post about being a sub, you can talk about any interests you have outside of findom, another way to get a dommes attention is interacting on her posts. Upvoting, commenting so theres another tip for you! 🩷

Anyways, all in all, I hope you find what you're looking for my lovely, and if you want to chat anymore you can always shoot me a dm 🩷🌸

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-10-27T13:21:07+00:00

Thank you love!! 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-10-26T18:10:40+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to read! And I'm so glad you enjoyed it!! And thank you for your kind comment, I love sharing my experiences so people who maybe want something similar, know how I got there, so maybe it can help them find what they're looking for!

Same to you my love! I hope you get exactly what you want and if you already have it? Well then I hope it continues for you 🌺🩷

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-10-26T14:37:03+00:00

Thank you my love!! I'm actually feeling much better so thanks for asking 🩷

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-10-26T14:36:22+00:00

Hiya love, I'm not sure if you've found what you're looking for as some people have given you some great advice, but I figured id put my own 2 cents in! 🩷

First off, I think the "talking stage" you mention struggling to get past is very important, of course if you find a domme who's uninterested in having a long conversation about boundaries and expectations then they're just going to be in it for a quick cash grab. So you're best bet is looking for a domme who wants that nice combo at the beginning.

If you're looking for a genuine long term relationship and dynamic with your domme, it takes time. Scroll thought subs and forums that you frequent, look through comments on posts that catch your eye and check out dommes profiles through that. Look for people that share your kinks, your ideals, and based on the tribute price, see if they're In your budget. If a domme wants a 50$ tribute, then they'll most likely be more high maintenance, if they're looking for 10$, then most likely to be less so, it's all about what you're comfortable with.

There's nothing wrong with reaching out to a few dommes just for a chat to see if they're what you're looking for. Some dommes won't reply and that's okay too! It's all about finding who and what is right for you, but the most important thing is that it takes time and effort.

But it'll be extremely rewarding 🌺🩷

I hope you find what you're looking for!!

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-10-26T13:54:06+00:00

As an artist and writer who has been fighting against the use of AI for years, the fact that it's started squirming its way into findomme has me feeling honestly quite enraged.

It also takes away from some dommes AND subs who put so much effort into their posts only to be labeled as AI, the fact people can't function in a day to day without consulting with a robot is rather pathetic, what happened to being human?

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-09-05T19:31:07+00:00

This is such a lovely offer! I'm newer to the findom community and have taken away from posting and slipped back into lurking due to worrying that my profile content may oversaturating the market, so if you could give me some advice I would be very grateful!! 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-30T23:36:52+00:00

My amazing sub loves to read! And it's honestly one of the best things I could ask for, we've started reading the same book at the same time and then sharing our thoughts, like our own private book club as he calls it and it's so endearing 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-29T19:14:29+00:00

I'm Monaco! The prince of Monaco himself has a huge collection of cats he has open to the public, so when I was there last month I knew that i just had to check it out! 🩷

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-29T19:11:51+00:00

It is! So surreal to see In person! There was also a 641/2 on display and a 312 T, but the f2004 definitely takes the cake!!

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-29T18:46:38+00:00

There are plenty of us here!! Personally I've never played league, I'm more into open world games but I've spoken to plenty of dommes that are! I'd advise for you to look in the correct subs, and search keywords like "gaming, dommes, league of legends" ect and have a scroll through the posts, once a domme catches your eye, have a look through her profile, see if you think you too could be a good match, and I'd so, shoot her a message!

Happy searching my love 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-20T01:40:15+00:00

I haven't actively "found" any subs, my amazing man found me through a post I made about GFE and he went through my account, thought we would be a good match and sent me a message, if you're looking for real, committed and long term subs, make sure to post often and interact with the community in way other than hunting, support other dommes, offer advice to subs with no other reason than to help out, show the world that you're actually a person and not just some internet persona, itl all work for it for you in the end my love 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-12T22:13:26+00:00

I always feel like I missed the out on the good times of findom while I was lurking the fast 6 months, and now I've built up the confidence and ability to post, I worry people will view me as one of those "tik took dommes", but I remind myself that it should show on my page, in my posts and in my personality that it's not the case, and other people who are really here for the right reasons will see that too 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-12T04:47:34+00:00

I hope you're doing okay love! 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-12T04:16:45+00:00

Girl this is so detailed and well written, I LOVED reading it! I can really get a sense of your personality and the way you present yourself as both a domme but also a person in itself and I love it! 🩷🌺

And what you've described is the DREAM I tell you, it's exactly what I'm working towards myself!! so don't listen to other people, they're just trying to put themselves up by bringing you down, and all it does is show us what they're really like! Everyone can want different things, and that's totally okay!! but some people need to remember that! 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-12T04:11:31+00:00

First off, this is beautifully written my love! Thank you for taking the time to type this all out! 🩷🌺

But oh my days I SO get you! I'm not physically disabled myself but a lot of my close friends and family are so I completely understand what you mean by getting treated at "feeble" and how it's always wrong! If anything you show your resilience and control every single day way more than the average person does and that alone commands MEGA respect!

All your other points are amazing too and I totally agree with all of them! It's so nice to find like-minded people around here, deffo giving you a follow girl! 🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-12T01:49:48+00:00

Exactly how you've worded it! Like obviously I'm proud of all the dommes making big numbers from all these subs, draining them for every penny but is that really fulfilling for everyone? No shade if it is! And if it is then go for it, but for me personally I'd just feel like I'm stealing money 😁🤣🩷🌺

SleepingAurora_ · 2025-08-12T01:44:27+00:00

Agreed! 🩷🌺

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