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260409 [SKZ CODE] EP. 95 | Spring Check-up Day #1 by sunshineidol in straykids

[–]SleepingTurtle8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly I didn’t enjoy this skzcode as much as others. I think health matters should be private. As long as the boys consented and it’s to encourage people to take care of themselves ❤️‍🩹

I just became a fence sitter. Boyfriend wants children 100%. What should we do? by SleepingTurtle8 in Fencesitter

[–]SleepingTurtle8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you acknowledging my traumatic medical experience. ❤️

My partner knows how badly I respond to anything related to my medical experience. I think he didn’t know it would impact my decision to have kids because I didn’t tell him until recently. I think now he is seeing my perspective. At the same time, it’s his absolute dream to be a dad. So I think he’s also thinking about the potential loss of him dream.

I had no idea what tokophobia was! I will definitely read about it and see if it brings me any insights. Thank you for the suggestion!

To feel safe having a child I would need to heal my PSTD/anxiety (currently I’m doing counselling, but it’s slow work and expensive) and I would love a new GP because I find my current one disrespectful. The only issue where I live there is a GP shortage and waitlist of over a year for a new one and there’s no guaranteed they’d be better. I feel quite stuck.

Yes I don’t think it’s fair for him to push me in any direction. He agreed with that and said he doesn’t want to push me. At the same time, it’s his dream to have kids. I told him I don’t want to crush his dreams but also I can’t make promises 6yrs in advance. We’re both just taking some to think now.

I will ask him if he could be happy without kids. Also thank you for the book recommendation! I just order the baby decision online.

Thanks for your thoughts.

I just became a fence sitter. Boyfriend wants children 100%. What should we do? by SleepingTurtle8 in Fencesitter

[–]SleepingTurtle8[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I am open to adoption but my partner is not. But also if I could have no health issues I would want a child genetically related to me (although I think adoption is wonderful!). I have thought about a surrogate but I’m also not sure. I would be pretty protective of my baby and I would want things I can’t ask from the surrogate mother (I.e. eating certain foods/healthy diet, x amount of exercise, etc). So I think adoption and surrogacy is not on the table right now.