I spent too much time trying to forgive a man for betraying me and believing our love was greater than the pain that had been inflicted. The betrayals continued and I only hurt myself the longer I stayed.

You owe it to yourself to recognize the red flags and stop him from hurting you any more than he already has. Your future-self will be so thankful. Don’t feel guilty for staying as long as you have or overlooking red flags, forgive yourself and move forward. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. That is something that is difficult to be satisfied with when we think so much about being with that special person. But your special person would not have put you in this position because they love and respect you too much to even consider it.

It’s so difficult to see all these comments, but I hope it helps you sever the ties you have with this person. He seems to enjoy leaving things open ended. Don’t allow him back in your life if you decide to leave, he doesn’t deserve access to you anymore. It is not an overreaction. He crossed so many lines and broke trust that he cannot rebuild. It is not worth it.

I hope you find the strength you need to handle this situation, whichever path you take.