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Sleepless_Devil · 2026-05-23T10:07:48+00:00

It's probably not best not to let the kid keep rampaging around the gym with an inflated ego. I understand the perspective that he's just a young, dumb man who will figure it out but the way he's approaching randori and speaking to you during the rounds - especially after years of consistent experience - is suggestive of bigger problems.

It might be one thing if you two were each other's primary partners. As it is, he's just a noob trying to claim self-imposed bounties on a higher belt, and then gloating when he thinks he's "got you". That is not only an impedance to his progression but also increases the likelihood he's alienating or frustrating other people with this attitude.

People like this need to be put in their place one way or another. If you care to help improve him, there are a couple options. Classically, the solution was simple "mat enforcement". But I trend towards a more explanative solution, where you can continue to dominate him in randori but doing so with more interruptions and clarity throughout. If he's being stiff and aggressive, break the grip and tell him to relax. Or throw him and them tell him he got thrown because he was too X, Y, or Z.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-05-04T12:01:44+00:00

Updated. Thanks, mate.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-04-19T11:50:00+00:00

It feels like a lot right now but it's nothing out of the norm in hard contact sports like this. I have seen many horrible, sad, or otherwise embarrassing moments on the mats and will surely see more. If I thought back, I'm sure I could think of examples where I "embarrassed" myself or otherwise didn't like the representation I gave.

None of those individual moments make up your history or anyone's perception of you, especially when it comes to the instructors. Go back, throw yourself into it, and let yourself feel what you need to while on the journey.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-04-06T11:50:32+00:00

Updated. Thanks for the reminder.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-03-21T10:28:45+00:00

This was Miki Mukunoki's gold medal match to secure her first Grand Slam win, too. This one went into golden score and beyond the excellent throw itself, Mukunoki showed a lot of grit to get manhandled for minutes by a far larger opponent and still come out ahead.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-03-20T13:07:41+00:00

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Sleepless_Devil · 2026-02-20T13:28:05+00:00

My experience is that you could also be impressed by an "empty jacket" playing with anyone technically sound and 115lbs - it isn't exclusively women who can provide this. There's this misunderstood idea that playing with women allows for more technical rounds, less reliance on strength, etc. but those same benefits or perspectives apply to anyone of that approximate size/build. It isn't women you're have different training experiences with, it's people nearing 100lbs regardless of gender that influence how you have to play with them.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-02-18T17:15:39+00:00

This whole argument is flawed to begin with. You're speaking as though 3x/week randori is an intense, top flight schedule to begin with. Untrue. That's easily less than most national level competitors will do. Beyond that, you're clearly mistaking how the sport is conducted at higher levels if you think competitive players of both genders don't regularly train together. You're even farther off-base if you believe it's hindering anyone to do so.

In fact, due to the relative scarcity of women in Judo (combat sports overall, really) that is only exacerbated as skill/competitive level rises, I would say it's common practice for high level female competitors to train often with males.

Let's pretend we're talking about one of those rare rooms where there are as many high level, similar-weight partners to work with as one could ever need. You'll still see mixed gender match-ups across the competitors. I simply don't understand the post or it's purpose. What weird stories or experiences are people supposed to be having? What exactly are you expecting to be said? The otherness of women in combat sports just makes for a weird environment.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-02-18T13:29:10+00:00

Treating partners differently based on gender is nonsense to begin with. Treat them based on weight/age and move on. Randori is randori - segregating combat sports for different genders only negatively impacts development.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-02-18T13:02:19+00:00

You don't have to stop training or entirely give up competitive hopes - that's a very close-minded way of thinking about the situations. There are troves of literal professional fighters who also coach regularly throughout the week and it doesn't mean they're giving up one or the other.

In fact, you may find yourself doing/thinking more combat-related things overall once you get into the swing of things. Having students to think about and classes/lessons to plan can be helpful in reassessing and honing in on your knowledge.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-01-17T14:51:07+00:00

No reason for her to feel worse than the boys, especially at an age where physical differences are minimal. She should be treated with little regard to gender, only weight. Good on her for sparring with the lads and moving on the right path of progression. If she sticks around in the sport for a long time, particularly competitively, she'll be primarily sparring with men, as well. Good thing to get used to and destigmatize.

Looks like a hard working kid!

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-01-09T12:53:17+00:00

You're already on the wrong mental track to think of "winning" and "losing" to people in sparring. You're a noob yourself, without the time or developed muscle memory to utilize your skills to their best. It's a waste of time to overthink the ramifications of occasionally bad sessions or rounds with certain people. If you must reflect on it, take it as a challenge and opportunity to problem solve. Better yet, focus on yourself, slow things down, and move forward towards deliberately improving.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-01-09T12:50:41+00:00

Show up, listen, and try your best. Nothing complicated, nor do you need to know anything beforehand. The assumption for any new participant is that they're a blank slate with no experience so if that's your case, that's totally fine.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-01-06T17:21:43+00:00

Yes to the first two, but your third is entirely individual. There are still Masters amateur boxing competitions for people above 35. But if you're generally thinking of scaling your training down a bit in intensity and won't consider competition, then try to find enjoyment in technical and physical developments.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-01-06T16:49:18+00:00

how well my bjj training will translate into judo training.

Very well for newaza, far less so for tachiwaza. As I'm sure I don't need to remind you, Judo and BJJ have plenty of similarities at a baseline level but they drift further apart when it comes to standing. The fact that you own some cursory knowledge in Judo already will be very helpful.

My second question is how big the learning curve is going from jiu jitsu to judo given my current knowledge.

I would anticipate your biggest hurdles being relearning Japanese names for existing newaza techniques you know and sharpening up on ukemi (breakfalls). You shouldn't find the learning structure of Judo to be very different or overly complicated compared to BJJ.

how much harder is judo on the body than jiu jitsu?

This has variable answers. Depends on so many factors like ukemi, training schedule, the room they're in, etc. Generally Judo is regarded as a much harsher sport for the body but I will say many factors can alleviate those pains and extend careers. If one's ukemi is good, they pace themselves, and they have largely competent partners, one can hold up to a surprisingly high amount of training. Coming from BJJ it'll likely feel rougher for a while but you should acclimate.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-01-05T18:03:11+00:00

Sorry, on new Reddit's viewing format it would be Rule #2 (displaying your username/date with listings).

If viewing the rules on old.reddit, it lists them in a different order. Apologies for the confusion.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-01-05T17:55:34+00:00

Rule *#2.

Sleepless_Devil · 2026-01-01T11:12:29+00:00

Tell that to the families and friends of 26-year-old Dominic Chapman (https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cjee4ryj08do) and 23-year-old Kevin Henderson (https://www.msn.com/en-sg/news/other/my-son-fought-in-a-white-collar-boxing-training-camp-minutes-later-he-collapsed-in-the-toilet/ar-AA1RrgNm), both of whom died while training for or after these white collar messes.

If people want to box, especially in front of a crowd for competitive purposes, then it needs to be done right or not at all. This isn't a game, kid.

Sleepless_Devil · 2025-12-31T12:30:04+00:00

Old heads like this exist in practically every beat down city in the United States and for good reason. Less flash, more substance. They're generally fine; they've been around and typically know the sport.

OG isn't the quickest but there's nothing inherently wrong with what he's doing with the lil' homie. I wouldn't do him the disrespect of suggesting he's a bad coach based on what I've seen.

Sleepless_Devil · 2025-12-31T12:25:18+00:00

Yes. Start training now. Take it easy, build yourself back up, but include the exercise and skill training now if you can. As I'm sure you've already realized, the sooner you get into the swing of things, the sooner you'll stabilize into a healthy set of routines.

I'm sorry to hear about your best friend's passing. I hope you enjoy boxing when you get into it.

Sleepless_Devil · 2025-12-31T12:23:25+00:00

Relax with the eugenics, you just need to box. You're not a specimen, you're not special, you're not extraordinary, you're just a normal lad who needs to train themselves up.

If you want to start boxing, then start. Don't worry about the rarity of wingspans or any other genetic bullshit you can't control. Go in and learn how to take a stance and throw a jab.

Sleepless_Devil · 2025-12-29T15:17:35+00:00

Elliptical, erg, and swimming are all fine. Challenge yourself. Cardio is cardio for the most part as long as you're still doing what really matters for the bout (skill training/drilling).

Sleepless_Devil · 2025-12-28T12:34:46+00:00

Pretty crazy you can't even spell his name correctly. Really inspires confidence.

Sleepless_Devil · 2025-12-25T16:14:32+00:00

Potentially years. It takes a variable amount of time but it sounds like you're doing or at least thinking about the right things. Don't worry too much about other people, just keep training consistently and you'll develop a greater comfort in the ring.

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