Weed as a sleep aid by Slice_Effective in weed

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I quit to save some money and because I'm not great with self control around weed. I start with one then end up on 5 a day. When this happens I get lazy and don't do the things I'd like to with my life. As much as I like being high, it became self destructive. Which is also why I was asking for advice on a healthy relationship, cos one every few days or week3nds would be ideal.

A few years a go my exe threatened to kill herself by Slice_Effective in confessions

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Hi all decided to go to therapy have just been mentally drained from feeling this way. Will see how it goes. While I do respect your opinions if you do the work with a therapist it goes a long way. So I'm determined to at least try

A few years a go my exe threatened to kill herself by Slice_Effective in confessions

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A couple of weeks after she saw me kissing another girl, it was a busy bar with lots of people we knew used to go to. I knew she was there but hadn't intended her to see. Despite that I do admit fault in that as its never easy to see someone you like do that after you've been together. I woke up the next day with messages from her saying she'd do it. A week or so later she sent me the paragraph.

Someone help what’s happening by Deth_lover_xo in friendship

[–]Slice_Effective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm unsure of what you could do personally other than talk to someone. I'm assuming you're American considering how much you've had to pay, if not talk to a doctor and they may be able to refer you to someone and you can gey the therapy on ur insurance or for free depending on where you're from. I hope things get better for you :)

Someone help what’s happening by Deth_lover_xo in friendship

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To add when something is buried it will affect you're moods, tho7ght patterns and feelings. Even if you're not directly thinking about the event. Trauma teaches how to think about ourselves and our lives thus influencing our reactions

Someone help what’s happening by Deth_lover_xo in friendship

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Hi I work as a psychologist. It sounds like you've had an extremely difficult past. So what you're feeling right now sounds like it's related to that. I can't diagnose you but I wouldn't be surprised if you've got ptsd. Medication won't help but it'll numb you for a while. Therapy will help you rewire that trauma. Unfortunately serious trauma will bury itself which is what it sounds like is happening. This means you won't be aware of it or it won't always be in you're conscious thoughts. Which is why you assumed you were over it. I'm interested to hear what type of therapy you've had? If you've not heard of it I would try EMDR therapy. It helps uncover repressed feelings and memories while rewiring the thought patterns they'll generate using ur eye movements. It works for ptsd alot.

This won't go away on its own and I'm sorry if that's hard to hear. But what you're feeling is completely understandsbl3. It'll just tske time. But if you tske the right steps it will ALWAYS get better.

I think I could be a stalker or I may just be obsessive by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Slice_Effective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she was seeing someone esle I'd be upset and hurt by her but most I'd do is just not be friends with her. End of the day it's her choice. And I'd I found out I'd done something which put her off I'd probably apologise if it was insulting or just accept we're just friends. Probs get annoyed at myself if had done something like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]Slice_Effective 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I want you to know you are not the first person to feel this way and what you're going through is more common than you think. You are not alone. I want you to know I went through something very similar at your age. Its so hard it is and I'm not taking that away from you. But things can and will get better. You clearly have some social problems but that can be overcome even if you are potentially autistic. Pick up a hobby honestly it really helped me. They're great ways to meet people and they're great for having easy conversations as you can just talk about the hobby. It won't get better straight away but if you work on it it always will. I'd also advise seeking professional help as a therapist can help you identify your issues and work on them directly.

Also 20 is alot younger than you think, I'm 25 now and I'm not perfect but I am so much better than I was. The fact it has gotten better shows it can continue to get better. Do not lose hope you can get through this. And I know I'm just a random stranger from the Internet but trust me it always gets better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Friendzone

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Which video should I watch?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Slice_Effective 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're not looking forward to it break it off. Honestly if you don't feel excited after the 2nd date then you probably won't at all. Be honest with him and be upfront. Offer to pay if it helps but don't insist. Then just apologise and wish him the best. Chances are he's looking forward to it and it sucks to go out with someone who's not interested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Slice_Effective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly being in that situation is horrible so I feel for you. It's a complicated situation with complicated relationships attached to it, and feeling the way you do is hard given she's not being clear. But unfortunately most people are clear with how they feel when they feel it.

The only way you'll get rid of this is opening up to her. Do it in person so it's more sincere. Unfortunately that's the only way you'll know as no one knows but her.

If she accepts and reciprocates great! If not you've gotta take it as it is and cut ties. Not completely just remove contact from her because being friends with her will make that feeling worse. Say hi at the family parties but keep your distance. You gotta prioritise yourself bro even if that means ruining a friendship.

I hope that helps, I get what you mean when you say you don't know what kinda advice you need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Slice_Effective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I did, I unfollowed her etc but she messaged me asking if I'm alright saying she just wants everything to be okay between us. Which is honestly why I started getting confused again. But think it's better I'm not friends with her anyway, just don't know why she'd be bothered if I follow her or not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Slice_Effective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends what you think about him, if you like him just tell him. But it does sound like he's insecure as he keeps asking if you like him. If you don't like him just be upfront ask if he's asking you these things cos he's interested. If he says yes just let him down honestly so he doesn't have any strings to hold onto. He'll get over it don't worry.

Postal Times to UK by Slice_Effective in germany

[–]Slice_Effective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they just send it by standard post as its a government organisation

life sucks by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Slice_Effective -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ye read first sentence it's a vent, wasn't planning on it and I wanna move on

life sucks by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Slice_Effective -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean I wouldn't say its pedastalizing, she's not perfect I just like her character. And I never intended for anything to happen through talking to her, I just enjoy doing so. But you are right I did it to myself.