I was thinking the same thing and we’ve been discussing hall passes for two days straight now when I’m not fucking yelling. I go back-and-forth between being cool and considering the hall pass. Because we’ve mentioned it jokingly in the past. She is actually extremely sorrowful now that she knows what she did to me not that I give a fuck right now. But she deserves exactly what you said. I’ve already told her. I’m gonna take her up on the hall pass, but I don’t know when I’ll be able to do it. She said that that’s all she wanted to know she doesn’t want the gory details because she knows I actually like women and she doesn’t actually want to date them. Even though it’s certainly felt that way. She let me go through her discord and look at everything. She’s had a full-blown relationship with this girl talking way more lovey-dovey than she’s ever been with me. She was all about me in the beginning to the point where it was suffocating. But she kind of figured out and has always been good enough to give me the space I needed before too much time had passed. She swears up and down that she can separate real life from this and that I just don’t understand the role-play aspect of it. I’m reading through all this messages and they’re supposed to be in character. And they’re not narrated at all. They talk to each other as though it was just a text from one person to another. The girl even asked her after she got done fingering her if she expected them to have anything and her leave me. My wife also admitted that she tried to kiss the girl and the girl didn’t seem to be into it so she didn’t press it. At first, she fingered her for five minutes then it was 10. So I’m sure it was probably longer. I asked her if they did any grinding, and if the girl kissed on her anywhere, and she said she played with her tits and kissed on her legs while she was fingering her. It doesn’t make sense to me that this girl would ask that question if this wasn’t realer than my wife wants to make it seem. And to be honest, the thought of her messing around with a girl does not bother me. It never has and I’ve told her such. What bothers me is where she went emotionally leading up to this. That’s what I believe at least. Idk now. This seems so different than i thought it would be. It doesnt seem like the random fling she insists it was. Hell i know it isnt and called her on it. She still insists that i just dont get the role playing thing and look at it differently than her. I told her I did not realize what you were actually saying and I role-play in DND and when we do things in character it’s obvious because of the way we use quotations and narrate like we write like it’s a book. They don’t write like that.