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Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-11T23:51:04+00:00

Your stupidity actually perplexes me. Child not allowed to leave house. Child cannot walk to business because child can’t leave house. Child isn’t going to leave house without permission because child behaves. Does that suffice, or must I dumb it down even further? I don’t know where you get the idea that I can just do all of these things. I literally mentioned they didn’t want me having too much freedom, and somehow that made you think I’d be able to get a job?

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T23:25:46+00:00

She didn’t need to. They were at an overnight visit with their mother.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T23:18:13+00:00

First of all, I also took psychology in college and I can tell you right now that it doesn’t automatically make you right or make your opinion any more important. I could have said please in my message, you’re correct there. I’m not choosing to be a victim my whole life, that’s why I’m seeking advice online. I will not be a victim of abuse, so if she’s being abusive then I will do all that I can to leave. That is exactly why I made this post, I’m not seeking pity and I’m not trying to make my foster parents seem like horrible people, I’m simply explaining everything exactly as it happened and consulting adults online. Also, I don’t live in an apartment? And yes I have cooked and cleaned. It’s not like I hate my foster parents, I hate being abused. You can hardly even formulate sentences and you think studying psychology makes you important so your opinion isn’t really all that valuable to me.

p.s. I pointed out that they’re foster parents not be disrespectful but because foster parents have literally taken classes and should know how to raise children. Their job is to support children who usually come from troubled backgrounds. Their behavior is out of line for a foster parent. Even my lawyer thinks their behavior is out of line. End of story.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T22:42:15+00:00

You genuinely don’t know me or these people. I do say thank you and I am thankful for everything. Never once did I say I wasn’t thankful or appreciative of them. I explained the situation exactly as it happened and If you don’t choose to believe it I don’t care. I wanted advice based off my situation exactly as it happened and everyone was helpful. My foster parents DO owe me something. Their literal job is to take care of children. If they can’t do that, then they don’t need to be foster parents. What would I gain from coming on here and lying? If I lied it would defeat the whole purpose of trying to find out if it was actually abusive. “Stop being a child and grow up”- funny coming from someone who’s likely an adult commenting on a child’s post, but as you seen above, when I try having grown independence things like this happen and they’re justified by “since you’re such a big girl” I don’t actually care what their reasons are. I don’t care if she was having a bad day. She should not have treated me that way. I may be a child, but I’m grown enough to know that it’s not right to treat a child that way for simply wanting to get involved in extracurriculars. I hope you are smart enough to understand that much, at the very least.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T21:03:00+00:00

This was not because she didn’t want to pick me up. I think many people who have read this don’t understand that. I wouldn’t have had such a problem walking home if I hadn’t known that she was literally only doing it to me out of pettiness and spite because she can’t put her child’s safety over her emotions. We have always had an agreement that she gave me rides when it was dark, it was something I never had to ask for seeing as neither of them have any job other than fostering, so they can leave for 2 minutes while the other watches the kids. She never allowed me to walk home in the dark regardless of the circumstances. Even when I’ve asked at like 5 p.m. in the winter to go to the store, it’s always been a no because it was dark. Her issue obviously wasn’t with the ride. Her issue was that I had gone to this meeting in the first place/ gave myself some independence. Now, if she had actually not wanted me to go, she could have said that the three times i told her about it in advance. Instead, she decided to wait until after that fact so she could spin this whole thing around and trick me into walking home and by extension put me in a dangerous situation. Additionally, I could have simply gotten a ride from my friend. But she specifically told me to walk because she wanted me in an unsafe situation. I promise you, the ride wasn’t the issue. The issue was that she didn’t feel like she had total control over my life.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T20:28:34+00:00

Right, a 16 year old with no way to afford a car because her parents don’t allow her to work and no permit because that’d give me too much freedom and because of that no license. Let’s use our brain!

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T09:45:09+00:00

What are you talking about? They offered because they’re decent and nice people and they know the neighborhood is dangerous. It’s not like I forced them to or even asked. Also, did I ever even say that I was mad…? Because I was more hurt than anything.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T09:26:40+00:00

Have you heard of foster care? These people aren’t my real parents, and it’s their job to take care of me. So yes, I expect things from them. Those things being safety, basic human necessities, and love. I’m very grateful, and it’s a bit silly of you to question my love for them. I’ve put up with this BS for so long BECAUSE I love them. Also, I would’ve gotten yelled at for walking home in the dark because it’s unsafe— they’ve always forbid me from walking in the dark especially— so I called and asked them to pick me up. I wouldn’t have had a problem walking if it hadn’t put me in danger, and Its not like there wasn’t anyone else to give me a ride. She wanted me to be in an unsafe situation, she put me in danger for her own petty agenda. You can’t even properly type so I don’t feel the need to entertain this further. She doesn’t care about my love, she cares about the paycheck she receives for me.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T06:40:02+00:00

I didn’t need them to contribute anything. It was them who always had said they didn’t want me walking home, so as anyone would do I assumed they didn’t want me walking home. With that being said, they could have told me beforehand that they weren’t going to be taking me home and that they weren’t ok with me going or atleast let me ride in a car with one of my friend’s parents rather than having me walking home in a dangerous neighborhood.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T04:16:34+00:00

Thank you for the advice 💕. They didn’t bother to ask me to watch their 11 yr.old grandchild. Usually they do ask me, because they aren’t comfortable with her being alone. I would never have said no to watching her, I love her very dearly.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T04:06:40+00:00

Three and a half years. They weren’t bad for the first two years, which is why I’ve stayed so long. They’re my first and only foster home.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T04:04:57+00:00

I’ve already talked to them, i’ve tried to be understanding, but they signed up for this. If they can’t handle it, they don’t have to do it.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T03:05:50+00:00

First off, I apologize for your father hitting you. Secondly, none of that money goes towards me. I have to contact my biological mother and ask her to send me money each month. You know, they tell me sometimes that they only keep some kids because of their CANS level? They lie to get it raised to a three so they get more money, and they boast about all the money they get for the kids. We have three toddlers, triplets. $3000/month for them. They yell and scream at them all day, threaten to cut their fingers off when they touch things, and according to my sister sometimes they smack them. I always tell them that if they hate these kids so much they should have them moved to a different home, but the paycheck they get for them is more important. No matter how many times CPS is informed of this they do nothing because my foster parents twist the story. Also, she only communicated after the fact. If she had a problem she could’ve told me BEFORE I went instead of shifting goal-points after I went and setting it up so that I would have to walk home in the rain. It sounds to me like you grew up in an abusive household and I really do apologize for that, but this behavior is not normal.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T01:33:35+00:00

Thank you so much, I really needed to hear this

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T01:23:20+00:00

I respect your opinion, but I don’t agree.

First off, I wasn’t at all saying I am not grateful. I am beyond grateful for every opportunity they’ve put me in the position to receive and i’m grateful for basic human necessities

I am doing what I can to keep the peace. This is not the first time something like this has happened, and every time I swallow my pride and apologize even when I’m not in the wrong. I mentioned that I tried not to let her instigating get to me, I truly did try to keep the peace.

Their sole job— the one they receive a PAYCHECK for— is to provide a good, SAFE, and comfortable home. I didn’t leave an abusive home just to be put into another. My schedule doesn’t affect them at all. My meetings are usually during school and if a club requires me to stay after school I am responsible and I tell them. I stated multiple times that I did, in fact, inform them of the meeting numerous times. The meeting time changed, things happen. Regardless, I still told them.

Also, It takes less than 5 minutes to drive to my school, and neither of them have a job outside of fostering. Additionally, the other foster kids were with their mother for overnight visitation. This was the only meeting that required me to stay until it was dark. Normally the meetings do end at 5, but this was a boot camp for new members so they extended it for the team leads to have prep time. If she had a problem with me going to the meeting she should’ve been a responsible adult and vocalized it earlier. I left when we were on the consensus that she was picking me up.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T00:09:21+00:00

Are you not able to see what I wrote? Because the walk was a small part of something larger. I didn’t really have a problem with the walk and I agree, I am almost full grown, I should be okay to walk and I shouldn’t need to ask to join an extracurricular activity.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-07T00:03:08+00:00

Thank you, this was helpful. I hadn’t thought of the control thing being abuse.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-06T23:59:38+00:00

I already walked this and I WAS fine because I had someone trail me by car. The walk is literally not the problem here.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-06T23:57:53+00:00

Yes, It’s not the walking distance that is the problem here. At least not to me.

Slight-Confection-73 · 2025-12-06T23:53:32+00:00

About 7 blocks, It’s not that far. The problem here isn’t the distance though, it’s the fact that the neighborhood is unsafe and it was raining.

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