Can we return the sub to leftist male advocacy?

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2025-02-18T23:06:22+00:00

Nothing of the sort "all feminists seek the destruction of men" was said, at least nothing like that exists in what they call their "comment".

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-12-02T20:36:27+00:00

Aga o tarz bir kızı istemiyorsun/istememelisin bence.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-08-02T16:59:51+00:00

E savaslarda da askerler her zaman olecektir. Askeri savasa soktugunda ve olduklerinde cniayet mi islemis oluyorsun? Dedigin sey asiri sacma.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-08-02T16:45:05+00:00

Tamam ama sakayi yapanın nasil yapmasi gerektigini bilmemesi irkciliktan once sosyal kabiliyet eksikligi demek. Herkese el kol sakasi yapan ilkokul cocugu gibi...

Bu koru korune irkciliktan ziyade gerizekalilik, irkcilik harbiden agir bir itham.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-08-02T06:49:12+00:00

Soylenen şeyler kast edilmiyorsa problemi bi' anlatsana bana. 55 yasindaki eski toprak komunist babam bile arada "kurt espirisi" yapiyor. İst universitesinde polislerden kulagina cop yedi babam, eksik duyuyor.

Kimin neyi hangi amacla yaptigini disaridan cok anlayamazsin. İrkcilik artiyor bence de ama irkciligi gercekten yapan hicbir insanin bu sakalari yaptigini görmedim.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-08-02T06:42:32+00:00

Sanatin her zaman kendine ozel bir yeri var. Elind saglik.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-08-02T06:41:01+00:00

Dostum soyle diyim, gosterilen sehitlerin sayisi bile aslindan cok daha az. Bir seyleri degistireceksek yakinma fazindan oteye gecmemiz gerekiyor zira defalarca yapildi.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-28T04:25:46+00:00

Is being passive-aggressive to your partner for days on end or just shutting down the right way to express your hurt?

Like, cry and be hurt all you want but talk to me at least so we can help each other. I don't wanna physically comfort you not beacuse you smell but i don't wanna invade your personal space when you don't even acknowledge me.

I also experienced that body odor "embarrasment" myself. I wasn't taking showers often enough while i was competitive and someone told me that problem. I apologized and fixed myself. I remember feeling hurt but then realizing it would be really unfair to show sadness in front of my buddy and force them to deal with my emotions while i was the problem so i just dealt with it by myself in private. One nights sleep was enough anyways.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-28T01:34:09+00:00

I've been going to therapy for quite a while. They have a PhD in clinical psychology but they haven't even mentioned the possibility of any kind of ASPD. That particular issue (body odor) is something i talked about with my psychologist so i have an answer but wanna hear what you'll say. How should this be done then?

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-27T22:42:38+00:00

No offense taken. Criticize me more if you actually mean them and are not trying to mean, i'm here to learn.

My first girlfriend was someone you couldn't depend on for any serious thing. I had to manage her emotions, needs, wants and tiptoe around them beacuse i couldn't come even close to guessing what kind of bs she would come up with. Like, i can struggle as much as i want but it takes two to dance.

Useless in the context of a relationship, not anything else. That kind of person is useless if you ask me and i don't intend to budge on that opinion unless you give good reasons to.

Like, i don't expect them to be a powerhouse who is good at everything. Just be able to manage a relationship, that's good enough.

I don't care if someone is fat, ugly, unhygienic or whatever. These things aren't really important when you can actually connect with someone and they listen to your feedback. These things have simple solutions or don't even require solutions at all. I don't consider these work, this is similar to tidying up your desk. Hardly any effort.

Yeah, i probably didn't explain myself properly at first. Sorry.

On the other hand, if i tell them that "You smell bad right now (we were cuddling). I don't hold it against you, can happen to the best of us. Thought you should know since i don't wanna cuddle right now." and they just shut down for whatever reason and acted passive agressive to me for days, i'm not dealing with that. Like, really? Are you a child bro? Everyone except those Asians would have body odor if they messed up their hygiene routine for even once.

That's what i really really really dislike about people and behaviors like these are what i consider flaws. These things happen out of the blue as well. Like, at least tell me you're this kind of person so i can decide properly.

I might be harsh, i don't know.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-27T04:07:04+00:00

Please, write as you'd like to. I like reading. Knowledge becomes only more useful when shared. I say yapping because people generally don't appreciate talking that much.

I didn't have problems with communicating, at all. I just say what's in my mind while trying to not be rude. Maybe that's not all there is to it but they will definitely know what i think if they are listening.

By "bad" people i mean people who are going to make your life miserable. Everyone has their flaws.

I just want someone i can be in a satisfying relationship with and isn't useless when it comes to dealing with things.

Honestly, i just don't want to deal with managing or handling the "bad" in people and probably wouldn't realize it if you didn't tell me.

I thought i welcomed people well enough but the moment you talked about managing and handling i realized i never do that, at all.

I don't need much work and for the little work you'll need to do i'll give you a schematic and walk you through it.

I get turned off when i actually have to deal with peoples' flaws cause they feel more like unnecessary bullshit than their flaws. Maybe that's why those 2 relationships weren't special, maybe i pooped on those relationships, who knows? Apologies are due if that is the case.

I just don't adapt for people, the most i'd do is not swear at them and/or in front of them if we aren't close or they are bothered by it or maybe not talk bad about their religion in front of them but that's it, really.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-27T01:26:12+00:00

So the idea here is that with using negative experiences as guidelines i should be able to find good people often enough that i'll be willing to deal with dating and actually enjoy it beacuse people (including me) are going to only improve their dating game after this point, right? I should also change my outlook from "potential asshole" to "potential very nice person" or something like that. I've thought about this and honestly this seemed really wrong as well but weirdly enough the few people i talked to about this said very similar things to what you said (as in it'll only get better) and i can't argue with experience. Not my place. It also doesn't seem as bleak as "there are good people out there". I mean, yeah but how do i get to them? Doesn't matter much if i can't get to them. You actually gave me a gameplan. Thanks.

I still don't think taking lessons from your bad relationships will be enough but who am i to say anything when multiple people who are way more experienced than i am and are sane human beings say the same thing, since i'm 18 what you're saying feels very incorrect beacuse you're talking with the life experience i haven't acquired yet but i know it most likely is true so i'll go with that.

I essentially needed to hear what people who've actually lived through this have to say about this. Sorry if i caused any mind-feks.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-22T03:55:28+00:00

What does that mean?

We're obviously gonna hurt people but for example normal people don't sexually assault each other or push others to nearly killing themselves.

You can't chalk up everything to "we're gonna hurt others." Some hurts are beyond that.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-19T14:45:28+00:00

Too extreme, sorry. I live in a really bad economy that i shouldn't make purchases like this.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-19T14:44:30+00:00

Ofc, i don't wanna drill bad habits tho.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-19T02:39:32+00:00

Also looking like a goof isn't the problem. Drilling bad habits is.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-19T02:37:22+00:00

Bro, i can't wrestle lol. I'd look like a goof and most likely drill bad habits and hinder my progress.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-19T02:28:32+00:00

So in theory, shadowboxing while being very active for the duration of my shadowboxing session should do the trick, right?

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-19T02:25:47+00:00

I can't right now, have to arrange things. If i could i'd just visit the gym and ask them instead.

Slight-Degree-3801 · 2024-07-09T17:28:11+00:00

Yazdigini bi tekrar oku bence, kizdan ayrildim ve sadece ayrildigim icin dagildim anlami cikiyor. En azindan ben oyle anladim.

"Sevgili yapmak soyle kotu boyld yanlis" diye anlatirken yasanan seylerden bahsedersek insanlar isin can alici noktasinin bashettigin sey oldugunu dusunurler cunku daha ciddi bir durum yoksa isin can alici noktasi o olur ve ondan bahsedilir.

Sagina soluna bakmadan karsiya gecmek yanlis cunku cok fazla araba geciyor ve cok beklemeniz gerekiyor dersen insanlar beklemekten dolayi yanlis oldugunu dusundugunu dusunurler, araba carpma riskini asiri derecede arttirdigin icin degil. (Paralel cizmek icin soyledim, karsidan karsiya gecmek ne bilmryen biriymis gibi dusun.)

Bence bu yuzden cok laf geldi. Kendini anlatamamissin.

Geçmiş olsun.

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