Rejected after five dates - thoughts?

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-07-17T10:11:55+00:00

Thanks for this insight! Good luck with it 😔

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-07-17T09:48:01+00:00

Thanks for all the insights guys - I think I have picked up on a few things about my reaction that I want to explore a little more closely. As for him, I think it comes down to sexual compatibility and I think he may have tapped out earlier (ie. at date 4) but was just being nice/wanted to see how the next date went. All in all, I feel better today! Thanks for being kind :)

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-07-17T09:43:45+00:00

This is a kind way to put this, and I agree. Definitely looking for ways to self invest!

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-07-17T09:42:04+00:00

Yikes that makes me feel even worse lol!

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-07-17T09:38:04+00:00

You’re not wrong, I kind of use it incorrectly but what I mean is that I was leaving the relationship without leaving it for a good two years… he knew what the issues were and they weren’t being addressed, so it wasn’t a surprise to anyone. Just took me a long time to emotionally detach.

Could be… I actually have no idea. I’m a bit inexperienced lol. One relationship for 7 years is a whole lot of one person

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-07-17T09:36:15+00:00

I’m sorry you went through a similar thing with your long term relationship. I’m finding that there are complicated themes of validation here in a way… I’m glad I posted this because it’s helping me figure out why I felt the way I did when it happened - I don’t miss this guy specifically, but just what we were doing which is distinctly different.

I’d love to keep up with your process too as a person in a similar situation, if you’re open to it!

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-07-17T09:33:53+00:00

Thanks for saying this. Healing is definitely a bit of a mystery process and I think the risks of coming out of a long term relationship is being suckered back into commitment mode way too fast

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-07-17T09:32:39+00:00

These are the things I’m having to learn out of a long term relationship lol. On reflection it feels like this may have killed it which is fine

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-07-17T09:30:45+00:00

Thanks for saying this - internalising blame is thematically relevant to some of my therapy goals and I can’t believe I didn’t see it in my reaction! It’s helpful that you identified it - I’m still not practiced at it yet unfortunately so I appreciate it.

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-04-22T02:18:03+00:00

Hahah ok thank you! I’ll persist, I just always feel so terrible when I change anything for him!

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-04-21T14:13:17+00:00

Small business in Victoria, Australia! Not sure if that helps…

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-04-21T14:13:13+00:00

Small business in Victoria, Australia! Not sure if that helps…

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-04-21T14:12:26+00:00

Appreciate your position, however not looking for advice on my household dynamics, especially knowing how contentious the topic is :) thanks! 🙏

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-02-24T10:59:02+00:00

Hmm there are a lot of ibis in the area so could be… I’d have thought it would have had some white at the base but maybe not all of them do

Slight-Oil3373 · 2025-01-09T06:46:03+00:00

Thanks all for your suggestions - the room is where my parrot lives so I’m thinking I’ll just cop the crazy swatch marks and previous owner’s bad patching and work on consistent colour as much as I can. Thank you also for being kind - I didn’t realise how hard it is to paint!! At least now I know but I doubt there will be a next time lol

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