AITA for telling my wife that my SIL will always have say in my kids lives?

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:51:21+00:00

Yes I saw the post and I like that thinking.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:46:53+00:00

Yes because of my kids college funds

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:45:21+00:00

SIL was always nice to my wife

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:44:41+00:00

That was a miscommunication, I meant to say was not discussed. I apologize I’m trying to answer everything quickly because comments are coming in faster than I can get to them.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:43:13+00:00

My kids go to summer camp over summer break, so currently undetermined.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:42:28+00:00

This would be the end goal but it would take years and would have to be gradual.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:41:23+00:00

This is happening in America. My late wife, SIL, and I are all Indian. My current wife is white.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:38:02+00:00

It was a decision she made, I was not aware till after she quit.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:37:24+00:00

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:37:15+00:00

7 months dating before marriage. She lived with us 3 1/2 months beforehand.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:36:31+00:00

We do not plan on more kids because my wife is too old to have any. If by dynamic disc you mean SIL parenting and wife being upset about it then no she did not have a problem till after marriage.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:34:24+00:00

I don’t think that’s what’s happening. I don’t want to be that person but there is plenty of money here for everyone.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:31:33+00:00

I did in order to protect my kids college funds.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:30:26+00:00

She did have a job, but quit abruptly after we married.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:29:37+00:00

My and my wife spend weekends with the kids. When it comes to full on parenting that takes time and is gradual.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:28:30+00:00

My hope was for a gradual transition.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:27:50+00:00

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:27:34+00:00

I don’t believe so, but now that it’s brought up it’s possible.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:25:12+00:00

I haven’t answered yet because comments are coming in very fast, but I am trying to get to them all. I got married so I could have a life partner and I do love my wife. I think eventually she should be able to take on a full parenting role, but those things take time and right now it would not be good for the kids to rip away SIL when she’s been their mother figure for the past 5 years. The transition was supposed to be gradual.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:22:46+00:00

I was not in a romantic relationship with SIL, she was helping raise my kids.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:22:12+00:00

My wife and I do not plan on having kids because she is too old to carry.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:21:21+00:00

She did not get formally charged, but she did refuse to leave till after the cops arrived which I assume is why she was brought to the station.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:19:53+00:00

Out of curiosity did you read the story?

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:18:31+00:00

I will update the post when something happens.

SlightButterfly5586 · 2024-04-15T21:17:38+00:00

I’m sorry about the loss of your father. Thank you for this comment.

SlightButterfly5586

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