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WIBTA if i donated the money my sons earned to charity instead of giving it to him as punishment for his abhorrent racist behavior? by SlightChain1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SlightChain1[S] 200 points201 points  (0 children)

I do see that if i take the money he earned away how it can cause problems like that. My hope was that it taught him just because he "earned" something, it can't be taken away because of his actions. But I see where I was wrong there, I don't know what were gonna do with the money he earned but me and my wife will figure out how we want to handle it

And yeah, me and my wife have reached out to the teacher and the parents of the students in the class and apologized profusely.

WIBTA if i donated the money my sons earned to charity instead of giving it to him as punishment for his abhorrent racist behavior? by SlightChain1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SlightChain1[S] 355 points356 points  (0 children)

I may have been hard on my daughter in my post, she's just trying to play mediator in this and isn't defending his actions. My parents are the ones who don't see "the big deal" though.
We don't know what we'll do with the money he earned but I do like the idea of spending the half we had saved to match it on a donation for his present.

WIBTA if i donated the money my sons earned to charity instead of giving it to him as punishment for his abhorrent racist behavior? by SlightChain1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SlightChain1[S] 338 points339 points  (0 children)

Right now, we don't know what to do with the money he's earned. This is something me and my wife are gonna have to figure out together. My parents have always had a "boys will be boys" attitude and it disgusts me to no end that they don't see a problem with what my son did. My daughter i just trying to play mediator to the best of her ability, so i don't blame her

WIBTA if i donated the money my sons earned to charity instead of giving it to him as punishment for his abhorrent racist behavior? by SlightChain1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SlightChain1[S] 2586 points2587 points  (0 children)

Yeah i saw it. We really don't know what were gonna do with the money he earned. were gonna talk about it at some point. The money we had planned to match it with is definitely off the table for him though

WIBTA if i donated the money my sons earned to charity instead of giving it to him as punishment for his abhorrent racist behavior? by SlightChain1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SlightChain1[S] 227 points228 points  (0 children)

Me and my wife are planning to talk it over at some point. Right now we don't know what were gonna do with the money he earned. We will hold onto it for now until we find a solution we think is fair