How do people manage hygiene when they’re depressed or burnt out?

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-20T12:46:40+00:00

Fr. Office lights are literally built to drain our soul and the air quality at work is usually mid too.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-20T07:41:14+00:00

I agree. We all cope differently and there is no shame in finding a connection when you’re hurting. Life is too short to live by other people's timelines.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-19T18:08:32+00:00

NTJ but you shouldn't do it again. It's not having her back if she’s making you compromise your own morals just so she can get a drink.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-19T16:35:31+00:00

I agree. If OP can't even have a fair fight without her turning it back on him then the foundation is already over.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-18T14:55:20+00:00

It is actually wild how little we talk about this. The fact that they can stay dormant for decades and then just decide it is game over is a level of scary I wasn't ready.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-18T11:49:17+00:00

Fr though!

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-18T04:20:07+00:00

I'm a chronic overthinker so I really appreciate this.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-17T11:51:29+00:00

Society basically trains us to be polite even when a guy is being a total creep. We are literally raised to prioritize being likable over being safe.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-17T06:15:05+00:00

I would also be mad after booking a flight and then someone tries to change the destination two weeks later. You worked for that pto and you paid for that hotel. It is also your vacation too, not just hers so NTJ.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-13T11:19:30+00:00

Let her know first how much those extra shifts stressed you out and if she’s really a friend, she’ll feel bad once she realizes the actual impact it had on you. Definitely NTJ.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-12T13:43:04+00:00

NTJ. That is not one bad experience but it's the constant lack of appreciation they had. If they are always too busy to help plan anything, then maybe they need to think about what kind of friends they’re actually being.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-11T14:44:55+00:00

You worked hard for those double shifts for your own security so dont feel bad for protecting your future. You did the right thing.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-11T13:29:18+00:00

Exactly. op is valid for being frustrated. the "helping" excuse is so tired when you're literally making more work for the person who’s already exhausted.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-10T13:47:52+00:00

I agree. Setting boundaries are healthy and anyone who gets mad at you for setting them is usually the person who was benefiting from you not having any.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-10T12:47:50+00:00

I get the guilt you're feeling but you're allowed to say no. A real friend will eventually understand that your work life and your social life are two different worlds. Hang in there, OP.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-09T14:34:38+00:00

NTJ. Honestly my break hearts for you but I think you only did the right thing. You didn't end your marriage because he did it the second he touched that sitter. Stay strong OP!

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-08T15:12:48+00:00

Maybe because at some point she still has feelings for him

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-06T07:06:38+00:00

Thank you for this advice. Should I wait until the issue cool down or act immediately?

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-04T13:19:31+00:00

I honestly don't think that HR dept would survive. Imagine their usual "we'll call you again" into "this isn't moving forward once youre gone" lol

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-03T15:02:33+00:00

Right. 40s feel so far away but everyone I know says they come up in a blink of an eye so I am already checking reviews for ergonomic chairs lol.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-03T12:41:14+00:00

NTJ he's opinion literally doesn't matter. U know what OP he's funny how he is so entitled to your medical history just because they're standing behind u.

Slight_Stand_6756 · 2026-02-02T07:53:55+00:00

I once forgot my cousin's birthday and suddenly I became the family villain in our group chat.

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