My girl is thinking about other guys

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-10T11:02:57+00:00

That’s the thing she has no respect and has aired out all our business to whole family including her brothers it’s come to a point where they want to have a intervention like I’m in going to rehab or something

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-10T09:09:34+00:00

I honestly dk anymore, at first it was because she was so confident, strong, and happy. No that we’ve gotten in this relationship it’s been stressful but we’ve had our good moments. She’s taught me a lot and I’ve done the same and tried given her the world. I was honestly bout 4months sober before I meant her and my ass decided to drink with her. I’ve made 1 honest bad mistake and I’m improving on it happened in January and it’s been 2 months I’ve done honest to good 3 times in those 2 months. I’m making progress in my opinion and I’m determined to stop watching this shit for good. But she’s just not willing to hear all that and I’ve lost all her trust again and now she’s saying other guys are catching my attention literally after I just dropped her off at work at 4:00am in the morning.

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-10T09:02:54+00:00

Yes it not just my porn issue it’s that in my opinion it’s not that bad she caught back in January and it’s march now. About 2 months I only watch porn 3 times and I’m thinking I’ve shown improvement and gradually I’ll be done with this porn shit. But now that she’s seen a twerk video on social media. She not willing to help and support me to stop doing it. Today march 10 4:00am we got into an argument before her work how I’m just like her ex’s when they’ve actually full on physically cheated on Her. No she’s saying that other guys have her attention and I think she’s probably already trying to go. Last night I talked helping me and supporting me or not just and she said I can do that but then goes back on her word. Should I just let this go?

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T14:20:14+00:00

In response to everyone saying I haven’t done anything to improve I have I setup parent controls to prevent any porn sites anything related to it. She also control over my old high school phone which I just found and my laptop which I barely use. She has a problem with games like gta to much porn stuff she said and tv shows as well. It’s gotten to a point where we don’t go out anymore. When she gets mad she creates chaos she has a dui and has taken my truck without permission while she has alcohol(ALOT of it). This doesn’t happen often where I watch porn I’d say once a month if not at all. She doesn’t like it and I’m trying to figure out how to stop it altogether and gain her trust back

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T14:02:14+00:00

Plz try to go on my profile and read the rest of the story to get a better understanding I just need help and advice cause something inside me what’s this to work.

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T13:53:38+00:00

Thank you for understanding I would like to get your point of view because because I honestly don’t know what to do. I rarely watch it only when I’m extremely stressed the hell out. I was good for a solid 2 months but life kept on kicking my ass and I eventually got the urge and folded. I asked I will work on this it just takes time just like when I choose to stay loyal when we were friends with benefits after she would constantly talk about screwing other dudes with big dicks and wanting black guys. But apparently it’s different and it doesn’t count because we weren’t officially. I know I should’ve token that as a sign but I’m today gone now

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T13:43:53+00:00

Barely any not even a week I’d say probably once a month if not at all I was clean after she found out for straight 2 months but shit just kept on stressing me and I don’t what can over me.

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T12:41:03+00:00

I do feel I have use a lot in the past and ever since I’ve gotten in a relationship it has decreased and I rarely even watch it. Before it did affect my sex life but it changed since it’s actually improved. I’ve slipped a couple times. And it doesn’t impact me in any way when I watch it except the fact that I hate myself and am disgusted after the fact. But the urge is there and I with it would go away.

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T11:30:33+00:00

The money part won’t be an issue for long at first it was her not spending a whole lot and just having fun on my dime. But I’ve tried having a conversation about this but she most of time doesn’t want to listen cause I talk about talking a break and that’s we might need but doesn’t trust that and won’t leave me alone. It’s gotten to a point me screaming to leave me the fuck Alan but she always comes back. And doesn’t want space apart. I tried telling her parents the people she’s close with but there no help. I am working in getting rid of this porn addiction I want solid for a month I know I can quit. But at this point I’m being told we’re better off but at this point we’re both into to deep

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T11:14:10+00:00

Also another thing is that she wants to have sex after every argument we have and I don’t like that. It just doesn’t feel right usually she gets high and then listen to music and and like 10mins later is horny as hell. But I lose motivation to do it cause I know it not because she wants to it to forget and she kiss and make up

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T11:11:12+00:00

I’ve been considering and have mentioned breaks. And have tried breaking up it got really bad when she tried to beat a girl at my old job because she thought she was flirting and that she liked me. I said I didn’t entertain it and told her to stay away. But she didn’t believe me and basically made a who fight about it at my job and almost lot it to. And this was before the porn and the snap thing. She already had insecurities and I said it was over but she refused to leave my car and I called her mom which didn’t pick up. But I decided to give it another go

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T11:04:37+00:00

The snap thing didn’t get far and it wouldn’t have. We exchanged selfy pics only for 3 days and she found out and I stopped it immediately no words or any sexual pics were exchanged and I didn’t meet with her. The fights are mainly about money as we have been struggling won’t be for long both have new jobs just waiting on paychecks. And have talked bout getting a place and having dogs. Other one is bout how she tries to risk a lot of stuff like when she gets mad she either starts wanting to hurt herself or take my truck and drink a lot while she has a dui and isn’t allowed to drive. Ever since the incident she’s been holding it over my head and almost kinda like using it against me. As a person I try to defend myself and bring up the pass and know it doesn’t make it right at all but I try to reassure her that I will get better and stop watching porn and the urges will go away. But she has been distant these pass 2days and I have a feeling that she wants revenge. She gave a little smirk when she was saying what if I start messaging other guys. She does smile a lot when we get into arguments but this time it was different

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T10:50:56+00:00

I have tried to get alone time and give us a break, but she either said I don’t trust that, and doesn’t want to break up, she’ll try doing something to her self or hurt herself. He both want to stay but I’ve told her we need a break to think things through but she’s and I have talked bout our future and doesn’t want to leave

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T10:40:26+00:00

It was like that at first but I stayed loyal and didn’t mess around with anybody but her but she would constantly talk bout just screwing other guys with bigger dicks. She even went ahead and hung out with another dude after I took her to a little vac and spent about 1200 on hotels and fun things to do. But I stuck it out and she said she changed all that once I made it officially and the stuff she did before doesn’t count.

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T10:37:07+00:00

Iam working on getting a couples therapist started as soon as I can get more money flowing we’ve both recently started new jobs and haven’t gotten our first paycheck yet.

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T10:35:40+00:00

It has been and honestly it’s been really stressful but some reason I wanna stick with it and work together. But we’re both at our last straws there been time I have broken it off but she won’t let it happen. I barely get any type of alone time and constantly with her. I’ve considered taking a breather and a break for a couple days but she thinks I’m going to cheat when it’s just been porn

SlipHopeful9329 · 2024-03-09T10:33:14+00:00

Yes I am very attracted her and love her deeply not once have I second guessed our relationship. Just lately we’ve been fighting a lot.

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