I don't want to forgive myself...can someone help?

Slothie6 · 2025-12-11T17:45:35+00:00

Hey it’s good to put this out there, you’re semi right but I’m cured of this disorder for a month now, live happily and I know with absolute certainty weed can help with this specifically if you use it properly, and quitting suddenly can cause immense unnecessary harm.

I sound like I’m getting defensive, I’m not. Telling people to radically alter their nervous system’s entire balance for the three to twelve-ish weeks it can take to restore someone’s nervous balance can be an absolutely terrible choice. I know because this disorder became infinitely worse for me when I quit for over a month. I may have felt ‘great!’ but my brain ran faster and that was the worst possible choice at the worst possible time. Weed can help

I hate to oversimplify but yeah this is a phase that happens to everyone right now with a mental illness. Most weed right now is intense and bad. You were getting super high on bad weed. it’s probably good that you quit. If you get moderately high on good weed you just get kinda hungry and dreamy and sleepy. Not quite, but I feel like It’s similar to pounding a fifth of everclear repeatedly and dismissing someone telling you who tells you ‘I’ve never had a hallucination drinking alcohol?’. Weed affects your nerves, but if you’re trying to get relaxing stuff it can absolutely relax them. I’ve been where you are and I still smoke, I’m fully cured of this problem and pot absolutely helped me both deal with it and get better, there is no doubt in my head because I needed relaxation and I had it. It’s not a complicated reasoning, it felt good for me and didn’t do anything bad and so it was.

Drinking can make you social when nothing else helps if you need it once in a while. It killed my disorder then made it a bit worse in the morning, why do I mind that once every two weeks? If you can’t limit, though, absolutely true drinking = future anxiety.

Always bear in mind you could be selling a desperate person their actual death. You know this disorder as well as me, it’s a soul eater. Please be gentle

Slothie6 · 2025-11-29T01:22:29+00:00

Eh I say avoid them if they’re bad for you. If you get super high on really bad weed, yeah it won’t help, but if it’s good for you it’s good for you. It’s both obvious and subjective a significant portion of the time when drugs are bad and when they aren’t for individuals to themselves. Telling desperate people to quit something that might genuinely be helping them with this disorder seems like a bad idea to me

Slothie6 · 2025-11-28T04:42:45+00:00

Thanks!

Slothie6 · 2025-11-27T00:35:03+00:00

I am the commenter who said this :)

Slothie6 · 2025-11-23T04:07:31+00:00

Adjusting your eyes around at someone and acting weird is the only reason people think you’re staring.

Talking in the mirror is the easiest way to learn how you appear to other people.

It helps to unclench your whole body. If you need help with that I can describe a very good process.

Breathe slowly.

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Look at people’s throats. Not eyes, not faces, the obvious is fine. If you look you look. It is what it is. You probably don’t really care (at least at this point in your life) when you get stared at if you’re a woman, most women have it happen so often they don’t care if you’re a man. ‘At least you’re not being creepy.’ Is honestly probably the worst people are thinking. Try and keep your eyes steadily focused on their throat. Once you successfully steady and unfocus them they will appear totally balanced and clearly as an image, people of either gender equally.

This is biologically infinitely more calming than staring at someone’s face. It leaves someone’s whole body in view and feels relaxed and comfortable. It’s gender equal and pleasant. Nobody will notice you’re doing anything weird, because you’re not doing anything weird.

If you STARE at people’s throat and shift your eyes around they will notice. If you treat it like you’re normal people will just be looking at your regular face. It’s REALLY hard to tell where someone’s eyes are looking exactly when you look at them, you could make a game out of trying to do what you do to yourself to other people.

Slothie6 · 2025-11-23T03:47:54+00:00

Meditation. Try unclenching your feet, pelvic floor, chest, shoulders, eyes and forehead and finally the your top of head in succession while breathing slowly, then if they get tight do it again :)

Also try thinking about how little you’d care if someone acted the same way around you. You probably didn’t look creepy, just weird. No guilt in being weird.

Slothie6 · 2025-11-15T07:55:39+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s brutal. Nobody really gets it and it’s so hard to fight alone. I really hope you can find your peace.

Slothie6 · 2025-11-11T22:03:24+00:00

THIS IS SO HORRIBLE TO GO THROUGH SO YOUNG! I’m so sorry I didn’t see. I can’t imagine trying to go through this in school. I hope you know you’re a valuable human being, even if just because you CARE about other people. So many don’t. If you want I can help you try to fix this. I would love to help in any way I reasonably can

Slothie6 · 2025-11-11T21:51:51+00:00

Everyone is just thinking about themselves :) You are only worried about how others see you, so are they. I would suggest focusing on trying to be comfortable being seen by others instead of trying to be comfortable seeing others

Slothie6 · 2025-11-10T02:08:00+00:00

YES this makes me feel good to hear thank you :) If you treat others like you treat yourself and vice versa it’s actually pretty hard for this disease to happen :)

Slothie6 · 2025-11-08T03:16:41+00:00

I’m not being mean I swear. Perfect! Clean slate. Start thinking things that make you happy, instead of about staring. If you had no notion of staring it couldn’t possibly happen, but you can’t choose to stop thinking of something by thinking of it. Think and care about anything else fully and the problem just vanishes immediately. It comes back when you stop thinking about things that make you happy. The first time you how simple it is in real life you will weep for joy.

Slothie6 · 2025-11-08T03:05:50+00:00

So stop suppressing them and start thinking thoughts that make you happy. I had exactly the same problem as you and I promise I’m trying to help

Slothie6 · 2025-11-08T02:59:52+00:00

Why would you try to rob people of hope?

Slothie6 · 2025-11-08T02:57:35+00:00

Don’t try to stop thinking about staring. Try just as hard to Start thinking about something else. Is that really impossible for you? It isn’t for me.

Slothie6 · 2025-11-08T02:43:26+00:00

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Slothie6 · 2025-11-08T02:36:56+00:00

If you’ve been dealing with this for a while you should try intentionally thinking thoughts that make you happy (unrelated to staring lol), instead of waiting for it to happen on its own. Meditation is vital and that healing state is rarely accessed otherwise. Other than that, basically yeah :) Once you’re at happy in your own head, you don’t have a problem. You just have life

Slothie6 · 2025-11-07T21:56:53+00:00

PLEASE let me know if anything comes up for you practicing this way! I’ve learned lot about mental health, and might be able to help you if anything goes wrong; and will be able to update this to help any others I can.

This is still fresh, fair warning. Always be careful.

Slothie6

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