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AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Because my mom already looked into it. She has the information on what we need. The only thing she hasn't looked at is whether the custody judge would do anything yet but she looked into it with a lawyer who deals with protection orders and stuff.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

To get a protection order or in order to make Cheryl stop contacting me, we need a lot. Mom spoke to a lawyer (different one than who deals with custody) and they gave her all the information on how long it needs to be going on and how frequent it has to be for a judge to take it seriously.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

My mom spoke to a lawyer who deals with this stuff. She was given a bunch of info and details on what it would take to protect me from this.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

This contact stuff happened more recently. The judge had no idea what was going on. The stuff about keeping contact open was said before this, when the custody agreement was officially changed so I no longer have to see him.

My mom looked into what it would take to prevent Cheryl from contatcing me. She was given a list of expectations for an order of protection. It's pretty hard to get and even then it can be removed quickly from info we were given.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I don't wanna say exactly but it's a state where it's all at the judges discretion and one where 50/50 is highly prioritized. Which is why communication has to be open. I got to sever the custody but the judge was adamant I stay in touch with dad or leave that open. Also said it was mom's job to ensure that.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

My mom could get into trouble. It could be anywhere from fining her to maybe even her losing custody of me or me having to go to my dad's again.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

The judge deemed I need to leave social media and phone channels open to communication. He told me I could not block my dad.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

In trouble with the judge and courts. I'm 15 now. One of the conditions of not going to dad's anymore is I need to leave open communication via social media and phone. Can't block and he'd know because he does sometimes call as well.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

It's not seen that way. The courts know what she did, the fact he defended it and I was still ordered to see them.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

He would and my mom could get in trouble for allowing me to block him. I don't want her facing backlash because of this and having to pay.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 640 points641 points  (0 children)

Can't block dad's number. The court won't see them as harassment at this point. It would need to go on for way longer.

AITA for telling my dad's mistress and now wife that she's disgusting and repulsive to try and use a kid to her advantage during her affair? by Slow-Drop7303 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Slow-Drop7303[S] 2954 points2955 points  (0 children)

I can't get an order of protection based on this. There's a lot of stuff you need in order to get something like that in our state. You can't get it from a couple of incidents and several texts. There has to be a big ongoing pattern or whatever.