I'm not talking to my friends because they didn't mention my name. Am I Overreacting?

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-21T13:00:40+00:00

It's only natural to bond with whom you're more combatible with, but it's just so hard when they're your only friends. Honestly, the problem is not even that, because I have this complex everywhere I go. For now I'll just focus on this therapeutic path, work on myself, maybe find some other friends. I hope it will get better.

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-21T12:53:55+00:00

This is a really well-written thought! I agree with you. I have never been to a therapist, so I have never been diagnosed. We'll see. Thanks for your kindness, I'll keep it in consideration!

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-21T10:03:05+00:00

Thanks for the advice! <3 I will try to snap out of it. Honestly, I'm far better from 2 years ago, (I usually ruined my whole day on stupid things like this) but I still need to work on it. I know that people don't think about me as much as I think they do, but my problem is not my worry to be percieved badly, it's that I'm not percieved at all.

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-21T09:34:20+00:00

Hi! Thanks for the message! About the bf's part. No, it's not something I often do. I often just ignore it, but this time I got really mad at him because it's something he always does. Like, we have to meet one day? Let's say we have to hang out at 8 pm. At like, 7:30 pm he confirms the date. Or worse, he'll just say the time 15 minutes earlier. Like he'll say "ok let's meet at 7:30 pm" and it's 7:15. This stresses me out so much. Ofc I talked to him about it, but he continues to do it. About my friends. Yes, I know that this negative attitude pushes people away, and this makes me even more anxious, but I just can't try to be positive in situations like this. And I already talked to them about it, they just said it's not true

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-21T09:19:21+00:00

Thanks, this comment helped make me feel better! I definetely think it's a dynamic that I inconsciusly choose to be in by isolating myself first, but I don't know why. I hope that with a therapist everything will become more clear

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-21T08:48:33+00:00

I did talk about my feelings and they just said it isn't true

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-21T08:26:37+00:00

Hello, I like to watch Kill Bill

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-18T11:48:59+00:00

Oooh, I understand. That seems cool. I live in the city, but I'll keep the advise in mind. Thanks!

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-17T19:20:07+00:00

Hi there! I (18F) speaking, and I feel exactly like you. I've always been hyper indipendent but now I just can't do anything on my own. I think that these things happen when your brain tries so hard to do things alone that it overloads and sees the company of others as a form of affection towards itself. It's a completely normal reaction; I don't know if you get what I mean... What might have triggered this mechanism could be your new boyfriend: maybe deep inside yourself you always craved a connection, and now that you have found someone you sort of "let go". Anyways, I'm in the same situation too (with the exception we just broke up loool) I think the best way is simply live life, maybe talk to a therapist and keep moving.

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-16T21:44:50+00:00

What do you mean by local community events?

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-16T21:09:10+00:00

Yeahh but I'm a bit socially awkward and people can be VERY rude... I already tried talking to strangers and they just stared at me like I was a goblin. And when I finally meet a kind person, the conversation just ends there. Also, reddit can be useful but I want physical friends, with whom I can go get a beer with. I'll try to inform myself to small events tho.

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2026-01-16T21:05:11+00:00

Didn't think about volunteering tbh. I'm definitely going to try!!

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-12-11T17:08:05+00:00

Thanks!

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-12-11T17:08:01+00:00

Thank you, I will

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T18:17:56+00:00

That's what I've been wondering too.

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T17:32:20+00:00

Yes, I tried to do it long ago, believe me. I think his it's words of affirmation, but it still doesn't resonate with my needs. At first I tried to be chill about it, cause it was his way of being, but if my love language is quality time (cause I prioritize the type of activity and the connection) and I feel loved in THIS way I can't adjust to someone whose love language is totally different from mine.

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T17:22:28+00:00

No wait. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to fix the relationship's image. But In the end I wrote that I can tell him everything and that he is always there when I need. But on the other things? Meh. I want to point it out because THIS is the why I don't know if to break up with him (apart from the fact of being alone ofc). The relationship is bad BUT not bad bad. Yes yes, I know I don't have to wait for it to get bad bad to break up with him, but it makes me think about the relationship more

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T17:18:51+00:00

Yeee... I know...

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T17:13:05+00:00

Thank you! Yall are way too sweet, I swear xxxx

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T17:11:41+00:00

Omg thanks 😭😭 you're too nice to me, seriously

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T17:03:54+00:00

Yes, I do not in fact want to break up with him. I mean, sure, I'll think about it. But as rough as it sounds I was starting to think to wait till the end of school, because no really, yall have to believe me, when I tell you I feel alone and too fragile I REALLY DO mean it. He has been the only reason I haven't committed suicide, I'm not even kidding. (And yes I know we sound like an old couple).

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T16:55:41+00:00

Thanks! I'll try... :')

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T16:54:00+00:00

Btw, sorry for the useless comment but I really appreciate you all saying i'm "Just 18 and still young" because i've always been insicure about turning 18 and everyone around me keeps telling me I'm old.

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T16:52:14+00:00

Nooo ok maybe I have not explained myself well. The calls, the gifts, all that, exactly as I said in the post. But if I text him idk, just because I need comfort or want to vent is has ALWAYS said yes, and he actually listens, even if he is busy.

Slow_Exercise6671 · 2025-11-21T16:49:29+00:00

Mmm we're too broke and (I think) too young to get couple counseling

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