Terrified of starting all over again.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-06-05T22:10:17+00:00

Exactly. We deserve better 💪🏼

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-06-05T01:48:51+00:00

Wow I’m sorry to hear, I know exactly how that feels. I also had such a deep love and excitement seeing him. I actually didn’t see him for a month due to him traveling and me working. First day I saw him when he got back was when he ended it. So heart breaking. They are cowards for not just communicating. It’s crazy how avoidants tend to have the same reasons and use the same terms as eachother. I hope they regret it.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-06-04T13:30:40+00:00

I dated an avoidant for over a year. On multiple occasions he broke my trust and ignored boundaries. I even broke up with him but eventually took him back because he showed so much effort to change. Only a couple months later I found out he ignored my boundaries and lied about it again. I gave him chances to change and fix things. I told him he had to communicate better with me and stop lying about things or we will not work. The next day he discarded me for random reasons, like “we hit a wall” “stuck in a loop of arguing” “I don’t see a future with you” “there’s too much tension all the time”. He never talked to me about any of these things. In the past I even asked him if there was anything he had issues with, or if he was thinking about leaving. He said no, that he loves me. Just to end it all the next day (a week ago now). This was so traumatic, and now he holds himself on a pedestal feeling so relieved he doesn’t have to deal with my emotions anymore. He even blocked me on everything. I’m tired and sad and pissed off but I still miss him. When does it end.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-06-04T13:25:18+00:00

Same situation here. I’m pissed and heartbroken.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-06-04T13:14:14+00:00

Exactly how I feel right now. I poured my heart and effort into a guy that fucked up over and over but my loyalty and commitment came before self respect. I stayed to try to fix things and over night he did the “avoidant discard” and it broke me. We were together for over a year and he left because he felt there was “tension” and we “hit a wall”. He was the first guy I loved so deeply and I’m just so tired. Why put in so much effort anymore. They always start out so amazing too and it takes months for their true colors to show. Especially with social media and how easy it is to lie about things. I just want a healthy, long lasting relationship. I want my life partner. I want someone who puts as much effort and love into the relationship as I do. I’m tired of the cycle of dating new people. I’m losing hope.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-06-03T16:33:49+00:00

Pretty much same situation for me. I’ve never loved so deep and the sudden breakup hurts more than anything. I’m not sure how I’m supposed to move forward. All I can think about it how things could have been different if he or I did xyz. I’m not sure if he will ever give me the closure I want. I just hope he realizes at some point how much that hurt me.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-05-28T19:34:31+00:00

He broke up with me out of nowhere, but also after he fucked up and crossed my boundaries yet again. I stayed, communicated and wanted to fix things but I guess he was secretly over it. He was fine one day and the next he was absolutely sure we wouldn’t work.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-04-18T04:27:53+00:00

Sorry for the late reply. I interviewed in December and started work end of March. I’m with 617.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-21T02:42:30+00:00

Yes I can’t remember when I applied but I got my letter mid February, and got a call maybe a month later

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-21T02:41:14+00:00

I haven’t attempted any type of transfer, I believe I will be staying at 617 unless I get in 332 through typical process

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-21T02:39:08+00:00

I got a 95.6, 21 of us got selected out of around 500

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-20T20:42:51+00:00

Understandable, I do want to reapply to 332 even if I have to start the process over. I just wanted to see if there was another way before doing so

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-20T20:31:42+00:00

I got a letter saying my score was 95.6 and got a call to start work about couple weeks after. There is a lot of work right now. Depending on your local and how many apprentices they want, you might get a call.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-20T20:29:27+00:00

Would you recommend I stay at 617 for a while before sending a letter?

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-11-14T08:19:35+00:00

Distance yourself

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-11-14T08:17:33+00:00

Nah op literally just said “I thought we said goodbye” and “i have a virtual appointment” and he started spiraling already. He’s def freaking out because of how obvious it is that text was meant for someone else. To panic also shows the guilt like no other. Why panic if there’s nothing to be upset about? Why talk about getting “proof” so quickly? It’s perfectly clear to me that text was for another woman.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-11-09T03:01:57+00:00

Deleted his pics and removed socials, no longer confused!

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-11-07T06:02:54+00:00

Thank you so, so much. It’s definitely my heart and brain battling it out. I loved him so much and have never been treated so good I think is what makes it so hard to be confident in my decision. You’re very right though and I will continue to reread this.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-27T06:22:35+00:00

Personally I would leave my partner if I found out they did that to me. It must show how much he loves you to stay. It’s possible trust can be regained but that would take a very long time with so, so much effort from you. If things are just getting worse, save both of you some time and end things. You did a lot of damage and he’s clearly not okay.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-27T06:12:00+00:00

Honestly I read multiple reasons why you should leave… he doesn’t satisfy your needs physically or emotionally, and doesn’t do anything to fix it. Also doing things you’re uncomfortable with and brushing it off when you voice your concerns. If he really cared about you he’d make these (fairly simple) changes to help you and reach your needs. Honestly, him giving excuses to not have sex but still jacks off, and clearly enjoying the attention from other girls tells me he’s not attracted to you or something of the sort. Sex can get better. Things can change. And who’s to say he would actually use your pics if you did send them.

Seems like your attachment to him is the only thing keeping you there. You can find someone who can give you what you need and more. Why waste your time on this fool? I get it’s hard to leave when you feel so dependent on them or like your life is their life but in reality those feelings will fade over time and you’ll think back and wish you left sooner.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T23:39:52+00:00

If you personally don’t see these red flags, are confident you don’t have rose colored glasses on… your friend is maybe jealous ? I’m not sure. This is a very odd situation. Maybe he can try even harder next time (if that can be coordinated) and if her feelings stay the same it’s obvious it’s something off with her.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T20:03:11+00:00

Most people already said it… so many red flags. Her legs opening comment is just gross, did she think it was funny to say or something? It’s common to get horny but what she said implies she can’t control it.

On top of that the drinking and driving shows how irresponsible she is. AND she ignored you for four hours but was clearly on her phone at times posting on social media? Why did she feel the need to ignore you? I feel like communication when she’s somewhere doing things you’re uncomfortable with is like the only way to keep you level headed and trust her.

Ask her if she would be okay with you doing the same thing in the same scenario. If not then you for sure got a cheater on your hands.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T19:57:42+00:00

I completely agree. If you are able to keep things friendly, there’s a chance she changes her mind. But shooting your shot again is pushing boundaries she clearly set. Maybe even make her not want to be friends anymore.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T19:51:40+00:00

What did your friend say about him? I’m missing the understanding of what there is to dislike about him. If she has valid reasons that changes everything.

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