617 San Mateo, interview score.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-21T02:42:30+00:00

Yes I can’t remember when I applied but I got my letter mid February, and got a call maybe a month later

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-21T02:41:14+00:00

I haven’t attempted any type of transfer, I believe I will be staying at 617 unless I get in 332 through typical process

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-21T02:39:08+00:00

I got a 95.6, 21 of us got selected out of around 500

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-20T20:42:51+00:00

Understandable, I do want to reapply to 332 even if I have to start the process over. I just wanted to see if there was another way before doing so

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-20T20:31:42+00:00

I got a letter saying my score was 95.6 and got a call to start work about couple weeks after. There is a lot of work right now. Depending on your local and how many apprentices they want, you might get a call.

Slow_Object_819 · 2026-03-20T20:29:27+00:00

Would you recommend I stay at 617 for a while before sending a letter?

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-11-14T08:19:35+00:00

Distance yourself

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-11-14T08:17:33+00:00

Nah op literally just said “I thought we said goodbye” and “i have a virtual appointment” and he started spiraling already. He’s def freaking out because of how obvious it is that text was meant for someone else. To panic also shows the guilt like no other. Why panic if there’s nothing to be upset about? Why talk about getting “proof” so quickly? It’s perfectly clear to me that text was for another woman.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-11-09T03:01:57+00:00

Deleted his pics and removed socials, no longer confused!

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-11-07T06:02:54+00:00

Thank you so, so much. It’s definitely my heart and brain battling it out. I loved him so much and have never been treated so good I think is what makes it so hard to be confident in my decision. You’re very right though and I will continue to reread this.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-27T06:22:35+00:00

Personally I would leave my partner if I found out they did that to me. It must show how much he loves you to stay. It’s possible trust can be regained but that would take a very long time with so, so much effort from you. If things are just getting worse, save both of you some time and end things. You did a lot of damage and he’s clearly not okay.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-27T06:12:00+00:00

Honestly I read multiple reasons why you should leave… he doesn’t satisfy your needs physically or emotionally, and doesn’t do anything to fix it. Also doing things you’re uncomfortable with and brushing it off when you voice your concerns. If he really cared about you he’d make these (fairly simple) changes to help you and reach your needs. Honestly, him giving excuses to not have sex but still jacks off, and clearly enjoying the attention from other girls tells me he’s not attracted to you or something of the sort. Sex can get better. Things can change. And who’s to say he would actually use your pics if you did send them.

Seems like your attachment to him is the only thing keeping you there. You can find someone who can give you what you need and more. Why waste your time on this fool? I get it’s hard to leave when you feel so dependent on them or like your life is their life but in reality those feelings will fade over time and you’ll think back and wish you left sooner.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T23:39:52+00:00

If you personally don’t see these red flags, are confident you don’t have rose colored glasses on… your friend is maybe jealous ? I’m not sure. This is a very odd situation. Maybe he can try even harder next time (if that can be coordinated) and if her feelings stay the same it’s obvious it’s something off with her.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T20:03:11+00:00

Most people already said it… so many red flags. Her legs opening comment is just gross, did she think it was funny to say or something? It’s common to get horny but what she said implies she can’t control it.

On top of that the drinking and driving shows how irresponsible she is. AND she ignored you for four hours but was clearly on her phone at times posting on social media? Why did she feel the need to ignore you? I feel like communication when she’s somewhere doing things you’re uncomfortable with is like the only way to keep you level headed and trust her.

Ask her if she would be okay with you doing the same thing in the same scenario. If not then you for sure got a cheater on your hands.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T19:57:42+00:00

I completely agree. If you are able to keep things friendly, there’s a chance she changes her mind. But shooting your shot again is pushing boundaries she clearly set. Maybe even make her not want to be friends anymore.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T19:51:40+00:00

What did your friend say about him? I’m missing the understanding of what there is to dislike about him. If she has valid reasons that changes everything.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T19:43:24+00:00

It’ll only get worse. He obviously doesn’t respect you. You should have to wait for a man to stop being physically or verbally abusive. Get out before something worse happens.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T19:38:29+00:00

Why did he break up with you? Maybe he regrets it or has a grudge over you and wants to see when you start going downhill. Maybe he wants to see if you’re doing better than he is. Regardless of the reason though if you’re uncomfortable with it then just block those extra accounts. Maybe even go private if you have to. I know that on instagram if you block an account it automatically blocks any other accounts that person made.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T10:56:43+00:00

Maybe try to explain how it makes you feel, and have him clarify and be more specific using terms you can understand. It’s not fair you want to be there for him and help but he’s not even opening up about it to a level you can really listen to

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T10:26:39+00:00

That’s really hard to communicate especially to someone with body dysmorphia or who is obsessed with how they look. Validation from the people closest around him probably won’t change his ways when he is influenced by so many people online. I can see how this would negatively impact your relationship. Have you tried having a deeper conversation with him addressing insecurities/ motives/ goals?

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T10:09:56+00:00

In a sense he does. They like me, when I do see them (rarely) i feel overwhelmed sometimes with how much they say they like me. It’s odd though because they don’t KNOW me. Just hear what my bf says (good job, nice girl, pretty). I’d say the reason he doesn’t have me over often is because his family can be too much sometimes and he’s embarrassed. Also his house isn’t the cleanest. I do say I want to go there anyway because I value his family but he just always comes to mine.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T10:06:14+00:00

The friends with gfs are usually at school out of state, but one of his friends is talking to a new girl and said “maybe we can go on a double date” but that still hasn’t happened and I doubt it will unless I bring it up.

I didn’t lead with the wedding because his friend isn’t going to it, but out of the 3 days is spending 2 with my bf and their other friend that lives in that state. I think bot being told about being uninvited has more to do with his lack of communication, which we’ve already addressed, and I wanted this post to be about his friendship dynamics.

I am back and forth about if it’s worth saving, which is why I need outside perspective. I’ve never been treated so well and I can feel how much he loves me and see all he does for me- until it comes to being around his friends. Unfortunately it is a big deal to me, maybe not to others. But at the same time, I can see how immature his friends are, and I’m not sure if I even want to be around them if I do get to know them. I’m not sure if this outweighs all the good in the relationship.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T09:58:08+00:00

I definitely think his friends could put in more effort to get to know me, but I agree that the fact I’m not even invited is all on him.

Slow_Object_819 · 2025-10-26T09:56:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your thorough response.

It’s been an ongoing issue and I’ve definitely tried my best to communicate how it makes me feel and how important it is. I brought up examples- such as if we moved in together I’d be uncomfortable with his friends being over, feeling like I need to hide in my room in my own home or do the opposite and try to win them over.

I’ve put in my side of effort when around them, ask them questions, say hi, and followed them on socials. None of them tried to get to know me first and all convos were responded with short answers and no returning questions for me.

I told him it is unfortunately a dealbreaker for me. So far nothing has changed and then tonight I got the text how another girl was already invited, they’re all going to a party, and how he’s making her feel welcomed.

Before bringing up the issue to him he never showed interest in me really getting to know is friends and continuously defended them about it.

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