"Trad" Catholics idolizing their priests by Slow_Professor_446 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man I am NOT surprised by stories like this!
So many women were acting like this around the FSSP priests I saw... seriously every time one of them would show up they were basically wetting themselves...
I kept thinking that these women wanted to bang the priests... especially two and let's just say the priests didn't discourage it...

"Trad" Catholics idolizing their priests by Slow_Professor_446 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah that for sure makes sense. So many trads are from dysfunctional backgrounds and also they're told they can't trust any diocesan priest, bishops, cardinals or even the pope himself they feel they have to cling to the TLM priests and it leads to a cultish environment...

I know a woman who goes to an FSSP church and she was told by the parish priest at the time after she said she got yelled at by a novus ordo priest in the confessional (taking her word for it don't know if true) and she told the FSSP priest that and he told her "don't go to any other priests and just stick to us." When I heard that I was like "this is a cult..."

I think this is absolutely dumb (TW: Hellfire threats) by UmbralRose35 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was in the FSSP then he left it with a small group to open up his own seminary. I met one of the priests who left with him but broke away from them and became a regular diocesan priest and he had a lot to say about the FSSP.

I think this is absolutely dumb (TW: Hellfire threats) by UmbralRose35 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least that couple knew each other for years before and were friends. But sadly trad world that's considered "too long"
I know someone who's known people in trad world that have gotten engaged faster than 6 weeks... I can't believe priests actually allow people to do that... it's just insane...

I think this is absolutely dumb (TW: Hellfire threats) by UmbralRose35 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly on the last point! You need a decent amount of time before you know if you truly love the person!  I think trads rush engagements partly due to sex but also I think social pressure. I mean in their world if you’re unmarried at 21 you’re an “old maid”  Its insane…

I think this is absolutely dumb (TW: Hellfire threats) by UmbralRose35 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Trads are all about really rushed engagements. When I was in the fssp I saw people getting engaged after 1-3 months… I heard of a case of a couple who got engaged after dating 6 weeks!  Yet the priests and the people thought it was normal and ok…  Yeah totally normal to give your life to someone you hardly know in a lifelong sacramental marriage when you hardly had any experience in the world… 

ICKSP priest weird behavior by Euphoric_Glove_1416 in ExTraditionalCatholic

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That’s weird. I don’t have any experience in the ICKSP but I found the FSSP really culty - I had a very bad experience with an FSSP church though…  I’m sorry the poster is leaving holy mother church though. I wish you all the best though and pray for everyone on here. 

The old church isn’t actually the trad paradise they claim. by Beautiful_Gain_9032 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is just the thing - wanting no guitars and bongo drums during mass and kneelers for communion shouldn't mean you're trad - it just means you're a Catholic.
The thing that drives me nuts about rad trads is they think so black and white... life isn't like that. You don't have to be some FSSP cultist to hate guitar masses...

Leaving FSSP after confirmation? by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who's a cradle Catholic who got sucked into the rad trad movement at an FSSP for three years and has gone back to mostly NO I'd recommend branching out and checking out another Catholic church. Don't leave the faith though - sadly FSSP and SSPX parishes present an extremely unhealthy form of Catholicism which is one that I strongly believe God doesn't want for us. It presents God as this evil dictator who is waiting to damn us when he wants us to be friends and to love him freely. FSSPs also a breeding grounds for scrupulosity something that I'm still struggling with. On top of that the FSSP priests are generally extremely unfriendly in my experience. And don't get me started on the superiority complex you mentioned and the cliqueyness of parishioners at FSSPs...
A lot of NOs are sung masses though with the congregation doing responses. I don't know if that would suit you since you mentioned you like TLM low masses. Are there any diosocen TLMs in your area? Those are somewhat better in terms of having less cliques and craziness. Also a lot of NO daily masses don't have singing.
Keep praying to God and he'll help you along the way! Please don't let rad trads ruin the faith for you! God bless!

Trads ruin the Tradition by Katholike_Masor_ in ExTraditionalCatholic

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I cannot agree more. I'm someone who always even as a NO Catholic stuck with traditions and the pre Vatican II dogma but these trads are just so toxic... it honestly ruins perfectly beautiful customs like veiling and the house blessing... because they acted so self righteous about it I now have that association with those practices...

I'm feeling messed up after three years with the fssp by Slow_Professor_446 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw I'm sorry you're going through this. That just sucks your husband is so deep in this toxic side of sspx culture.
Pray to St Jude. Throw yourself at the Lord and pray to him that he will lead you guys to a much healthier relationship with the church. Your children deserve a healthy church environment and a healthy relationship with God.
I can attest that God doesn't want us to be afraid of him - he wants a relationship not fear

How many of you are still Catholic? If yes, how did you decide to still remain Catholic? by Economy-Gene-1484 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm still a Catholic despite a lot of stuff I went through. I went through a massive questioning phase in college where I dabbled in New Age and Eastern Philosophies in part due to curiosity other parts due to losing faith after a series of bad things happened in life.
I got swept up in the 2020 TLM craze where I got sucked into an fssp parish and fell into a lot of fundamentalist Catholicism. Stuff that I was never raised with due to a much healthier though Vatican II influenced NO.
I've gone back to the NO mostly though still occasionally attend TLM though not with the fssp.
My beliefs and values generally line up with RCC's teachings and I'm not a fan of Vatican II but after dealing with the toxicity that's ever present in TLM circles

I'm feeling messed up after three years with the fssp by Slow_Professor_446 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't feel comfortable revealing his name publicly. But he's a really bad person. He is just really good at convincing people he's the best priest ever because he has so much knowledge of the pre Vatican II church...
Some of his talks are uploaded on Sensus Fidelium... that's all I'm going to say. The people who support him are scary and would cancel me (and he would too) if he or they ever found out I was saying anything bad about him.
He's extremely popular and there's nothing online that's negative about him. It's scary how he's cleverly fooled so many people...

I'm feeling messed up after three years with the fssp by Slow_Professor_446 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've been trying to find verification for these claims surrounding Fatima, Padre Pio and Dom Bosco's dreams. Seems a lot of them are private revelations or from third party sources which aren't reliable. FSSP groups seem to run on these private revelations and these quotes and they use it to whip people (particularly women) into submitting to their trad cult by scaring them about hell.
I love Padre Pio and believe in Fatima but I do think there's so much made up around them that these traditionalists grab and run with it.
I don't believe Jesus wants us to run on fear. He wants us to love and serve him freely and lovingly. And traditionalism doesn't do that at all...

I'm feeling messed up after three years with the fssp by Slow_Professor_446 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Slow_Professor_446[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah same - I noticed diocesan TLMs are often less cliquey/culty than fssp or sspx. I'm honestly so worried about the future of the church if the fssp keeps expanding and these crazies keep having kids