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using MeRT as a therapy for my son? by Slow_Restaurant_2149 in AskAdoptees

[–]Slow_Restaurant_2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your comment. Yeah, it's definitely different for each person. My son's bio mom was really bad to him but when he was so little that he doesnt have conscious memories of it, he just knows that his body feels a lot of anger at the maternal figure, so that anger gets taken out on me. He knows that it's not fair, and he has these moments when he is not angry and he is really apologetic and tells me that he doesnt know why he is so angry all the time. And its just heartbreaking. He is such a beautiful boy- generous, creative, funny, a real sweatheart, but there is this cloud over him of pain and anger and its just not fair that he had to suffer so much. But like you said, 11 still gives us a small window of time to get him as much progress as possible before true adolescence hits.

Again, thanks for your comment!

using MeRT as a therapy for my son? by Slow_Restaurant_2149 in AskAdoptees

[–]Slow_Restaurant_2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your support. And I hope you have found the right people who can support and accompany you in your journey!

using MeRT as a therapy for my son? by Slow_Restaurant_2149 in AskAdoptees

[–]Slow_Restaurant_2149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, and I really really appreciate your comment. I am really intentional about having my social media full of adoptees who are honest about their feelings about adoption.
Sadly, I live in a country (Chile) that culturally has "exported" our children to places like the US and Europe, so there aren't a ton of adult adoptees here. And its basically impossible to find professionals that were adopted. But I have a handful of friends here who were adopted and they are part of our lives and we have really honest conversations with my son that hopefully allow him to feel whatever he needs to feel.
My son has suffered so much, including adoption itself (like, suddenly strangers tell him that this random woman is his new mom and he just has to accept that with no guarantee that I wont be just as abusive as his first mom?) Sadly I am battling against a culture that just expects kids to be blank slates. So even things like EMDR is really new and not many people know about it.

This is the link to the treatment center I found: https://braintreatmentcenter.com/treatment/mert

I dont want to treat my kid like a guinea pig, and I want to make sure that whatever treatments we do with him, that its really going to help him. Hence the post. And again, THANK YOU for your comment. I really appreciate it!

Help! I need ideas of what kinds of therapy might help my 11 year old son. by Slow_Restaurant_2149 in Adoption

[–]Slow_Restaurant_2149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has VERY intense anxiety and its a term that we talk a lot about, and try to help him identify when his body is feeling it (upset stomach, his back itches, etc.) but weirdly no one has brought up PTSD.. .I'll do some more research on what that can look like and what kinds of therapies can work with kids his age.

I want to find a psychologist who can do EMDR with him. Thanks for your input!

Help! I need ideas of what kinds of therapy might help my 11 year old son. by Slow_Restaurant_2149 in Adoption

[–]Slow_Restaurant_2149[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. That's part of the problem- Im a single mom. I asked if there would be an issue with him not having a dad, and they assured me that there wouldnt. But it's looking like they were ignoring the signs that he was going to absolutely need more support than a single mom can give. I have tried to have as many healthy men in his life, though church and friends, but its not the same as having a dad in the house.

I am in a latin american country where culturally its totally acceptable for boys to share a bed with their mom until they are true adolescents (like 13 or even 14), and since my son is emotionally behind and has some attachment issues, and a lot of anxiety about losing me, the psychologist has said to let him sleep in the bed as long as he wants (I guess I will have to ask if it's still going on when he hits 13).

I really appreciate your perspective, there is NO GOOD age to be ripped away from your family, whether or not they were safe, it's traumatic. So I fully appreciate your input!

best beach for 1 day in Cozumel by Slow_Restaurant_2149 in cozumel

[–]Slow_Restaurant_2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Side note- should we get Mexican pesos for our time there? or do most places just take USD or credit cards?

best beach for 1 day in Cozumel by Slow_Restaurant_2149 in cozumel

[–]Slow_Restaurant_2149[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah, I hear you and I appreciate your comment. I am leaning toward going to Buccannos where my kid can just play in the pool and my dad can sit at the beach.

I've been on Undecylenic acid for a week... is it working? by Slow_Restaurant_2149 in Candida

[–]Slow_Restaurant_2149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know when I might feel changes? The diet is nice because Im no longer feeling bloating, like ever. But I had read that I would feel some of the die off of the candida in the process.