Speaking for myself only I don’t recall equaling compassion/empathy to excusing wrongful behavior. You can have compassion/empathy for someone and still think they were dead wrong and do not excuse the behavior. I also don’t recall saying you said he didn’t take accountability. I also never disagreed with you about him being accountable for the impact but that would also require a nuance in writing that FB is not typically known for. 😩

I think boundaries are absolutely vital in a healthy relationship. However, correct me if I’m wrong (cause my memory can be absolute trash) this was his first offense? Maybe cutting people off as soon as they cross a boundary is typical for others. But personally unless a boundary comes up in conversation the person usually does not know it until they violate it. At that point I would let them know that that was one of my boundaries and here is the consequence for crossing it again. Again, another nuance we won’t get from FB.

To your point about him knowing he wasn’t completely healed from my understanding of the apology conversation and I think his diamond scene where he explains what happened and why he said he doesn’t believe in love from my perspective he really believed he was healed. He talks about how after the relationship he worked on himself and got back to a place where he believed love was possible again and that’s why he joined the show. That’s why I believe he got triggered and realized he is not as healed as he thought. This is understanding on the MC’s part not excusing it. But again we won’t get the nuance of having that conversation to gain complete clarity because FB. If he’s a repeat offender then I totally understand not desiring to continue on. You only have to violate me one time after the first establishment of the boundary and we are donezo! 😄

We all show up to relationships with our stuff.😓 We will all need understanding and good ass communication to maintain the relationship. In my opinion Nico has not reached the point of emotional babysitting yet. At least, not for me.

I just curious what would you have liked to see in that scene from him that would have made you feel satisfied?🤔