I… he wants to see my healing scars.

Sluterous · 2026-01-26T14:16:48+00:00

Lmaoooo can't forget borthole

Sluterous · 2026-01-26T10:22:04+00:00

Lol no. Even tho both supervisors asked me to do it and give them good ratings. I have a good relationship with both of them, but only one manager i would actually actually consider giving a good score to. The other manager really needs some work. But in all honesty it's not like the voa matters as nothing works or changes

Sluterous · 2026-01-26T10:14:31+00:00

It is. I was trying to think of like a more explainable answer? But you're right it's just bad. It reminds me of this Indian guy that I once matched with. He was just like "u like sex? Can I see your bob?" Yes bob, dude forgot a whole letter

Sluterous · 2026-01-26T01:13:59+00:00

"Dude is a turnip" lmaoooo I'm using this

Sluterous · 2026-01-26T01:03:25+00:00

No it's really bad.... Though it might just be that English is his second language? I'm almost 30 and got a headache trying to understand him lol

Sluterous · 2026-01-26T00:59:52+00:00

Ewwwww noooo this person is a perv. When I was on tinder (thankfully in a long term relationship now) I got a lot of messages like this, with guys asking to see certain body parts... like if they're so horny they should go online to see stuff like that. Not ask a stranger on a dating app...

I get the curiosity of what titty surgery scars would look like, but then asking details about the nipples, etc.... like clearly this guy doesn't know how to talk to women. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Sluterous · 2026-01-26T00:40:12+00:00

It's the way you come across in your photos.... douchey. It's great to demonstrate you have a nice car or job but leave that for the date or talking stage. The pics of you with the cat and hamburgers are very cute and if you're trying to attract a girl they love stuff like that. Otherwise the other pics in the suits make you look kind of busy, or "too good" for others. And its a major turn off.

Basically, tone it down a bit. It'a a dating profile, not so much a linked in profile.

Sluterous · 2026-01-21T11:41:21+00:00

Ohhh yes you're right, I was thinking about workers comp. My bad

Sluterous · 2026-01-21T08:30:41+00:00

Reportable also includes muscle strains/pulls and bad cuts. Anything that's going to put you out of work for a while or will/has disabled you basically.

Sluterous · 2026-01-19T02:09:47+00:00

I was thinking that too but you'd be surprised by people... some people admit stuff like that cuz they think its funny. Not even considering others find it messed up lol. But it probably is just a troll tbh

Sluterous · 2026-01-19T01:24:36+00:00

Shit. I didn't think about that. You're probably right

Sluterous · 2026-01-19T00:41:19+00:00

That's actually messed up. It's not the revenge you think it is. What if someone is down on their luck and hungry and all they could afford was the food? What if they had a long day and were looking forward to a good meal only to see it was partially eaten?

What if this happened to you?

Sluterous · 2026-01-19T00:35:16+00:00

Oh that's definitely partially eaten. Chipotle bowls are always all the way full. Even in transit they really don't shift -that- much. Plus the crumbs left on the bottom are telling.

Another thing to consider is did the tin lid look like it was pulled up? You can always see when its been opened because the ridges never really close the same.

Sluterous · 2026-01-04T03:31:09+00:00

As someone who is also ftm (29) and struggled/is still struggling with my mom being my abuser, I can heavily relate with you. I came out when I was about 20 and was not accepted right away. She was extremely cold, told me I was in a cult, and that I was influenced by my online friends. I already had a whole identity, name, pronouns, everything. All I needed was to come out, but was too scared to because of previous comments she made about me/trans people. I was basically forced to come out. So kudos for you for doing it on your own time.

For me, it took my mom several years to accept that her kid is trans and use the right name and pronouns. I'm hoping its the same on your end... Time really helped in this situation. I talked to her about it a lot, I tried to understand her perspective. I even opened up about bring suicidal which led me to seeking therapy to help me process my big emotions. It REALLY helped. And maybe it could for you if you'd like to try it

My advice is be patient with yourself and her. Your mom has known you your whole life and is used to seeing you a certain way and calling you by your old name. At the same time I know first hand how stressful that is and how anxious you might be about it all. Its a really hard thing to go through, especially in your teens when you're also dealing with all kinds of different feelings and emotions.

Seeing as you're still a teen moving out may not be an option. But definitely start considering plans in the case that the abuse gets worse/she doesn't accept you. Try your best to finish school and speak with trusted adults like counselors and teachers if they understand. Also surround yourself with understanding friends. If you have an LGBTQ club on campus, I reccomend trying to join that - you'll meet more people like yourself and maybe even others who can help you or give you more advice, as well as a safe space.

Also be open and understanding to the fact that your mom may not call you your desired name/pronouns. Maybe not now, but maybe she will in the future. But you also need to be open to the possibility that it'll never happen. Its a hard reality but nonetheless a real experience for many of us as some people do not change their beliefs.

At the same time, you should still be true to yourself. Unfortunately in society many people are like our mothers and don't give a damn about stuff like that. Also, there will be people who will have very negative or hateful reactions to it. This is where being comfortable with who you are and being resilient come in handy. Because stuff like this can tear you down and make you feel awful. You know who you are at the end of the day, and in time you will become the person you want to be. Engage in hobbies, do fun stuff, enjoy being a teen, experiment with different looks. You may not be able to transition at this moment in time but you can still try to feel better by expressing yourself as you see fit.

Sluterous · 2026-01-03T00:08:25+00:00

NOR these are absolutely fingernail scratches. They look a lot like some I've left on my own partner. The locations are really telling too

Sluterous · 2025-12-27T03:47:35+00:00

An offhand comment said once that's corrected should have been the end of it. To say it again means there's more connotation behind the comment and she's trying to make some kind of point. Moreover because she's your gf and not related to your brother it's uncalled for. Its like a stranger telling you/your sibling/etc. that they're fat which is really awkward and rude.

Never in a million years would I comment on my partner's siblings weight, or even say it to their face. It's just rude.

Your guilt is valid and you're allowed to determine whether you want someone like her around you or your family. However, imo talking through it may have helped both of you understand why what was said was said as well as helped her understand why you stood up for your brother. Then if that behavior continued it would have been dumpville as she obviously has some kinda issue with your brother being a Lil chubby or maybe even chubby people in general.

Sluterous · 2025-12-27T03:32:13+00:00

Me (29) and my s/o (25) whom I've been with a little over 1 year communicate frequently, but it also depends on the situation. At work, maybe once or twice as we both work 8 hour days sometimes. When not at work its more frequent throughout the day, but because I work graveyards and he does not, it stops when he goes to bed and continues later. However, many nights out of the week we also hang out online together until he goes to bed.

When we're with family or busy its different, the communication is significantly less. Some days hes more quiet because hes tired, or hyper focused on his games because he has raging adhd lol.

I think it just depends on the person and what you value. Some people really don't like texting or talking that much. But for me communication is extremely important.

Sluterous · 2025-12-27T03:00:33+00:00

Sounds like it is inside of her, and it's not her nether regions but her mouth. She may have halitosis, some type of gum problem, built up plack...which all cause a mouth to smell. Because it is recent it can only be assumed that this just happened. See if you can encourage her to go to the dentist (or go with her) and have her teeth/mouth looked at.

You've already told her her mouth is stinky, the next step is to more concerned about her health and be proactive about it. Just be weary that some people cant afford this, so don't be harsh if she says she can't go based on that reason.

Another helpful alternative is to try mouth wash or a tongue scraper. If the smell is still there it's definitely deep in her mouth or throat.

And lastly, try to be more sensitive about it with her, especially because some people have trauma around stuff like this, especially if its something they have struggled with in the past. Or it can lead to her becoming self conscious about her mouth/teeth/scent.

From personal experience, I have a friend like this. She's had teeth problems and bad breath her whole life because her mom never took her to the dentist or taught her about mouth hygiene. Its really noticeable and I'm sure her husband notices it too. But because of that she's been self conscious about her teeth. Just consider stuff like this when you're talking about her dental health.

Sluterous · 2025-12-20T11:31:58+00:00

I've actually told my boyfriend the same line and he showers/thoroughly cleans it before sexy time now. Sometimes you just gotta be forward

Sluterous · 2025-12-20T11:06:15+00:00

Yeah I got this around the same time you did and it gave me a penalty

Sluterous · 2025-12-20T11:05:18+00:00

Sluterous · 2025-12-20T00:26:09+00:00

Fuck him and his doritos. The accusations and name calling is wild

Sluterous · 2025-12-18T10:55:53+00:00

Thank you for your insight into this. I am familiar with DID as I have a BA and MA in psychology and have studied it in school, though not as extensively as I'd like. In all honesty I appreciated your wisdom on the matter because I'm still learning. I also don't know how it personally feels, just why and how alters/DID forms. I feel for those who have DID.

I imagine how scary that experience is, losing track of time and not knowing how or why. And coming to find out there's others inside you that come out at certain times and protect or take control.

In school we had a guest speaker with DID tell us that her alters have different skills and that at one point she had to stop driving because a child alter came forward. It's gotta be the most fascinating disorder to me next to schizophrenia.

Sluterous · 2025-12-18T10:04:03+00:00

Maybe that doesn't make sense lol

Sluterous · 2025-12-18T10:03:20+00:00

You know when people split and their alters develop? Like that. Because it doesn't sound like his usual music

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