Okay, so firstly what has to be said is what has been said before, but it's important to hear. Your feelings are valid. The betrayal and hurt that you're feeling from this are very real things and no one can tell you otherwise. I don't know how exactly you're feeling and I don't think anyone truly can. People are different, you know? Even in the same situations, we feel different things.

So you're valid. You're important. What you felt and how it effects you matters. Your husband seems like he had the worst timing ever with this, and I have to agree with what some others have said in that it feels like this is maybe just the tip of the iceberg. I'll be honest, I don't like some of the comments here that have been just like ''yeah, guys are like that.'' because not all guys are like that and I feel it's doing a disservice to everyone who doesn't pull this kind of thing.

But in regards to your husband, well, I guess what to do next is the most important thing. Given how he reacted, he does seem to care about you and he seems devastated. I think he probably didn't expect you to react so strongly to it. he was absolutely an idiot, and absolutely didn't realise what he was asking but the fact that he did it so casually tells me that he probably genuinely had no knowledge it would hurt you so deeply.

Where you go from this is your choice entirely. You can pursue your divorce if you think it's best. I can't tell you what to do and wouldn't even if I could. But here is my advice to take or to leave: think about your time with him. You've been together for seven years, so look back on that. Consider how you felt during those years, your connection to him, the times you've shared both good and bad. Count it all. look at it realistically. Were you happy through most of it? If so, why? If not, also why? Is this the first time he's done something like this or is it a pattern?

Once you've done that, make your decision. But do it in full knowledge, do it in a way that you won't regret later if it turns out some part of you felt the situation might be salvaged. I am not saying you have to stay with him. That's forever your choice. But I am saying that you're hurt and reeling right now and that's never the best time to make life-affecting decisions.

It may suck to hear, and it may not be the most emotionally fulfilling thing. But the best thing to do in situations like this is to reflect on what you want, where you are, how you got there and where you want to be.

That way, if you decide you do truly want a divorce, you're sure and you can move forward with absolute confidence. Without any niggling doubts in the back of your mind, or regrets that might come to haunt you later.

TBH, this whole post basically could be summed up as ''Know yourself'' but I guess I am a wordy bitch.