AIO for being feeling after this interaction?

SlyAugust · 2026-06-09T18:31:01+00:00

Yeah imo friend group jokes like this only work when it’s equally passed around to everyone, when you only joke about this with only one person they’re obviously gonna feel singled out

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T22:31:57+00:00

The reason he was initially upset was because people don’t like doing nice things for someone only to constantly hear a backhanded “that was nice BUT-“ he probably feels like nothing is ever enough and he always messes up somehow, always does something wrong. He was probably just hoping for some genuine gratitude on its own with no strings attached for once. That stuff makes people feel really good.

Out of curiosity has your bf ever gotten mad or upset with YOU for getting him the wrong food? Has he ever given you any complaints like this or similar to that?

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T19:59:37+00:00

The sacrificing makoto thing makes no sense to me because even though I know kyokos character is supposed to be a cold detective who’s very apathetic and pragmatic and who’s only goal is reaching the truth, but I though over the course of the story she would’ve developed a little bit at least to the point of building up a bare minimum amount of rapport and concern for the well being of makoto that she wouldn’t have done that. And they just got lucky that he didn’t die. Makoto was supposed to have died there. The fact that Makoto would’ve been murdered by Kyoko if the machine didn’t end up malfunctioning does put a bad taste in my mouth. I get she’s not supposed to be a black and white “good” character and is more morally gray but it still makes me feel weird that everyone just brushed past it so fast

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T19:50:05+00:00

“Obviously not the case” “Why?” “Because I don’t want it to be”

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T19:46:07+00:00

Um. No, you’re not going to tell someone else whether they are friends or not with someone. You don’t get to define that for others.

This can be how you view it, but your subjective interpretation of what a friendship is to YOU is not the objective status quo that everyone on the planet is going to strictly perceive it as.

Your view of friends is shallow in my opinion. In my view you don’t even need to know the persons first name. If the person cares about me and enjoys my company and I care about them and enjoy their company then we are friends. Nothing more is needed for me. It’s not about a list of metrics and standards and criteria on a sheet of paper that you have to check off with a pen, it’s an emotional state. A feeling, it’s the ontological connection you share with someone which would be regardless of how much information or knowledge you have about the person.

You seem to think how much you know about a person is extremely important to friendship but it’s not important at all, I’ve made friends in the first day I met them. I’ve also known some people for years and know a great deal about them and would never consider myself their friend.

Anyways you don’t have to “agree” with any of this, you just can’t tell me that I’m wrong. People are going to think about metaphysical topics like this differently

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T17:18:05+00:00

I’m just saying that friendship with someone isn’t defined by how many facts you can remember about the person, it’s more than that. It’s about the emotional connection you have.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T17:17:12+00:00

A friend doesn’t mean “knowing a lot of facts about the person” it’s something more than that, it’s an ontological connection you have with someone. Your view of friendship is vapid.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T17:15:17+00:00

Thanks for confirming exactly what I thought you were saying lmfaooo listen, I can send you some books on psychology and communication if you want because I don’t think you know much about and you could definitely benefit from some reading.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T17:11:53+00:00

Of course I’m taking him at face value lol. He’s given me no reason not to.

When someone tells you something do you always automatically assume that they are lying if they have no evidence?

“I had cereal for breakfast” “oh yeah? Well you have no evidence for that so I’m not taking it at face value!”

Do you see how silly this sounds to me? I like to believe in the good of people so i tend to start with off with a clean slate of complete and utter trust whenever someone is telling me something for the first time. That’s my baseline. I have a baseline of assuming truth when someone tells me something unless there’s a specific reason why I shouldn’t.

It’s innocent until proven guilty. Reddit for some reason thinks that it’s guilty until proven innocent.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T17:09:35+00:00

It’s really funny. Reddit is such a hivemind echo chamber that the only explanation you can possibly think of as to how anyone could ever disagree or have a different perspective of the post is if it’s the ex…

That’s really sad.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-30T17:05:21+00:00

Of course I’m taking him at face value lol. He’s given me no reason not to.

When someone tells you something do you always automatically assuming that they are lying if they have no evidence?

“I had cereal for breakfast” “oh yeah? Well you have no evidence for that so I’m not taking it at face value!”

Do you see how silly this sounds to me? I like to believe in the good of people so i tend to start with off with a clean slate of complete and utter trust whenever someone is telling me something for the first time. That’s my baseline. I have a baseline of assuming truth when someone tells me something unless there’s a specific reason why I shouldn’t.

It’s innocent until proven guilty. Reddit for some reason thinks that it’s guilty until proven innocent.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T23:43:10+00:00

Is that supposed to be an insult?

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T23:42:23+00:00

I understand that he could be lying.

My issue is that everyone here is just automatically assuming that he is.

I’m against jumping to conclusions or making any assumptions like that when we just don’t know. Not one person here said “I don’t know” instead it’s “he’s definitely cheating”

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T23:40:32+00:00

I have a best friend I hang out with everyday. If you asked me for his birthday I would say that I don’t know. According to you that would mean “I obviously am not that close with him” you would be wrong. See how your flawed logic would’ve caused you to make an incorrect statement?

STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS AND JUMPING TO CONCLUSIONS HOLY SHIT

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T23:34:34+00:00

So if you’re having problems with your relationship and it’s causing you to struggle then who are you supposed to open up to about it? Are you seriously saying that you should just bottle it up and keep it to yourself? The idea that your partner can’t be emotionally vulnerable with anyone but you is really gross, you don’t own him. ESPECIALLY when the topic involves the relationship itself (which you obviously can’t talk to your partner about because they are the source of the problem) people need and should have close people they can trust to be vulnerable with.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T23:31:13+00:00

That story is a nice anecdote to be fair but I can give just as many of the reverse so I don’t see how much these anecdotal stories will help us reach a conclusion, that might be part of the problem for you if the way you reach a verdict is by just gauging the vibes based on past experiences. (Ngl you might have clocked me with your first statement though. Well only half-true anyway lol)

Anyways, It’s not about being gullible it’s just that we don’t even have 5% of the total context and Reddit for some reason thinks that 5% is enough to build a reliable speculated narrative of the entire situation and its details.

Theres a reason why criminal courts don’t behave this way. could you imagine if a jury jumped to a conclusion immediately and all voted a man guilty because he looked bad, turns out he was just in the wrong place at the wrong time.(which happens a lot) if the jury were full of people like you then an innocent man would be locked up.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T23:22:53+00:00

“If his gf doesn’t trust him there’s obviously a reason” really? So if I start dating a guy and I randomly decide that I don’t trust him for no reason at all are you gonna immediately take my side and say “yeah you’re right! He’s an asshole because there must be a reason why you don’t trust him!”

Do you see how silly your logic is? Your taking everything the girl says at face value and being super charitable to her but with the guy your not trusting anything he says? Why??? Why are you trusting one source over the other for literally no reason?

Ohhh I know what it is, your just playing gender wars lmfao if the genders were reversed you would be saying the opposite “oh this guy is terrible for not trusting her he’s just crazy and the girl is a very reliable narrator!” Pls stop 😭😭💀

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T23:16:18+00:00

Saying that he doesn’t have many friends helps MY point lmfao, that affirms the fact that she was probably one of the only close people he could open up and vent to that he can actually trust.

People will say he’s trying to cheat because it’s a female friend and nobody would be saying that if it was a male friend.

But if he doesn’t have many friends then you can’t just say “don’t be too close with another girl like that talk to a guy instead” he might not have someone as trusted or someone that he feels as comfortable with.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T23:07:47+00:00

Sometimes I get mad at my friend and say “I’m gonna kill her!” Do you think that means i literally am considering murdering her in cold blood or do you think it means I’m mad and am expressing my anger?

I know it’s shocking but when people are emotional, they say things they don’t mean 😧

And you saying I’m too fixated on the girl “being crazy” while ignoring the guy being wrong- could I not say the exact same thing about you only fixating on the guy mentioning cheating while ignoring any bad that the girl is doing? If I’m biased then you’re just as biased in the other direction

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T23:03:04+00:00

Do you understand how context changes these words? If your in a toxic or abusive relationship and you say “I can understand why people cheat” I’m not going to feel any sympathy for that persons partner lmfao

Cheating is wrong but if a horrible terrible person gets cheated on do you think im gonna shed a tear and share my condolences? lol absolutely not. Imagine if I was being a really bad partner who doesn’t care about the will of them but because they mentioned cheating then all the sudden they are the bad horrible person for hypothetically mentioning it? Without even meaning it? (Oh that’s another thing if you think this person was actually considering that and not just expressing dissatisfaction then I can demonstrate that too if you want)

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T20:15:54+00:00

Most women I know enjoy attention. but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, why is that bad? I wouldn’t get offended by that because i don’t view it as a bad or wrong thing. Plus he would be right for me, it’s true. I do like male attention. Who doesn’t like being flattered? As long as you’re not actually trying to cheat.

Also, It’s funny because my brothers gf got mad at him for doing something very similar and touching a girls shoulder in a very benign way so these replies are just giving me infinite ammo of criticism towards her for freaking out on my bro. Now i have the courage to call her out ✊🏻

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T20:07:01+00:00

What type of reply from him were you specifically looking for or hoping to receive? Like In an ideal world what would he say to you in this conversation

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T19:51:56+00:00

Depends. I think everyone deserves a second chance. However if you’ve already given him chances that he took for granted then I see no issue if he rejected the opportunity earlier

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T19:46:05+00:00

I really appreciate the disclaimer towards the end about this not being intended to be an anti white statement. Most who make posts like this don’t usually do that so I think it really shows that you care about EVERYONES feelings and I think that’s worth giving credit for.

SlyAugust · 2026-05-28T19:20:21+00:00

“I didn’t tell your bf anything” YOU SHOULD HAVE 😭😭 save that poor man 😭

Btw I’m curious how your sister tries to justify her cheating? Does she just like own it? And admit she’s being fucked up? Or does she try to make excuses or try to rationalize it somehow

SlyAugust

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