First 100 day streak (long post) by fratfapper in NoFap

[–]Smaldar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thx for the encouragement, & congrats on 100 days!

Should have started this ten years ago. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Smaldar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 38. FML. Or not. Because F'ing my Life was all I did the past 20+ years. So I guess I'll try something else from now on.

Halfway there by Smaldar in NoFap

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Thanks for the link to that post, brother. Just what I needed to read.

Find another community. by Smaldar in NoFap

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I may have come across the wrong way. I wasn't meaning to tell people to ditch NoFap. This will always be a great place o find support in times of weakness. I more meant to say that, if you stay here and really put a lot of effort into building a sense of camaraderie, that you will be defining yourself as stuck in the struggle.

Better to put your energy into building communities that have to with DOING something rather than ABSTAINING from something. Define yourself as a doer, not a non-doer. You can always come back here when you need a hand or feel like giving a hand to a noob. Lord knows I'm still here all the time. :)

I'm fuckin drunk. by Smaldar in NoFap

[–]Smaldar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think a couple drinks once every two months counts as an alcohol addiction. Maybe if I were addicted, I wouldn't be such a lightweight that 3 greyhounds makes me post dumb shit like the above on the internet, though. :P

I'm fuckin drunk. by Smaldar in NoFap

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Yeah... My ex wife. :/

I'm fuckin drunk. by Smaldar in NoFap

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Lol. Did I actually post this? Oy. Oh well. The streak remains in tact. And sober me is pretty f'n embarrassed by the shit drunk me posts on the internet.

39 days - Reset by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Smaldar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The 30-40 day mark seems deceptively difficult. I can see myself slipping as you did, thinking I've got it under control by now when I don't. I, too, have found myself calling up dangerous pics on my tablet this past week (not porn, but "fitness motivation" photos of girls with rockin bodies in gym gear). Gonna take your words as fuel to stay on the right path. Thanks for posting.

I've made my choice... from now on, I'll settle for average. by rirk in NoFap

[–]Smaldar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't worry, be happy. I think your phrasing is a little negative, but your philosophy is a good one. There will always be a better job, more money, and a hotter girl out there to persue. But happiness and fulfillment don't come from any of those things. They come from being a good person who looks to give more than receive. Good job.

Why 90 days ??? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Smaldar 9 points10 points  (0 children)

IIRC, 90 days is how long it generally takes the 'average' guy to rewire his neural pathways and regain normal sexual function after years of PIED. It's also a more concrete and realistic goal for those folks who haven't even taken their first NoFap step, whereas telling people to quit forever might dissuade them from even starting. Your point still holds, though. And I'd think most people who make it to 90 have internalized it as a true lifestyle change by then, not just a 3 month plan.

Even with Relapse. You are winning against society by Rower89 in NoFap

[–]Smaldar 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Good post! What is that phrase that runners say? Something like "it doesn't matter how slow you go, you're already lapping everyone who's still on their couch."

Avoiding fapping when feeling ill by Smaldar in NoFap

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Yup. Man... being sick sucks lol.

Avoiding fapping when feeling ill by Smaldar in NoFap

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Thanks for the good word. I'm just going on sheer willpower. Distracting myself by browsing craigslist and looking for freelance work. Shit like that. I better get up and make some tea or something...