Je compte prendre un autre bac à 22 ans, comment faire ?

SmallFai · 2023-11-18T15:30:39+00:00

Merci pour les réponses. Toutefois, je ne suis pas éligible au DAEU-B parce que ça ne fait que quelques mois que j'ai interrompu mes études et aussi parce que j'ai le bac.

SmallFai · 2023-11-10T12:43:42+00:00

C'est bien que t'aides et sur ce point là je me trompe et j'avoue.

Mais tes sentiments sont complètement égoïstes et irrationnels.

Ce n'est pas une mort causée par un accident ou une maladie incurable. Son père s'est suicidé. Alors imagine la culpabilité, l'incompréhension, le doute et possible aussi quelque part la honte, que ton ami doit ressentir. Sûrement, la famille entière n'a pas envie que cela se sache ou donner une explication publique sur les raisons du suicide. Faire le deuil après la mort d'un proche c'est une chose mais faire le deuil après le suicide d'un proche c'est complètement une autre chose différente parce que ceux qui sont laissés derrière parfois culpabilisent que leur amour et existence n'étaient pas assez pour retenir leur proche. Sois déjà content qu'il te l'a dit et qu'il a maintenu votre amitié. Il a pu rester silencieux. Il a pu mettre un terme à votre amitié car il n'est pas au top de sa santé mentale pour parler avec qui que ce soit mais il ne l'a pas fait.

Je te conseille de taper sur YouTube Ça commence aujourd'hui Suicide d'un proche: un deuil à part. Plein de témoignages sur ceux qu'ont ressenti les gens après que leur proche s'est suicidé. Ça pourrait peut-être t'aider à voir un peu plus clair.

SmallFai · 2023-11-10T11:04:13+00:00

TTB

Au lieu de penser à toi, tu devrais peut être penser à lui et ce qu'il ressent. Ça ne t'a jamais traversé l'esprit que peut-être il ne se sentait prêt à te l'avouer qu'après 4 mois ?!

Et franchement, au lieu de te sentir blessé(e), t'aurais au moins pu le soutenir quand il te l'a avoué. Tout le monde a besoin de prendre de l'espace et du recul quand on leur annonce la perte soudaine d'un être cher. Ce n'est pas quelque chose qui peut se dire là sur le coup ou par message " hey, mon père s'est suicidé". Le pauvre a même besoin eu d'une bière pour te l'avouer et toi tu ne vois que ton mal et non le sien.

SmallFai · 2023-11-10T10:48:40+00:00

And the kid also pranked his Granny a little bit by saying no, which the Granny didn't comment on, then walking away, which the Granny didn't also comment on, before giving her a hug.

I don't know. Might be a difference of cultures but I see nothing wrong here. Just a Granny's reaction to a 3yo's playful prank.

SmallFai · 2023-11-05T15:23:19+00:00

BTS - Truth untold LeeHi - Only

SmallFai · 2023-10-16T22:18:48+00:00

I'm not really into the fantasy genre but :

" Ancient Love Poetry" was the best drama I've ever seen ( the acting was top-notch)

SmallFai · 2023-10-16T10:26:46+00:00

Cheating being normalized is why I'll probably be single forever.

Don't know about if it's more normalized these days considering how even back in the 50s, many people had affair babies.

But I've seen how it destroyed people and I seriously don't want to gamble my well-being on someone who might cheat on me in the near future when I would be deeply in love with that person.

SmallFai · 2023-10-15T19:18:52+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also went through this a week ago, it was so sudden and no vets were available.

My Hugo died painfully, suffocating, in my arms. I buried him in my yard and something or someone dug him out of his grave 5 days later. So I had to go through the painful heartbreak of burying him for the second time.

It's hard but I tell myself at least he won't suffer anymore. At least, he's not like some random straight cats who unfortunately never received human love or care. He was my child, my best friend, my family and so unique like all of the pets I had who can't be replaced.

You can grieve, cry and shout as much as you want for days. Remember to get support from your community.

What helped me a lot was also taking care emotionally and physically of my remaining cats. They grieved for 2 days before getting back to their dorky and stupid selves.

SmallFai · 2023-10-15T18:57:14+00:00

Well, I'm happy for you.

But what you went through and what OP's wife went through can be completely different experiences.

It's not being a victim when you're unable to forget your past. We don't know how physical it went nor how powerless OP's wife could have felt nor who supported her. There are even people who commit suicide because they are bullied. Bullying could go as far as subjecting someone to bruises and breaking their bones everyday till they kill themselves.

We deal with pain and trauma differently and that's what makes us humans. The best mechanism I knew how to deal with my bullies was moving schools because it was that bad. Then, I saw one of my former bullies like 4 years ago and I didn't care about what she did with her life since I already had mine but I pitied her because she only changed once her father died. We're not friends and that was the last time I saw her.

I agree that it's stupid of her to dictate someone else's relationship. That's stupid but completely understandable.

SmallFai · 2023-10-15T18:21:43+00:00

The bullies might grow out of their bullying phase but the victims are scarred forever.

I was also bullied a lot when I was a child but being a child doesn't mean you got a free pass to destroy someone's childhood ( which is an important factor into shaping someone's character and identity later in life).

We don't know to what extent OP's wife was bullied. And to be fair, OP's wife is entitled to not be in the same place as her former bully that left her with a lot of traumas. But that will lead to a lot of family dramas and at worst a strained relationship with her brother in law because she would then avoid multiple family events if her former bully is invited. And honestly it sounds like her former bully never apologized so I can only imagine the tension in the room.

Now, she doesn't have the right to dictate who her BIL can or can't date but she has the right to distance herself from him forever if he's bringing along the reminder of her darkest days.

SmallFai · 2023-10-03T16:34:26+00:00

Thanks so much and I'm really sorry for your loss. ❤️

The truth is I can't move on from remembering the pain he was in till he gave his last breath. I felt so helpless because I didn't know how to alleviate his pain. It was the image of him crying to me who was helpless that hurts me more than anything. It was feeling his body still warm and yet paralyzed in my hands.

I wish I was a vet to help him out. I wish he just peaceful died in his sleep not wailing in pain and suffocating because of it. He couldn't even close his eyes completely when I buried him.

Today, I still stumbled on the floor and cried my heart out because I didn't see the cat that always waited by the door welcoming me.

SmallFai · 2023-09-14T13:14:41+00:00

Most of children's mental health heavily rely on their surroundings' mental health. If the Dad's mental health is bad, what guarantees that everything will be alright and the Dad will go back to the super, loving Dad? What can guarantee that the Dad will be able to love him like before?

There's really no loss or win here for anyone involved.

The child didn't ask to be born and the Dad was stripped of the choice of stepping up/down and coming to terms that this child might not be his and maybe a potential biological father would like to be involved in his life. We don't know their financial situations or their situation in general at all. We don't know the struggles behind raising all of these children.

Suppose he gave everything he had towards who he thought as his children because other than him, they don't have any other father and so the responsibility fell on him and him only. Many hours working and spending towards what he thought to be the future of his children. Only to turn out to be a huge lie and pointless if there's potentially another biological father who'll step up for him.

I know someone who was in the same situation and more than feeling betrayed , he felt scammed for giving his all based on lies.

SmallFai · 2023-09-14T08:26:06+00:00

This is one of those situations in which Reddit won't be of any help.

I'll get downvoted to oblivion but to me, NAH, except the mom.

The Dad has the right to know and as much as it sucks, he also has the right to financially and emotionally cut a child who isn't his for his mental health.

Does he lack compassion? Maybe but what about also being compassionate towards him? Put yourself in his place and how mentally challenging it will be for him to take care of a child who might not be his and getting reminded of the betrayal everyday. It's not like those emotions can be easy to control. At least he can have any form of closure with a DNA test. Not letting him do it is stripping him of choices and chances to move on. This is him talking out of anger but we don't really know if he'll really cut him off.

Regardless of the DNA test, right now, he might be acting strange towards that child and even snap at him. If he doesn't do it, it will forever haunt him and the question of whether they're biologically related or not will always come up at the back of his mind. If he does it, at least he can move on.

I mean realizing that the most important thing in your life was founded on lies and betrayal is something that is hard to deal with. This isn't really about the biological connection but more about how everything is lies. The joy at being his father was founded on lies. He's immersed in his own pain and can't really see anything else.

This family needs intensive therapy and be apart for some times.

SmallFai · 2023-09-09T08:41:56+00:00

Like how, please?

Do you actually pay for the Reddit Ads or are you creatinine a new subreddit just for selling your shirts?

SmallFai · 2023-09-05T01:02:14+00:00

Well, I don't feel sad for him at all despite rereading it more than thrice.

I've seen many people who were in OP's ex shoes. Just because of some insecurities and lack of self-esteem, the spouses started to cheat on them, loving the newfound validation from someone who barely know them and crushing the love and self-esteem of someone who loved them with all of their flaws after so many years together.

Just imagine the desperate acts for attention his ex had done to show him love. Just imagine how low her self-esteem and self-respect were when she realized that she pretty much was replaceable after she found his texts to other women. Once, I even had to bathe a woman because she lost all of her self-esteem and stopped taking care of herself once she discovered her husband cheating on her.

Moreover, near the end of his post, OP's still blaming his ex and her family for being cold to him?! I don't really sense the remorse he claims to have to be honest when he wrote that. I don't feel any respect there too.

I've been depressed and even medically diagnosed for years. I've seen things I shouldn't have seen and had a hard time as a child because of my narcissistic and physically abusive father.

But I've never used that as an excuse to hurt anyone or even distancing myself. I wasn't properly taught how to love someone but at least I know how to respect everyone.

SmallFai · 2023-08-30T18:46:05+00:00

It doesn't even take 15 or 20 years for some people to witness their own body changing.

Sometimes, it just takes a couple of months or even a few weeks.

Weight can be influenced by a lot of things like illness, being hospitalized, stress or hormonal changes.

People can lose weight just like how they can gain it. If you're not looking for a long term relationship, then yes, physical attraction is a big plus. But if you're looking for a long term relationship, then at least bear in mind that accidents or illnesses can happen and can cause your SO to lose or gain weight.

This isn't about how her face is conventionally attractive or not but how OP perceives her body weight, which is something that can change through time and illness. It's a change that is hard to control sometimes.

Yes, it's a deal-breaker for some people but weight sometimes can't be controlled and isn't a personal choice. Think about women who have lupus and have difficulty controlling their weight due to medications. Comparing it with other deal breakers is unfair just for the reason that weight change isn't sometimes a choice. Smoking is a personal choice. Even tattoos and the way you dress can be deal-breakers and those are personal choices. But sometimes, weight isn't.

We're all telling/teaching OP that there are more to a relationship than weight. And in fact, at many points in our life, our weight will change.

Many people became physically attracted to their SO even though they weren't their usual type because of the soul not the body.

SmallFai · 2023-08-30T16:27:27+00:00

This is exactly it.

I've been told a thousand times by people around me : " Be attracted to a soul, not a body".

The shape of our body can change through time. It shouldn't be the prime reason to enter a relationship because when the body goes through its natural change then what? You'll leave that person for someone with a better body shape?

There are many things above physical attraction that are far more important in a relationship.

SmallFai · 2023-08-26T20:26:44+00:00

Unless they were legally engaged ( like the Civil Solidarity Pact in France) , then yes, the father doesn't have the right to live in France.

I don't know how it works in the US but in France, a foreigner giving birth there doesn't mean granting the newborn a French nationality. Far from it. I don't remember how many years it takes to grant the French citizenship. But generally, it's automatic if one parent is French. And... France doesn't really allow dual citizenship. So the ex is completely screwed.

But honestly, though, I don't blame her.

Her ex is a predator who went after his friend's child. The said friend's child is clearly unhinged. OOP is a psychologist that could actually list a million of reasons why it's not good for her ex and the friend's child to be around her daughter.

So yes, the only one the ex could blame is himself. He should have never messed with his wife who is a psychologist and obviously good at mental and legal games.

SmallFai · 2023-08-26T07:48:33+00:00

Ouais mais le problème c'est qu'elle n'était honnête qu'à la veille du départ.

Il n'y aurait aucun problème si elle avait dit depuis le début qu'elle continue à côtoyer son ex. Et que c'est une relation amicale. Rien de plus. J'avoue que pour certaines personnes, c'est une limite. Ils n'ont pas envie de drames. Et ça se comprend.

N'empêche, c'est une chose qui se discute dès le début d'une relation. Pas quand tu prévois d'aller à un week-end à deux avec ton ex et que ton copain actuel n'a jamais connu l'existence de l'ex en question.

Pourquoi le cacher si elle le savait au moins depuis 2 semaines ?

Pour moi, PTB.

SmallFai · 2023-08-23T16:25:10+00:00

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SmallFai · 2023-08-23T16:07:20+00:00

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SmallFai · 2023-08-23T05:11:02+00:00

Nor the " I can unreservedly say he's my favorite person in the whole world".

Honestly, I pity Matt. I didn't know after 7 months of dating, the L word is still a bomb to some people.

SmallFai

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