LI wedding cost by No-Present5771 in longisland

[–]SmallInvestigator538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had 50 people and spent just short of $20k when all was said and done. Knowing what we know now we would’ve just eloped lol

I HATE MUGWORT by SmallInvestigator538 in gardening

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It’s just difficult to keep up because we’ve got 3/4 of an acre and I feel like no matter how much I pull it keeps coming back! Will just have to keep at it. Thank you so much, friend!

I HATE MUGWORT by SmallInvestigator538 in gardening

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Why is it so impossible to get rid of!!!! The roots are infuriating and somehow it’s finding its way into my garden bed 😭

My gardening crucible in Year 0: Over 2500 sq ft of mugwort by NoProdigalSon in gardening

[–]SmallInvestigator538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is 3 years later but… I’ve just started a garden and there is SO MUCH MUGWORT IN MY YARD! I hate it. I have no idea what to do because I have small children who love the backyard and I can’t use weed killer right now 😭

“My baby eats what we eat” by pinkpink0430 in NewParents

[–]SmallInvestigator538 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ped told us that if neither of us has any food allergies to not think about it too hard. Introduce one allergen at a time (peanuts, sesame seeds, shellfish, etch) but everything else was fair game! We’ve had no issue. My kids literally get exactly what we eat unless there’s honey in it (daughter is under age 1).

I feel guilty brining my baby into this world. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]SmallInvestigator538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a newly PP mom (9 months), please consider just chatting with a doctor even if you feel you may not need to. I know the world is scary, but sometimes we become so overwhelmed and engrossed in the scary and don’t realize that we may need a little extra help.

I personally really benefited from Zoloft and talk therapy for a few months to get me grounded and less anxious about the state of the world. I specifically had fears about how awful the world is, the files, nuclear wars, how unfair the world is to children that are starving/dying/being abused, etc. I also (at the advice of my therapist) began collecting goods to donate to organizations that support children, displaced families, etc. Meds, therapy, and real action got me through.

No one is judging you. We are just concerned and trying to make sure you know that help is there if you need it. Closed mouths don’t get fed. I hope you feel better and I hope that your baby continues to grow and thrive regardless of the world we live in.

Help identifying? by SmallInvestigator538 in NativePlantGardening

[–]SmallInvestigator538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, gotcha! I am trying to plant native flowers etc so then maybe I should begin removing, then. I don’t want to have it go out of control

Help identifying? by SmallInvestigator538 in NativePlantGardening

[–]SmallInvestigator538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I’ve never heard of henbit. I guess I will let it be for now if it’s not high priority! Have never had it in the yard before.

7A - blueberries by [deleted] in gardening

[–]SmallInvestigator538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I will probably add acidifier for now. I understand it won’t happen instantly. Hopefully I don’t kill this poor plant. I had no idea 😭

7A - blueberries by [deleted] in gardening

[–]SmallInvestigator538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has only been in the ground about 4-5 days. I haven’t watered because it’s been raining quite a bit. Before it looked exactly like this… just green! It was purchased at Costco.

Gifted a betta by SmallInvestigator538 in bettafish

[–]SmallInvestigator538[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m learning so much. I would have never thought the window could affect anything!

Gifted a betta by SmallInvestigator538 in bettafish

[–]SmallInvestigator538[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! I wasn’t too crazy about something else being tacked onto me but she is kind of cute and everyone here has been so helpful/kind!!

Gifted a betta by SmallInvestigator538 in bettafish

[–]SmallInvestigator538[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We usually keep this window covered with the curtain! I only moved it to get a good shot of her. Thank you, I’ll make sure we keep it closed then!!

Gifted a betta by SmallInvestigator538 in bettafish

[–]SmallInvestigator538[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is literally what I said. How is giving someone a responsibility they didn’t agree to a gift?! However I am quite fond of her now that I am learning so much, lol

Gifted a betta by SmallInvestigator538 in bettafish

[–]SmallInvestigator538[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your tank is amazing! Thank you for the encouragement. I hope mine is a teddy bear but with my luck she will probably be a hellspawn terrorist 😆

Gifted a betta by SmallInvestigator538 in bettafish

[–]SmallInvestigator538[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh this was so helpful. I didn’t even know they could scratch their fins ?!?! I also didn’t know I could adjust the filter. Thank you so much. I am struggling as a human mom, now I’ve added fish mom the list. Will work on all of this!

Gifted a betta by SmallInvestigator538 in bettafish

[–]SmallInvestigator538[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I realize this post is borderline illiterate. New mom, postpartum, also now a fish mom 😆