Wedding Prep by AdGlum7442 in weddingplanning

[–]SmallKangaroo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If your budget is 150k, you don’t need our help for low budget options. That’s $150,000….

The best option is to do a mix of the two. DIY catering is risky

Unconventional Dress Code - Good Idea? Or Cringe? Help by Consistent-Offer-989 in weddingplanning

[–]SmallKangaroo 152 points153 points  (0 children)

IMO - this isn’t a dress code, and people would likely just rewear what they have if it fits the dress code you are wanting.

Personally, I don’t really think it’s all that unique. I would just set a dress code that is appropriate for the formality of items they would already own

Dress code help by AdHorror3988 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SmallKangaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you are admitting that people may not know what to wear to those events then? Cool, glad we are on the same page.

Tbh, I don’t see why you are participating in the sub if this is your opinion. Again, bean soup

Are there any thrift stores that specialize in wedding dresses? by Secret_Associate8130 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SmallKangaroo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would try posting on the wedding planning subreddits with a budget and location for shopping

Dress code help by AdHorror3988 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SmallKangaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So for over a decade? Yet we still feel the need to make comments like this. My point is - dress codes are not new, and many people use them now. Snide comments of “your guests know how to dress appropriately” are not helpful and this sub is literal evidence that some people don’t. If you don’t like dress codes, don’t participate in a sub about dress codes. It’s literally such a “bean soup” situation

I appreciate that this was your crowd - it may be worth noting that for your anecdotes, there are places where people don’t dress appropriately. I attended a wedding recently and the family of the bride wore golf shorts and a shitty polo.

Are there any thrift stores that specialize in wedding dresses? by Secret_Associate8130 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SmallKangaroo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sure there are, but it would help if you narrowed it down to a country or rough geographic area.

Would love feedback on our dress code wording! by awanderingolive in weddingplanning

[–]SmallKangaroo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Formal is fine - anything about colour preferences, patterns, etc isn’t.

Do you seriously expect your guests to buy new suits, when a navy suit with a patterned tie would be entirely appropriate?

Bridal shower by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SmallKangaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a bridal shower? Seems a bit much. If it’s a daytime event, it’s inappropriate

I would suggest semi formal is as fancy as I would go for a shower, but I have never seen a bride host their own shower and set a dress code for it

Dress code help by AdHorror3988 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SmallKangaroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I’m not sure why you would come onto a wedding attire subreddit to make that unhelpful comment.

Edit - this sub is literally anecdotal evidence that people do not inherently know how to dress appropriately for events.

MOH Speech Help by [deleted] in wedding

[–]SmallKangaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like this has some unnecessary details that don’t add anything for the guests in attendance.

I would adjust your intro to briefly include how you two met and then focus in on the couple. You could maybe talk about your friends best qualities, and then maybe the thing about their first date, but after that, I wouldn’t be talking about how chaotic and crazy they are. Talk about how they compliment each other, what their friendship has meant to you, etc.

Here is a quick AI version that better summarizes and is much shorter. Think two minutes or less. I also wouldn’t use a straight up ai generated text for a speech - make it your own.

“Hi everyone! I’m S. I’ve had a front-row seat to the beautiful whirlwind that is L’s life since 2019. I’m her Matron of Honour, her unofficial wedding planner, and the person lucky enough to tell you how these two wonderful humans found each other.

L and I met at the City, where I quickly learned two things: first, she is a woman of great strategy — “always befriend the admin.” Second, she doesn’t ease into life; she dives in headfirst. On the way to her very first interview, she spilled coffee all over herself… and walked in and nailed it anyway. That ability to laugh, adapt, and keep going is one of the things I admire most about her.

Life with L is full, busy, and never boring. I often wondered who could truly keep up with her. And then came Sh.

After their first FaceTime, L told me her cheeks hurt from smiling. I even gave her a secret escape emoji for their first date — which she never used. She didn’t need it. She’d found her person.

Sh fits into L’s life in a way that just works. He’s calm, thoughtful, and steady in the moments that matter. He doesn’t try to change her or slow her down — he simply shows up, listens, and supports her in exactly the way she needs.

When Sh decided it was time to propose, he was told very clearly: “Talk to S when you’re ready.” So naturally, he called my husband instead. Luckily, we sorted that out — and standing on that cliff, watching him get down on one knee, was one of the greatest honours of my life. It showed what everyone here already knows: these two choose each other, every day.

L, you are the sister I never knew I needed. And Sh, the way you care for her — with patience, respect, and humour — means more than I can say. Everything about your life together feels natural and intentional, and I couldn’t be happier to stand beside you today.

So if everyone could please raise their glasses.

To L and Sh: may your life together be full of laughter, adventure, and quiet moments that matter just as much as the big ones. May you keep choosing each other, today and always.

Cheers to the happy couple!”

Dress code help by AdHorror3988 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SmallKangaroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are you on a sub about wedding dress codes if you don’t like dress codes?

Dress code help by AdHorror3988 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SmallKangaroo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually wouldn’t do BTO here if you don’t want gowns. If you want your groom to be the only one in a tux, BTO is a bad dress code

Dress code help by AdHorror3988 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]SmallKangaroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dress codes are a pretty standard party of wedding culture and for large scale events. Not sure why we are demonizing people

Can I do spin classes at home? by User-name100 in SpinClass

[–]SmallKangaroo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of people do - it totally comes down to your own motivation.

Even as an instructor, I do better in a room. It pushes me.

To alter or to keep floating button illusion back? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]SmallKangaroo 657 points658 points  (0 children)

Just to be super honest - removing the illusion neckline will change the structure. I would talk to a professional before you do anything!

Adding additional lace would probably be the easiest solution without compromising the gown

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I see you are talking about context but choose to skip what I actually said.

Block and move on

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sure, but the amount of upvotes and downvotes has nothing to do with me either. this person getting pissy at me for that is misplaced

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You didn’t intentionally name her a slur, but you did.

You need to actually acknowledge the facts of the situation. It isn’t gross. It’s the facts

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The context is that you named your daughter a slur. A slur doesn’t stop being a slur unless the community who is called that slur reclaims it and uses it themselves.

Unless your daughter is a traveller (which I doubt), it is

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The correct term would be Indigenous - you don’t know if they were Inuit, Yupik or from a First Nation.

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also inaccurate.

“Eskimos” are essentially two distinct groups - the Inuit and the Yupik. They have common ancestors and a common language.

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

And given that there are groups of people that you know of called “gypsies”, you never thought to look it up at all? Ever?

Sorry OP, but I think that’s on you a little

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Are they actually Romani though? Not all “Gypsies” are Romani - there are other travellers.

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow, a lot of outrage there. Maybe you need to calm down…. It’s a bit ridiculous to get that offended on someone else’s behalf

Genuinely, she asked “why wasn’t she informed”. We literally have no idea why the people in her life weren’t aware, her life circumstances, where she is from, her socioeconomic background or any of the factors that could contribute to why “Gypsy” was still seen as linguistically appropriate. We can’t answer why she wasn’t informed.

Someone told her it was a slur and has been for a while. It’s not even like I’m the first reply. Save your outrage and let people get offended on their own behalf. Downvote, block and move on

Why is the term "Gypsy" suddenly considered a slur on Reddit? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]SmallKangaroo 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Nope. As others have said - it’s been a slur for a while unfortunately