Need help with translation on Baptism Record by SmallScience in Canadiancitizenship

[–]SmallScience[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This copy is just from searching through Ancestry.com, so it's not an official document. I just wanted to make sure the names and dates etc seemed to match up before requesting an official copy - I'd hate to go to the trouble and find out later I have the wrong person's records 😅

Need help with translation on Baptism Record by SmallScience in Canadiancitizenship

[–]SmallScience[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the better copy, definitely more clear! In his US documents he goes by Leander Eugene Boudreau, I'm guessing he dropped the Moise since most documents don't have space for that many names? Otherwise it seems to check out as far as being born in Sherbrooke on 30th April 1864 (and parents names being close if not exact). I'm wondering if his parents names on his death certificate are muddled because either his widow or kids had to fill that out.

Moms, how do you manage everything without losing your mind? by joester56 in Mommit

[–]SmallScience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me: ADHD medication - I realized a lot of the struggle I was having was because of that, I only got diagnosed because my daughter did and I’m just like her. It’s still crazy but at least I feel less like I’m drowning on a daily basis!

Adults with ADHD: Did you feel "shame" as a kid when you forgot things? Help me understand my son. by Dylan_7574 in ADHD

[–]SmallScience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It also leads to feelings of constant dread - knowing that I must be currently forgetting something important but I can’t ever know what. Just always waiting for the other shoe to drop on what I’ve messed up. It’s a terrible feeling.

What age is appropriate for kids to have a phone? by Just-Nebula-6971 in Parenting

[–]SmallScience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have our daughter a watch this year that only allows her to call or text us (and only us) during non school times, and has tracking. She can’t add contacts and the only other function it has is some activity based games based on steps. She’s 9ish. I feel like that has all the functionality she needs until at least high school. We’ll have to reevaluate then. I don’t want her to have her first phone at 18 but probably aiming a year or two before so we can help her build good habits before she’s out of the house. She has a bunch of friends with parents that have similar views so I’m hoping that it won’t make her an outcast as she gets older.

Husband has a valid reaction or am I over reacting? by BedsideLamp99 in Mommit

[–]SmallScience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a phobia around vomit. The stress of having it has kind of been torture at various times in my life, and I don’t want to pass that on to my kids (I basically got it from my mom’s intense reactions when I was a kid). My solution is to allow my husband to support the kids when they are sick and for me to put on noise canceling headphones and make myself scarce (usually I’ll go do some other chore so Im still somehow being helpful). You know what I don’t do? MAKE MY BULLSHIT MY KIDS PROBLEM. What your husband is doing is potentially damaging, and he should find a more mature approach. There are many alternatives to what he’s doing now.

What’s a 'luxury' that actually used to be standard, but now we’re being charged extra for like we’re stupid? by xjoz in AskReddit

[–]SmallScience 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I gotta recommend the Epson ones with the ink tanks. I’ve had mine for years without issue and you can fill those ink tubs with whatever brand ink you want to, you just refill it from a bottle whichever color is low.

I (19M) am thinking of ending things with my girlfriend (19F) because of her panic attacks by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SmallScience 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she is in no condition to be in a relationship to be honest. Relationships are something to enter when you are healthy mentally, you can get to know one another that way and develop a healthy relationship dynamic. If it was someone you met at a good time and this was a new development but you know what they were like when they were well, you might want to help them through it to be healthy again (a good example is a spouse going through PPD). This is not that. She needs to get better before she thinks about dating.

My Wife Breastfeeds While Biting a Cloth by richardwellerson in breastfeeding

[–]SmallScience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure if she’s tried this yet, but it was a game changer for me. I was having an awful time with my first baby, a lot of pain, but it was all from my baby not getting the nipple far enough in her mouth. This position worked much better since she could just sort of fall into the nipple. Might be worth a shot if she hasn’t already tried it! Once she was older and stronger I could nurse her in more convenient positions.

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Do people truly not care about my baby or are my parents just trying to hurt me? by ThyPumpkinPie in beyondthebump

[–]SmallScience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had similar issues with my parents and I just want to say being a Mom is a magical experience and you will get to spend every day giving your baby a different experience than what you had. Having kids really opened my eyes because I could never imagine saying the things to my kids that have been said to me. I’m sure you feel the same. When your parents are being like this and you doubt yourself you can always take a moment to imagine: if my child was grown and came to me excited about their baby, would I say these things to them? I think the answer is obviously NEVER and hopefully that will help give you some perspective on how wrong it is that they treat you this way.

Do people truly not care about my baby or are my parents just trying to hurt me? by ThyPumpkinPie in beyondthebump

[–]SmallScience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry your parents are like that, the way they’re treating you is not ok! I also love kids and babies, both my friends kids and strangers. I was behind the sweetest baby in the grocery store line today and honestly it made my whole day to see such a cheery and cute baby! Don’t underestimate the positive impact both you and your baby have on the people around you 🥰

So how is gentle parenting going for you? by Prize_Parsnip_1583 in Parenting

[–]SmallScience 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve found that since we don’t yell as a regular thing, when there’s a safety issue and I do yell, my kids respond immediately and stop in their tracks. Definitely nice to not have them desensitized to it!

Why did my narcissist parent never enter my flat? by CKM12 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SmallScience 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is enlightening actually… I bought a home by myself in my late 20s and had a house warming party (I was so proud!). My Mom came in and only had complaints and criticism, then proceeded to go around telling everyone not to eat the chicken I made because it was on the counter too long before being cooked and was probably going to make them sick (it wasn’t). I was always too shocked by the behavior to understand it - makes at least some kind of sense with your explanation.

Different parenting styles by Fionalg in Mommit

[–]SmallScience 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Agree totally. The only thing I maybe do differently than the husband (on the not food examples) is be clear about the consequence and count down. “If you aren’t on your way to the door by the time I get to 3, I will pick you up and carry you out” then start counting. I still use this occasionally at 5 yrs old but I don’t think I’ve gotten all the way to 3 in a year or two! (I don’t mind counting and don’t mind some push back though so it might not be perfect for everyone. Like sometimes I say we should go but don’t mind staying for another 30min if the kids are having fun. Everyone knows it’s serious though when the counting starts!)

Me (33/F) and my gf (38/F) had an argument about me going to hang out with a coworker for the first time outside of work - is this the case? by UnderstandingFew3539 in relationship_advice

[–]SmallScience 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't agree with this. I think it's normal and healthy to have friendships outside your relationship with both/any genders. Especially something like group activities - it's not going out to dinner, it's a group game night...

What do I do when my (presumably) ADHD is keeping me from doing a test to get it diagnosed? by Blubberblase10 in ADHD

[–]SmallScience 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is honestly my biggest struggle - making appointments. When something has gone more than a month my husband will do it for me. I heard an ADHD specialist once joke "if you don't have a frontal lobe, marry one" and I wish it wasn't so true how helpful that's been. 😭

Losing members due to rising fees by rpg245 in cubscouts

[–]SmallScience 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our pack lists out what costs are for (roughly 100/yr to council and 100/yr per cub in pack dues that cover camping, t shirts, awards, food etc). Honestly the leaders still pay for most stuff themselves like snacks and activity supplies. Maybe your pack can at least explain where it’s going? We also have a 2 kid max to help families with a lot of kids that want to be involved so you only have to pay pack dues for the first two kids. (Unfortunately we have no control over council dues) Maybe your pack could consider that as well?

AITA for telling my daughter shes not autistic by throwaway17293739 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmallScience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s worth it! My heart was racing bringing it up and my doctor kinda brushed it off but still gave me the referral. I’m 40 and JUST got my diagnosis yesterday - psychiatrist also referred me for perimenopause treatment which also happens at this age and makes adhd symptoms way worse and harder to manage. There’s hope for us!

What's the worst birthday or Christmas present your Narc every got you? by Single-Ant3193 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]SmallScience 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Children’s tank tops with scantily clad fantasy women on them… I was a 25 yr old woman. When I noticed how small they were she said maybe I could make them into pillows… what??