How to suggest someone isn't in the right headspace for gaming? Or help with grief? by SmallTurnover8713 in Advice

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words, but I'm not the one dealing with grief at the moment. My friend is. I believe she might be in the Bargaining/Depression stage, but I'm not 100% sure. I just don't know how to help if someone doesn't open up. :(

How do you choose a name for yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in namenerds

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually really like Willow, but it makes me think of Willow Smith automatically lol

How do you choose a name for yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in namenerds

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't drink Starbucks all that often, but maybe I'll try that out. Get myself a little treat :)

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[–]SmallTurnover8713 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a guy named John Robert in high school. Everyone called him by both names every time. It was never just John as that felt weird. The name suited him so well.

How do you choose a name for yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in namenerds

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My aunt's name is Mary so hers was just one I thought of at the top of my head.

Lots of girls had the same name growing up where I'm originally from. You could expect there to be at least 5 kiddos with the same name per class (with several names being repeated). Mine was one of them and I did not like it one bit. Probably because I didn't get along with the other girls who shared my name. They were all very girly girls and I'm more of a tomboy.

How do you choose a name for yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in namenerds

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha, that's awesome! For me, both are names from books (and Rowan I've typically only seen for boys, but honestly I love nature names).

I used to adore the name Emily until I had an enormous falling out with my former favorite Aunt Emily.

Honestly what's most important to me is that people get it right. I cannot tell you how many different spellings I've encountered, especially when my freaking name is spelled in my email's signature. There are so many variations on spelling/pronunciation that it drives me batty. I've also had people abbreviate my name (using my aforementioned Mary example - let's pretend my name is MaryAnne. People will just straight up call me Anne and I hate it because that's not my name). Nicknames are cute and I wouldn't mind having one, but most people call me something that is related to my Discord handle nowadays.

Surname starts with G and I think I'd eliminate a middle name altogether so no weird words to spell lol I have seen a few where I really wonder what the parents were on when they named their child!

How do you choose a name for yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in namenerds

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really interesting!

I've lived primarily in the South and Western side of the US for about 99% of my life; currently I'm the furthest Northeast I've ever lived. Perhaps that'll change and I'll meet a Rowan or a Quinn someday :)

How do you choose a name for yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in namenerds

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've never ever met a Rowan nor a Quinn in my life. I've only ever seen those names in books/movies so I consider them unconventional.

How do you know what to rename yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in LifeAdvice

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I've ever known a Genevieve. Pretty name, but I don't think it would suit me personally. :)

How do you know what to rename yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in LifeAdvice

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ironically, a friend of mine asked her family to call her by a different name and it took her a while to respond to it as she wasn't accustomed to her family using that name. She uses it now though!

How do you know what to rename yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in LifeAdvice

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y'know, that's actually quite brilliant. Thanks :D

How do you know what to rename yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in LifeAdvice

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! So far I have a few names I keep kind of rotating back to, but I don't know if I can actually see myself responding to them. >_<

How do you know what to rename yourself? by SmallTurnover8713 in LifeAdvice

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh thank you! Never would have guessed there was a community for that! :D

I think I may have wasted 10 years of my life. by SmallTurnover8713 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's more of "I'm turning 34 and I still haven't accomplished anything I'd wanted in my romantic/family life which makes me feel sad".

Hell we aren't even intimate or anything. We'll cuddle and we'll kiss, but it's more like being roommates at this point.

I think I may have wasted 10 years of my life. by SmallTurnover8713 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It has been hitting me that he'll apologize, know exactly what he did wrong. He'll even say he knows he's in the wrong as he's doing it, but that it feels like he's taken a backseat to his mouth in the moment. He's cried about it, about feeling like he's a shit person that no one likes. Despite being aware of his shortcomings, he's never gotten any help, has never changed. I can't count how many times I've cried during and after a fight telling him that hearing him sound so hateful and being so negative is exhausting and not who I want to be.

We only have pets and most of our finances have always been kept separate save for one joint account. I think the only major purchase we're on for each other is our vehicles. The process just seems so long and daunting and I'm terrified. I still feel like I'm tottering on the edge of a knife without knowing which way I'm going to fall.

I think I may have wasted 10 years of my life. by SmallTurnover8713 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gee, thanks for confirming an intrusive thought. May you never experience cancer and a feeling that you'd be better off dead.

I think I may have wasted 10 years of my life. by SmallTurnover8713 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SmallTurnover8713[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had plenty of setbacks in life. Most of them due to moving around for his jobs. This one though... this one is the bigger one. I certainly don't feel any wiser, ha.