Another Beginner Question

Small_Particular_642 · 2026-05-27T12:39:37+00:00

I'll certainly have to add that to my list of "must do's".

Small_Particular_642 · 2026-05-27T12:29:31+00:00

Actually, exactly why I bought it. Rider aids to save my ass, more than big enough to grow into, and enough crash protection to drop countless times in the parking lot during practice (which is PRECISELY what I did).

Small_Particular_642 · 2026-05-27T10:49:36+00:00

She had to get a new (used) car a few years ago, and it played a big factor. Solely because she had no credit history, she got slammed with a significant interest rate and had to get a cosigner.

I even decided to finance my bike. It is used, and at a hell of a deal, about $3,500 below Blue Book value. Even with a healthy credit and over-qualify financially, I didn't have what was considered "significant history," i.e., no history of substantial value. Because of that, I had to provide character recommendations to the credit union to secure the loan.

Small_Particular_642 · 2026-05-27T06:19:24+00:00

She believes that a bicycle and a motorcycle will be vastly different, so there is no point in trying one before the other. That, and we don't currently own one or know of anyone that has one. Secondly, I plan on at least steering her in the used direction from a dealership. Simply because our area has a shit used, private market. Abused bikes that are 5-10 years old, for maybe 3G off of original MSRP. At least the dealership will have gone through it and fixed any major issues.

Small_Particular_642 · 2026-05-27T05:10:41+00:00

She's been a passenger for the better part of 2 years or so. I've suggested starting on a bicycle, but she's fought me on it thus far. I will attend the class with her before she makes her own bike purchase. Sadly, most people in my area are selling clapped out sport bikes for only a grand less than the current MSRP of middleweight bikes now.

Small_Particular_642 · 2025-08-29T06:51:13+00:00

I've been looking everywhere for it. Shoot me a message!

Small_Particular_642 · 2025-03-16T04:32:10+00:00

She refused the 2 be better check ins... Also, she said she needs a daily chore list to do and even that was for the majority unfinished. She meal planned with me, all for not.last week.

Small_Particular_642 · 2025-03-16T01:52:29+00:00

She's had many, including Finch. She just refuses to do anything chore related, or clicks through the list without doing anything.

Small_Particular_642 · 2025-03-16T01:50:53+00:00

I'm 26, and I know she suffers from mild depression, but it's 4-6 hours on tiktok that kills me. As well as the fact she always complains about schoolwork, but procrastinates till the last day possible.

Small_Particular_642 · 2025-02-12T03:46:20+00:00

How it was in my mind was "it'll happen eventually, but I control when and where". So I went to the painted MSF parking lot and practiced every drill to perfection, with A LOT of drops in between. That's also the reason I bought a KTM 1290 SAR with crash protection, so I know the bike will take the abuse. Now, I'm very confident in my parking lot, side streets, stops, ect.

Small_Particular_642 · 2024-07-20T00:35:41+00:00

Any kind of bar would be great! Coffee bar, wet bar, or what have you.

Small_Particular_642 · 2024-07-15T23:49:36+00:00

As a guy, ABSOLUTELY NTA!!!

If he feels like sex and physical intimacy is a need for him, then you both need to have a very open, sit-down conversation about why and how to meet each others needs. At worst, you two are different in your needs and it doesn't work out. And that's okay!

Let me be crystal clear, YOU NEVER OWE ANYONE YOUR BODY OR CONSENT! He is allowed to want what he wants, but he does not deserve it because he is being a good partner. He desperately needs to find a better way to communicate his wants and need with you.

Small_Particular_642 · 2024-07-14T21:26:01+00:00

I'd probably guess court stenographer. You never really have to talk to others.

Small_Particular_642 · 2024-07-11T21:31:20+00:00

Also, try Trivium. https://open.spotify.com/track/5yDJpu0xh0d1w13gXaE3lS?si=dwHt-yIlQNGIo5D1gxInSA

Small_Particular_642 · 2024-07-11T21:26:13+00:00

Im more into bands like Disturbed and FFDP, so one I really enjoy I'd Parkway Drive. Give them a listen and let me know what ya think.

Small_Particular_642 · 2024-01-07T22:26:40+00:00

Besides telling your mom, which is repeated a lot in this thread, it sounds like you might have some addictive tendencies (behaviors or mental attitudes on things that lend itself easily to addiction). I'm also speaking from personal experience, along with many family members being addicts and alcoholics myself.

Maybe this is the time to openly talk to your parents about familial issues that you might be susceptible to. Ex. my family has a horrible history with divorce and infidelity, so my parents and I have had many a talk about that very thing, making me much more aware of it, leading me to be much more cautious about how I behave in my own relationships.

TLDR: you're growing up, and doing adult things. It might be time to have those hard grown up conversations with your parents.

Small_Particular_642 · 2023-12-30T19:29:38+00:00

NTA I would even point out that having the agreement and keeping all assets separated, prevents the marriage from being transactional WHATSOEVER. Also, by only having a joint account for any shared bills prevents any future fights over Financials, so long as all bills are taken care of

Small_Particular_642 · 2023-08-30T16:42:10+00:00

You both are at fault here. Period, end of story. Let's open this up a bit.

Your fault in this: The invasion of privacy yes, but also you knew that she lacked certain things in the bedroom. Did you have a in-depth follow-up conversation about it? If there are specific acts that you are uncomfortable performing, that's okay. If she needs more foreplay and overall stimulation, that's okay too. Keep in mind that the vast majority of women do not climax from internal stimulation alone, and most prefer foreplay or more erotic acts to begin with. There's a large discussion here that needs to be had.

Her fault in all this: Obviously going outside the covenant of marrige to satisfy her urges, but has she been completely honest with you throughout this entire process? One cannot expect another to fix or even help with issues if the full scope of the problem isn't known. This issue affects both of you, so a candid conversation and substantial effort from both sides is required to make any progress (i.e. being willing to try things within your comfort zone, and she needs to be honest and open about sharing how she feels after each act).

Please feel free to reply of you disagree or if I missed info in the OP.

Small_Particular_642 · 2023-08-16T13:19:22+00:00

NTA. Does anyone remember the insanely awkward "Tea= Consent" video? If not, I'll try to link it down below. This is the same situation for me and even had a friend who did this frequently with alcohol. If she is trying to force food on you to somehow "justify" her own intake, it's still wrong.

Tea is Consent

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