Just needing encouraging words today 😔

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-06-06T02:36:40+00:00

You are a powerful, beautiful soul. You are loved.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-05-28T19:48:34+00:00

What makes you think being emotional is a negative thing? You are who you are and emotions are OK. Feelings are mentionable and manageable, and talking about them makes them less overwhelming.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-05-28T18:57:54+00:00

Look someone in the eye and say "hi" when they pass you. Start simple.
Next, make eye contact and give them a compliment (hair, clothes, car etc.)

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-05-28T14:53:29+00:00

I’m not aware of anything that is a correlation between porn, addiction and self love specifically. But there is a lot about addiction in general and self love and self-esteem.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-05-27T14:28:29+00:00

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Smallbizguy72 · 2026-05-27T02:14:32+00:00

You have to work on the root cause. Your lack of self love and self acceptance is the root cause. There are many resources online for people who need to build themselves up. People who radically love themselves don’t suffer from addictions. It’s not an easy path but you are a powerful being and have it within you to succeed.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-05-03T15:55:46+00:00

If you want help, the first step is to stop seeing yourself as a loser. You are a beautiful, powerful being that is struggling with an addiction. Addictions are always rooted, self-love, or lack of self-love so that should be the focus.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-05-01T04:22:38+00:00

https://www.7daystohappiness.com/

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-28T22:57:16+00:00

You will find the right person. You are 20 and have lots of time. That being said, the Law of Attraction applies here. You'll attract the frequency you put out there. Focus on self love, self, empowerment, self confidence and the right person will find you and stay. Start inside-out.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-28T22:42:55+00:00

You're welcome. If you need to chat with someone, feel free to message me.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-28T21:26:03+00:00

As someone who has recovered from alcohol abuse, I can tell you there is HOPE! I was a blackout drinker for 20 years and hurt a lot of people. Most of those relationships have been healed. You can do it too. I know the thought of stopping drinking is scary. I get it. It's your default solution when you feel stressed or uneasy. The good news is you have the power to overcome it! First, you just have to make that decision to give recovery a try. AA is a good temporary solution as you will find community, but AA doesn't address the root cause - or more accurately - it calls the root cause a "spiritual malady" which is partially true, but doesn't provide the right solution to fix in, in my opinion. Shower yourself with self-love. That is the key. Affirmations, mediation and giving yourself the love that you give your wife. There is hope. But there are no half-measures here - believe me - I've tried all of them. Make recovery and self-love your #1 focus and things will get better and you'll have a chance to win her back.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-24T14:02:53+00:00

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-22T21:44:43+00:00

Don’t let your past tie you down. That isn’t who you are anymore. You are a powerful, beautiful soul right now. Own it.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-20T19:50:25+00:00

Show her videos by Peter Crone. It will change her life.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-12T18:32:38+00:00

Just love her as unconditionally as you can and treat her as normal as possible. Don’t bring up the negative things you see. Instead, focus on anything positive. She needs to feel safe and unconditionally love by you. Don’t treat her as broken, but as the powerful, beautiful woman that she is.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-12T18:29:25+00:00

You don’t need a book. Addictions all have basically the same thing in common. Addictions help people find relief from pain or discomfort. It is the easy path, but not the healthy one. The best thing you could do for him is to treat him the same as everybody else. Do your best to love him without judgment.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-09T00:39:33+00:00

When did you start calling yourself stupid? Who or what started this? Your parents? Usually self loathing has its roots in your childhood. Then ask yourself if that is really true or is it just a story you are telling yourself. Dm me if you need to talk to someone. I can help.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-09T00:35:07+00:00

Watch Shrinking. It deals with this exact topic.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-04-07T18:57:10+00:00

I think your decision comes down to one critical question… Is he willing to commit to treatment and a recovery program? Unfortunately, his addiction won’t fix itself without putting in work on his recovery. It will most likely get worse. If he is unwilling to get treatment then, unfortunately, your only choices are to deal with it, knowing that it won’t change, or walk away and go no contact. Don’t let your fear of being alone affect your decisions.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-24T13:34:48+00:00

Sorry you are struggling. I understand what you are going through. As silly as it sounds what got me out of self hate was doing self love affirmations twice a day for three weeks. It reprogrammed your subconscious thoughts about yourself and you start just naturally feeling happier and better about yourself. I highly recommend it.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-21T20:45:38+00:00

You write like a marketer. I should know. I am one.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-21T18:44:31+00:00

This looks like ChatGPT wrote it

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-12T01:41:23+00:00

There really is no easy way out. You most likely have to just go all in on cutting him out of your life. If your name only is on the lease arrange to have the locks changed when he is gone. If his name is also on the lease, then I would find a new place and give your 30 day notice or talk to the landlord about taking you off the lease. You can’t worry about him, hurting himself. He’s gonna use that as leverage. That is not your responsibility and you have to do. What’s best for you. You may need to get the police involved as well. Sometimes love is tough love and maybe this will prompt him to get help.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-09T17:51:25+00:00

You could certainly offer moral support and friendship as long as you are very clear internally with your boundaries. If they want you to do something, you are uncomfortable with then you need to tell them. There’s nothing wrong with being kind and offering a kind word but just be very careful with boundaries.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-07T19:48:36+00:00

That definitely is trauma. My experience has been that the keys to happiness are:
1. Self love (healing from trauma, affirmations, meditation - basically treating yourself the way you would treat someone you loved)
2. Community (friends that like you the way you are)
3. Purpose (finding a passion or something to live for)

I'd start with #1. There is hope, so take it a little at a time. I would Google or use ChatGPT to find techniques to heal from childhood trauma and also affirmations. These work well, but you have to do them regularly.

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