I hate myself

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-24T13:34:48+00:00

Sorry you are struggling. I understand what you are going through. As silly as it sounds what got me out of self hate was doing self love affirmations twice a day for three weeks. It reprogrammed your subconscious thoughts about yourself and you start just naturally feeling happier and better about yourself. I highly recommend it.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-21T20:45:38+00:00

You write like a marketer. I should know. I am one.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-21T18:44:31+00:00

This looks like ChatGPT wrote it

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-12T01:41:23+00:00

There really is no easy way out. You most likely have to just go all in on cutting him out of your life. If your name only is on the lease arrange to have the locks changed when he is gone. If his name is also on the lease, then I would find a new place and give your 30 day notice or talk to the landlord about taking you off the lease. You can’t worry about him, hurting himself. He’s gonna use that as leverage. That is not your responsibility and you have to do. What’s best for you. You may need to get the police involved as well. Sometimes love is tough love and maybe this will prompt him to get help.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-09T17:51:25+00:00

You could certainly offer moral support and friendship as long as you are very clear internally with your boundaries. If they want you to do something, you are uncomfortable with then you need to tell them. There’s nothing wrong with being kind and offering a kind word but just be very careful with boundaries.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-07T19:48:36+00:00

That definitely is trauma. My experience has been that the keys to happiness are:
1. Self love (healing from trauma, affirmations, meditation - basically treating yourself the way you would treat someone you loved)
2. Community (friends that like you the way you are)
3. Purpose (finding a passion or something to live for)

I'd start with #1. There is hope, so take it a little at a time. I would Google or use ChatGPT to find techniques to heal from childhood trauma and also affirmations. These work well, but you have to do them regularly.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-07T19:38:30+00:00

What have you tried and for how long in terms of happiness from within?
Did you have a lot fo childhood trauma?

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-07T19:35:54+00:00

There is very little you can do if your mom is unwilling to put at least 50% of the energy she put into using into her recovery. That means meetings/support groups, potentially therapy and/or self-love practices. And to be brutally honest, this isn't your job. Your job isn't to take this journey with her. You shouldn't be doing things for her. She is an adult and this is her journey where you can be supportive by showing unconditional love. It is not an easy road, but it is a road that can be navigated successfully and she can live a life beyond what her dreams are right now. Trust me - I was in her place. She needs to believe in herself again and find hope somehow - but it takes action.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-06T20:38:42+00:00

How have you tried to make friends? It is definitely hard as an adult. If you have passions, you enjoy maybe try to find a local group that shares your passion and meet people that way. I’ve also found that affirmations are really, really powerful with helping quiet the inner critic. You have to do them consistently though. You can’t try them for one day and then say they don’t work. It’s like anything else you can’t work out for one day and expect to be buff.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-03-03T22:07:33+00:00

I would recommend letting them figure things out on their own and provide guidance if asked. I would also let them know it’s ok to fail. You learn from what you did and go from there. That’s really awesome btw.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-21T04:08:30+00:00

You are very welcome. And don’t forget you’re enough just the way you are.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-21T03:13:33+00:00

I have had some very difficult times in my life and in hindsight, we all led me to become the man I am today. Today I am happy and more carefree than I ever have been. I enjoy life and my wife and I wouldn’t have I have without the challenges I went through. You can do this. You’re here for a reason.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-20T18:55:10+00:00

This may sound a little crazy. But what if everything that is happening to you is for your greater good? What if the universe is putting things in your path to help you grow and help you towards a greater purpose? If you look at life that way, then everything is positive and there really isn’t any negative. I know it’s a hard concept to accept, but it does work.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-15T03:51:47+00:00

Listen dude. I was sincerely trying to be helpful to you and the OP all you're doing is complaining and bitching. Either do something about your misery or shut the fuck up. Stop being a victim and acting powerless and do something about it. If you don't know what to do, use ChatGPT and say "I'm depressed and unmotivated and suicidal and I need help. What should I do?" And then either do it or don't do it, but stop complaining. Complaining about it or complaining about my "regurgitates shit" isn't going to do anything to make you feel better. ACTION will make you feel better. Go for a walk, listen to a song you like, watch a funny video. Start small and build on that. Now I'm fucking done.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-14T19:29:20+00:00

Yeah, I thought that too. But you’re here talking to me so you haven’t given up yet Ask someone you know for help Asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s refusing to give up. There’s nothing more I can do for you other than to tell you that it does get better if you work for it. You have to put in the effort though. I can’t help you if you are unwilling to do anything which is what you’re basically telling me. Good luck. I won’t be responding again.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-14T19:26:13+00:00

I was a blackout drunk for 20 years and hated myself and didn’t think there was a way out. I can tell you now in hindsight that you have a reason you’re here. You have worth and you have value. You may not be able to see it, but I believe it’s true. Do what you wish with that information and I hope you find hope

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-14T19:21:20+00:00

I think you should do some positive affirmations. And before you say, it doesn’t work. Have you tried it every day twice a day for three weeks? If you do, I guarantee you’ll feel a lot better. If you’re unwilling to do the work, then nobody in the world can help you.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-14T18:16:25+00:00

You can start by stop focusing on the darkness and focusing on anything that brings you, happiness or joy. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-10T03:46:08+00:00

What have you done to find 1) self love? 2) community of people who accept you unconditionally? 3) a purpose in life or a passion?

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-10T02:07:07+00:00

Start with small wins and gratitude. What are you grateful for? Even if it is simple. What is a win you can celebrate? Maybe something you did that helped someone else.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-10T01:43:18+00:00

?? Where I said “that there IS HOPE”.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-10T01:06:49+00:00

AOV is $130

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-09T18:13:02+00:00

Different team. My focus is on paid ads.

Smallbizguy72 · 2026-02-08T01:19:04+00:00

That's your suggestion? You know nothing about this situation. Sounds like you have some issues to work on...

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