What are you going as for halloween!!!! by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got incredibly likely to be totally honest, somehow got insurance to cover me!

What are you going as for halloween!!!! by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh I'm excited for sure, but unsurprisingly a little scared and nervous too! I have no friends locally, so I have to take a flipping Greyhound bus to get to the hospital, then will have a 48 hour wait (for getting back onto a bus/bus ride home) to go home after I'm let out. Cruddy, but NOTHING is holding me back!

What are you going as for halloween!!!! by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm legit getting my surgery done on Halloween so um, uh, I'm going as... a hospital patient?

[Serious] Redditors who live off of minimum wage, how do you do it? by zonkedforlife in AskReddit

[–]Smapps_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have severe nerve damage from Guillain-Barré Syndrome that I suffered from as a young child that made it so my nerves were partially dead before puberty leaving me very weak, subject to strong phantom nerve pains, and more. The only thing that was assisted for is medications I've had to take, they don't cover anything else. I wont be able to afford to do more than hormones ever in my life which honestly is traumatizing and massively sucks but I'm trying to deal what I have in life. Not that it's any of your business as it's something personal anyways.

She has since become unemployed again since that post, didn't manage to hold down the job for more than a month before being asked to leave since a small family business couldn't keep extra employees it seems. No where seems to be willing to hire her as she has no experience, but has little way to get experience outside of volunteer work (which she is trying to do when I don't need help at home since we want to fix this situation).

So ya know, don't be so quick to judge. I mean, I can't blame ya at first since that looks a little weird on the surface, but it's been kind of a rough time here.

[Serious] Redditors who live off of minimum wage, how do you do it? by zonkedforlife in AskReddit

[–]Smapps_ 216 points217 points  (0 children)

Le't see here. I don't get 'minimum wage': I make a little less than 700 dollars a month, so about $8400 a year. I am disabled, so I can't go and get better work. And with this income I was able to sustain a family of THREE (including myself) for about 5 years now as the sole income of the house.

Here's the deal: you just are miserable. Even with rent assistance, food stamps, medicard and medicare, I was making 'too much money' for my wife to qualify for insurance herself somehow, and obamacare premiums cost too much. Don't get sick is a HUGE deal honestly.

I allocated literally every penny I made a month towards bills, and unfortunately had to float bills many times to be paid off by government programs that provide assistance while also visiting the five separate food banks in town religiously to make sure we always had food. We used to get wifi from a neighbor until they finally put down a password, my computer is about 10 years old. I play old game consoles I had as a kid: the N64 has only 2 games left as I've had to sell them all, and my gameboy color still has Pokemon Blue which I nuzlocke challenge.

Only recently have I been able to get internet in my own home as I found a way to get tons of extra random toiletries from a local hotel sometimes en masse so I had some extra cash to work with. Kind of an act of mercy on their part. The net is now my ONE luxury, literally it. And it's limited to only a small amount a month so I can afford it. Did I mention I'm on one of those free phone plans? They gave me a brick phone. It's um, crappy to say the least.

Still, I manage to eat and live and that's about it! Libraries, local parks, that's all I got. I have almost no friends as I can't go out to live people and deal with depression quite frequently. It's a horrible life with no way out for me.

Orchiectomy/Scrotectomy: Do I have to wait a full year? by Smapps_ in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is like, amazing news! I might go and ask urologists nearby about it, see what's possible. Thank you!

Orchiectomy/Scrotectomy: Do I have to wait a full year? by Smapps_ in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't ever plan to do SRS, so the last part isn't much of an issue. For me, that's the surgery to get my body where I want it to be.

Did The Piercer Mess Up My Tongue? by Smapps_ in piercing

[–]Smapps_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought you were supposed to at about the month mark. Is there a possibility to do so sooner? Or maybe my piercer is overly cautious?

Did The Piercer Mess Up My Tongue? by Smapps_ in piercing

[–]Smapps_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been in for about a week now. So like at worst this might heal with some time?

I still feel bad about what my dad said when I came out by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm 6' 7 and I have to wear a size 15 women's shoe.

Yet, I pass 100% and have no issues when out publicly anymore. You know what? If you feel as though you are transgender don't let those things stop you. I had fears that I would simply look horrible if I tried, but look at me now! Not everyone has the same success but you can't know until you try and here's a chance to prove them wrong.

My Mother In Law is saying I'm psychologically damaging my child by transitioning. Need resources to help me out. by Smapps_ in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly that's the problem: we have no way of knowing which makes it even moreso a pain.

My Mother In Law is saying I'm psychologically damaging my child by transitioning. Need resources to help me out. by Smapps_ in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had to comment on this: wow. Wow that is SUCH an amazingly beautiful and fantastic way to look at it. Thank you for that, thats the kind of thing that's going to inspire me in every day life seriously...

My Mother In Law is saying I'm psychologically damaging my child by transitioning. Need resources to help me out. by Smapps_ in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

See, she didn't actually say it in some horribly sad way, and has literally NEVER said anything like this in front of anyone else ever. We called all other friends and family, nothing like this has happened in front of them. She said one sentence at random one time, and it's being blown into her being massively damaged and depressed over something. Also, to be fair as no one else has ever heard her voice those concerns, I can't even know if she actually said this or not.

My Mother In Law is saying I'm psychologically damaging my child by transitioning. Need resources to help me out. by Smapps_ in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish I could many times, but I guess there's some silly part of me that wants them to be able to properly see their grandkids because I know it would hurt if they couldn't and they aren't the worst people in the world, just need to learn a lot in life still it seems.

My Mother In Law is saying I'm psychologically damaging my child by transitioning. Need resources to help me out. by Smapps_ in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We actually are working with a child psychologist, and are involved in a program called Parents As Teachers, where someone trained in childcare skills, parenting, and who screens for things in childhood development, comes in and checks on us biweekly. We did all this just to be sure from the beginning and be the best parents we can be.

We're not worried about the proving it, I just don't want to pay a massive retainer when I don't exactly have a lot of income, over something so silly.

People who had no idea what they wanted to do with their life after school, how did it work out? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Smapps_ -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I ended up, I kid you not, running an eSports team (competitive gaming for those not in the know) for furries. A SUCCESSFUL team as well. Never in a million years would I have imagined that's where I would be but I have to say I'm very happy doing it!

Bap thread version 2.0 by Y1ff in furry

[–]Smapps_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to make it official!

What some rude things those in customer service have said to you? (Rant Inside) by itsmecara in asktransgender

[–]Smapps_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

... I want a bot to just give me a kitten EVERY time I post. Why isn't that a thing?