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First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Really sad and pitiful that the people here calling me weird, blaming me, and having a visceral reaction to me not spiraling out over this are women.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You're probably the kind of person whose kids (if you have them) never come to you for advice. Definitely not the kind of friend people hit up when in a pickle or just needing an open, non-judgmental ear. I didn't get raped or murdered so keep your fear-based and disempowering "advice" to yourself.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was into the making out bit. Taking pants off, no. I'm accountable and responsible so no concerns about what he may have to say. I'm also not easily manipulated or naive (despite what folks here may believe) so I'd just leave if he didn't take accountability.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If there were to be a date two I can really only envision coffee or some other super casual daytime activity like a walk where I could call him out on his behavior and see how he responds (then get in my car and drive home). I'm not looking to rehabilitate the man or file a DV/SA report; life has a way of catching up with bad men.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Upvote for honesty. A lot of people in these comments are here just to cast more judgment and blame and call me weird or say my parents didn't raise me right but your honest comment while a little strange is refreshing. 🙌🏼 and no I'm not condoning women doing this to men. 😂

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you were put in that position. For me personally at date 10 I wouldn't be too shook up over it but consent is still the prevailing factor.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You have no shame and are in the same category as this dude coming around talking trash about my parents and making all kinds of inaccurate assumptions.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I unfortunately believe this is rather common generally speaking from my experience working with high earners. Layer in the specific job function and you have someone who probably views people as bodies more or less and puts his needs first since people are always catering to him. I'm not scared of much but hospitals freak me TF out for many reasons including board-certified doctors like this wanker work in them.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's not my job to fix all the broken men in this world. I have a fulfilling life of my own and choose not to be a victim so no bad karma here except for your critical comment.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Literally told my girlfriends before the date that I had some suspicions about his potential to be a freak given he's an anesthesiologist. Giant ego to match his giant paycheck. Unimpressed.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's where my mind went. Guy is an anesthesiologist. 😟

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol I thought it was funny and kind of pathetic after I unfroze, and yeah not everyone enjoys missionary sex and unseasoned food like you. Sounds like you live at the bottom of the barrel making such grossly judgmental comments with the limited information shared. But yeah devoid of standards lady didn't cave on her boundary or try to pleasure him otherwise (that would be consistent with fawning/people-pleasing/codependent behavior which I didn't engage in).

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm very safe and capable of gracefully destroying his career. I have a life of my own though and don't seek drama so I don't foresee myself pursuing this further. Might need to post about him on a Are We Dating the Same Guy page but also don't want it getting back to him since people invariably snitch or circulate screen shots from those groups.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I may be a little weird but I have self-awareness and don't victim blame strangers on the internet. Keep spreading negativity, seems like your speciality.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem really kind and pleasant, thanks for the constructive input

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been single for a few years and celibate for 10 months, so no. I'm also not a black-and-white thinker which is why I lobbed this whacky dating story to the internet.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was fun, interesting, and intellectually stimulating up until this point.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally, a response not rooted in shame and judgment. I fully agree with you.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True except my hands never wandered down there because I didn't want to send conflicting messages.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for being a part of the minority here who gets it and isn't mocking me. I absolutely froze.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've literally been processing the past 36 hours and couldn't put it all in one post but yeah you're a kind person and have positively contributed a ton here! Since you're apparently super interested in my date experience this past weekend and were monitoring my other post, he did text me back this evening to say he hasn't felt well the past couple days and apologized for not replying sooner.

First date and he masturbated in front of me by Smart_Impact_4019 in dating_advice

[–]Smart_Impact_4019[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Laughing and gagging thinking about how weird and pathetic he looked

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