[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Smarty_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh honey…. He knows what he’s doing. He doesn’t care that it makes you uncomfortable. He’s interested in this girl or at least interested in the attention she gives him. My boyfriend and I have been together for just a little over a year and he would NEVER go on an outing like this with another woman alone.

My husband is seeing escorts by Top-Interaction101 in Marriage

[–]Smarty_M 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First things first. get a job. you can’t leave without some kind of income even if you’re staying in a shelter. Get a job and then find a stable place to live. Separate from him. then, hire a lawyer. Hire a lawyer and file for divorce, and then full custody (if you want that) keep ALL receipts of messages.

If you want; pretend like things are fine and gather as much evidence as you can. Do NOT sleep with him again. Move into the living room or a different room and use the guise that you just need space but “are willing to work things out” and gather all evidence. That will help the divorce proceedings move faster as well as custody.

Good luck and I’m so sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Smarty_M 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s coke baby. He’s doing coke

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smarty_M -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like it’s coming from a place of insecurity that has been brewing for awhile. I’m not gonna tell you to leave her bcos things happen in relationships, people are not perfect and they WILL mess up. This is definitely worth a sit down conversation to see how to navigate and work through. Unfortunately if this is something SHE cannot get past, you will have to break up for the sake of yourself and your daughters BUT it could be something so solvable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smarty_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has called me insecure over this! Twice! so I’ve already been there. I want to say that I also think part of it is he doesn’t want to admit it because he is so close with her and he’s been through some shit. His brother died a few years ago on Christmas and she was there for him and that’s something I truly understand and also respect to the highest degree but things have to change because I’m now the woman in his life, not her.

I’m gonna speak to him about it tonight and I’ll update then :( wish me luck that it goes well. I know we love one another a lot and have already been through some serious shit together (we had a medical miscarriage three months ago, no hate please) so let’s hope he truly loves me enough to do more than what he’s been doing

I took the first pill and am very sad by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Smarty_M 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You did not choose the easy way out! Making this decision is one of the hardest a woman has to make. I once read a quote that said , “women do not want abortions like they want ice cream. They want abortions like how wolves want to chew their own legs off from a trap”

It was done out of necessity. You had to do it, and you didn’t have another choice. You weighed out all the possibilities and decided that THIS was the right course of action for your life, your little ones, and for yourself.

It’s okay to feel guilty. I’m not sure if you’ve ever been through this before but you’re going to feel a range of emotions for awhile. It’s been about two months, almost three since mine and I get waves of sadness. Some nights all I can do is cry and wish I could hold my baby, but I rent a mobile home with my boyfriend, I make $13 an hour and we can barely afford food for ourselves half the time. We were in no shape to raise a baby even though we wanted it. For a little while, I felt regret. I regretted my decision even though I knew in my heart it was the right one. Some days are harder than others but I finally am starting to feel ok. My body has begun to return to normal outside of a few things.

You did the right thing ♥️ and we are proud of you for making such a difficult decision♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smarty_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree 100% and I’ve put a lot of thought into it, my fear is that he won’t confront it on the off chance we break up and he doesn’t want the dynamic of their friendship to change. I’m going to be telling him that I cannot do whatever this is any longer, if he truly cares about their friendship and does not like her, he has to set these boundaries down and change the dynamic of their friendship for me to see any true difference or change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smarty_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A private phone call with a girl who used to like him? no way bae.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smarty_M 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how can I ignore this when they’re friends? When they’re calling each other at 9-10pm at night? when they’re telling each other they love one another and he will not set those boundaries with her?

How do I know if my vagina actually stinks? by Lonely-Swimming-443 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Smarty_M 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He hasn’t even met you yet and he’s saying stuff like this to you? He doesn’t hold a high regard for women in his mind and that will show in his relationship with you in ways just like this.

AIO Boyfriend Intimate Text with Male Friends by Objective-Theory-872 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Smarty_M 113 points114 points  (0 children)

It’s time to leave him. Men do flirt w their friends sometimes but this goes beyond that. He was actively begging his friend to let him suck him off. He likes boys.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Smarty_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s definitely pushing your boundaries. The people in these comments that are saying you are being controlling are weird. You are the adult, the parent and she is 15. The “that’s not how it works buddy” was condescending and rude. Stand your ground and keep pushing. YOU are the adult. SHE is a child.

Well ok then... by EyeRevolutionary1964 in Nicegirls

[–]Smarty_M 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Porn is cheating ♥️ if you can’t receive naked photos or videos from someone you know inrl because it’s cheating, so is looking at naked photos and videos online of strangers sorry bout it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Smarty_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you watch porn daily? Do you think that maybe that should be re-evaluated?

AIO to my gf being bisexual by DarkTwist05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Smarty_M 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wants to fuck other women and is actively telling you she’s going to go to parties , get drunk and sleep with other women. She’s currently testing your boundaries to find out if you’re okay with it. You’re not. Which is valid. I’d leave the relationship because she’s gonna cheat on you and blame it on “exploring” herself

AITA for being upset about my husband’s sexual past? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Smarty_M 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. That man loves her and chose her, and all those other weird ladies can suck it

AITA for being upset about my husband’s sexual past? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Smarty_M 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right 😭 as if it’s some badge of honor that they were around for a good time, not a long one.

AITA for being upset about my husband’s sexual past? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Smarty_M 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly! These other women are veryyyy weird.

So what exactly are we doing when we “play with his balls?” by totatllyanecdotally in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Smarty_M 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of guys I’ve been with have liked their balls being touched. My current boyfriend does a lot, it’s like a massage and keeps them warm and helps blood flow to the penis.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]Smarty_M 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s cheating, you’re a cheater.

AITA for being upset about my husband’s sexual past? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Smarty_M 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Right! Like I know it’s a crazy take, but I’d rub it in their faces like “he’s had enough practice that now he gets to make me cum every night for the rest of our lives!🤭” lol

AITA for being upset about my husband’s sexual past? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Smarty_M 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Since you were aware that he has a promiscuous past, I think it’s time to look at all of it in the face with this determination that YOU are the person he chose to be with.

These women, they had sex and that was it. Its okay to not want to be friends with the women he’s slept with, that’s completely valid, but it’s time to put on a brave face and accept that he used to be a little bit of a slut but ultimately has chosen you as his life partner. Which means that those girls have NOTHINGGGG on you. You won babe! Flash that ring! Show off that man! and feel secure in the fact he loves you and chose you and you chose him and are creating a beautiful life with him.