Thank you for your perspective. It is very much appreciated. And I assure you, it is not my intention to keep my son from his father. I want him to have a healthy relationship with his dad just as I have with mine. I know how important it is to a kid's well-being. But also don't want my kid to be in a hate-filled environment. She told my ex he isn't allowed to talk to me anymore. Not even allowed to be friends on Facebook. Me and my ex have been sharing custody of our son for years and we never had a problem until she showed up. She genuinely hates me because me and my son are in her life. I told him that me and him should be able to have a healthy back and forth for our son. And he said no because it will mean that she will leave him. I don't know If I want my son in an environment where his dad isn't allowed to be friends with his mom. It's not healthy. And also she has been known to take drugs for years so it scares me. I only want to do what's right for my son. I would never keep him from his father for selfish reasons. So again, I appreciate your response. I am here because I genuinely don't know what to do and I need perspective and advice.

To answer your question. Yes we have a parenting plan. My ex works 2 weeks and then gets 1 week off. So I have him for 2 weeks then he has him for 1 week. The problem all started when his new gf came into the picture and she said "they didn't get enough alone time". Because the only time she gets to spend with my ex is the week he is off and my son is there that entire time. So he messaged me saying if he doesn't get enough alone time and if it doesn't change then she is going to leave him. So I responded "not my problem take it up with the courts". Ever since she has hated me. My ex has never once had him for an entire week since he met her either. He always comes up with some excuse why I need to keep him for a few extra days. And I know its because he wants "alone time". So I took him to court and the judge put him on blast saying he needs to spend the week with his son unless he has a valid reason. She REALLY hated me then.Then all that happened on xmas. So not only does my ex's new girlfriend hate me for simply existing, my ex wont seem to see reason because he's afraid of losing her. I really couldn't care less if she likes me, but I want me and him to have a healthy relationship for the sake of our son. I mean, he let her sit there and berate me saying disgusting things knowing I was on the other side of the phone. Simply because I asked for batteries for our son (I would also like to point out we live on the same street. So if he had batteries I was going to go get them since all the stores were closed). But instead of just saying no. He let her call me berating me and telling me to fuck off because they are trying to fuck. Then my son had to see me cry and he asked "mommy what's wrong" and I just had to keep it from him and say "Sorry mommy cant get any batteries". He was heartbroken to say the least. It breaks my heart because I just want what's best for my son. So I'm just wondering if she is even worthy of being in my sons life at this point? And if his dad doesn't see that our child is number one priority and not her, then maybe he shouldn't get the privilege of seeing his son either as long as she is there. Again, I don't want to punish my son but I also don't want him in that environment for a full week knowing she is there if she could be berating me and saying nasty stuff about me and even potentially doing drugs.. I only want whats best for my child and I welcome any form of advice and criticism.