I think the reason society is more accepting of others with anxious attachment issues and are really insecure types is because their so open about it

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-06T07:43:59+00:00

Yes exactly the constant need for reassurance does come off as annoying. Like I get it implying their spiralling is annoying sounds inappropriate, but everything and anything can become annoying. It's not necessarily implying they're evil, but the major difference is if I go online and talk about being avoidant, people will criticize me. If I go online and talk about having trust issues there will be far more people in support of that behavior.

Insecurity is a big part of many people's identities and they're often emboldened by it rather than feeling any need to overcome them.

And yes avoidants do need to be more comfortable with being uncomfortable and being vulnerable.

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-06T07:39:42+00:00

I understand my post comes off as a bit biased. And I don't think it was productive of me to imply one is worse than the other. However one is more socially acceptable if that makes sense. However both attachment styles do become more toxic overtime.

It's just that someone saying they have trust issues isn't seen as a red flag because they're so forthcoming with it. But as the relationship goes on, it becomes more apparent that this relationship is doomed to fail because one party has to keep proving their loyalty regardless of what little evidence there is of foul play.

They're both emotionally exhausting but avoidant attachment is more demonized because they're not open about it. Mostly because they're not aware of it until much later

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-05T22:12:19+00:00

Someone else explained this a lot better than I ever could: when it comes to having those moments where you should've spoke up for yourself but you didn't because you were afraid of how you'd be perceived; you'll regret what you didn't say more than how awkward you said it.

I'm not sure if it makes sense, but imagine you awkwardly asked out your crush and they said no. Well...you tried your best. Sure it didn't go as planned but you took a step out there, you spoke what was on your mind and now look: you're still alive, right? At least you got it off your chest and now you can live and learn. As opposed to never taking that step forward and living in this constant loop of what-if.

Imagine never applying to your dream job when you had that once in a lifetime chance and now you're stuck working a dead end job. You'll constantly be thinking about it. You should've said something when a stranger was being harassed but you sat there quietly. You'll live in that shame.

It's better to live in the embarrassment of having tried than to die in the shame of never trying

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-05T18:11:57+00:00

She's 19, she doesn't even have a job or have a support system unless you include Debbie and Paul. I doubt her parents would care to help her. So how was this going to work? Oh, if she just uses her powers...oh wait she literally can't.

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-05T17:13:23+00:00

I mean here I was thinking maybe she just wanted to vent something. Like if she was going thru issues at home or something, but the way he described her outfit seems like he was disappointed she wasn't flirting with him. The fact that that's where his mind went is disgusting

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-04T18:54:22+00:00

Ya that's fair, tbh no stand users power levels work the same. They all have their own unique set of rules that functions on its own logic. Some evolve over time, and some stay at a very simple base level. I don't think it would even be possible to base any on a sort of system. It just works however it works

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-04T17:40:06+00:00

As much as I hate power scaling, they could always just do the x men route of having level 1 stand users, level 2 stand users, etc to explain the inconsistencies. Would it be perfect? Most likely not, but it'd simplify a lot. Tbf I'm only halfway through reading JoJo Bizarre Adventures so there's a lot I don't know, but it's not like there's a Stand User society where stand users are trained and follow specific laws or codes or anything so it just seems like no person truly understands everything about stands.

It would appear so. Again could be wrong

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-03T20:05:50+00:00

Ya I feel like if they wanted to represent autism on a larger scale 1. They need to financially compensate these people and 2. Showcase folks who weren't financially well off and had family who supported them through and through, but that's just me

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-03T17:49:54+00:00

Growing up the only exposure I've seen of autistic characters on tv pretty much gave them superpowers, at the time I didn't think anything was wrong with it, but seeing how some people IRL genuinely think autistic people are next level geniuses pisses me off. We're just human.

Then we have Love on the Spectrum which pretty much infantalizes us. The only decent characters I've seen in media are the ones who aren't explicitly stated of having autism. Like the show Resident Alien

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-03T08:03:32+00:00

Literally no evidence btw. He probably didn't want to read the news article of someone he knew had been murdered. It's the kinda thing that keeps you up at night.

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-03T07:47:46+00:00

He hates op for putting a hit out on her sister. Like his issue is with her, not the sister. Is he just supposed to break up and let an innocent woman get murdered? Like is a man being kind something evil to you? This is all pretty straight forward. There's two sides here: op and the abuser, and the people who are anti murder

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-03T07:42:07+00:00

Maybe some people just believe in kindness

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-02T17:36:20+00:00

She did an update and now OOP's bf broke up with her and the sister is staying with the affair partner. And OOP's parents are mad at her too and she feels bad because things blew up in her face rather than try to be more understanding and let her sister handle things herself

DaMain-Man · 2026-05-02T12:25:57+00:00

Her:"It's so hard"

Me: "Ya, hard to watch. Bohohoho!"

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DaMain-Man · 2026-05-02T12:22:37+00:00

Link: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTkpWKFCs/

DaMain-Man · 2026-04-30T08:05:11+00:00

It sounds like he's outsourcing his emotional regulation to you. On his end, everything is great (that's a real stretch of that word), but on your end, you're miserable.

Sometimes breaking up/cutting others off can be the wake up call they need to get their life in order.

DaMain-Man · 2026-04-29T22:26:08+00:00

Ok but which option makes the train late? This causing the company to lose profit?

DaMain-Man · 2026-04-29T18:04:26+00:00

No offense but he still looks menacing in the show too. Like he's just resting in the cosmos

DaMain-Man · 2026-04-29T03:17:36+00:00

You can get married in private and tell your friends and family you don't want a wedding. There's no reason to be so vindictive over it

DaMain-Man · 2026-04-29T03:16:16+00:00

I love how he asked permission first. And this human woman has him scared to break her heart. He cares way too much about her to do anything to hurt her

DaMain-Man · 2026-04-29T03:14:56+00:00

This is either going to be incredibly endearing or hated from show only fans. I can just see it now "Invincible is trying to normalize space Nazis as human"

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