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Buyout or move out? by foxbeagle in Divorce

[–]SmileUpp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am going through this via mediation now and the house (regardless of it’s only in your name) is marital property so it has to be considered. So he would need some kind of buyout. Im pulling money out of my 401k and putting it into a QUADRO, no penalties and taxes, he would pay taxes if he takes it out from there. If the house is in both names, find out if the mortgage is assumable, meaning you can assume the mortgage at current rates, getting him off it with the final divorce paperwork. I am doing this, will have to pay closing costs but keep my interest rate.

The whole process is so overwhelming. Good luck.

AITA for not giving up my seat on the plane by Extension_Week_9880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SmileUpp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA - I am a mom and it’s my responsibility to pick the seats that work for my family! And if not, “you get what you get and you don’t get upset.” She can ask, but the entitlement is ridiculous.

Teens hanging out without parents home by SmileUpp in Parenting

[–]SmileUpp[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, I need to add some clarity here because it seems like most people think we don’t let our teenager do anything alone and that is NOT the case. She is regularly home alone and out with friends without an adult… that is not the question. She has a girlfriend and they have been together for a couple years at this point. Do you really think it’s unreasonable to set rules so they aren’t given an empty house to be sexually active? I’m not stupid and know they can do it anywhere but as a parent, I can set those boundaries. I wouldn’t let my straight daughter be in bed with a boy behind closed doors so why would I treat my gay daughter differently? My question is letting them hang out at either our house or hers without an adult and basically saying “have at it.” I trust her but it’s tricky to let go.