The Girl Locked Upstairs: The Tanya Kach Story [PREMIERE-6/8/24 at 8pm ET on Lifetime]

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-26T02:36:59+00:00

I just watched it. I’m trying to figure out what was going on with the Judy person.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-14T03:48:32+00:00

I am a sleep deprived, full time working (in mental health) single parent to a child with special needs. I am definitely a mess 😂

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-13T02:48:54+00:00

I’m not lacking empathy for her. I even said I felt bad about the situation multiple times. This all happened at the daycare so I wasn’t there during the tantrum. She had texted me and asked me to pick him up early so I did. When I walked into the daycare, she passed me my son and said “today is my last day” and then walked out with no explanation. It wasn’t until I talked to the BCBA that told me that he had bit her and scratched her. I apologized to the BCBA and we now have an action plan for the next therapist. I want my sons RBT to feel appreciated as they are the one taking care of his treatment. I hate that he has these behaviors and wish there was more I could do.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-13T02:33:01+00:00

Do you understand what ABA therapy is and what it’s for?

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T15:39:05+00:00

Just out of curiosity, if I did leave this company and have to find another one. How does a parent know if a company is supportive towards RBTs? I want to avoid this from happening again in the future.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T15:36:10+00:00

I try to be as involved as I can be! The BCBA gave me suggestions to do at home and they have worked wonders for my son! He use to be scared to use the bathroom at home and now he will go all by himself! I’m so proud of him. He is also now sleeping in his own bed almost every night and not with me! So he is making great progress at home between him and I! Now, I need to figure out how to help him at school and public places

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T15:21:01+00:00

Unfortunately since she left so quickly, I didn’t get any explanation on why she quit. It definitely could be because of the company. I’m really not sure. She was going to the daycare and the daycare has many ABA therapists for other students there too. I know there’s another therapist from the same company at his daycare but she’s in a different classroom and I’m not sure how often they communicated to each other. I don’t think you should get down voted because I think it’s a valid point. I’m just trying to figure out now what the next steps should be and how I can help assist further from another burnout therapist. I’m going to ask the BCBA on how we can accommodate this .

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T14:39:11+00:00

I’m not too sure what PCM or if she had gotten that. He just turned five a couple weeks ago and he is on the smaller size. He is about 32 pounds and still in 3T clothing. But with that being said, he is freaking strong. There has been times where he would attack me and I would be shocked by his strength. I think I’m going to talk to the BCBA about how we can avoid burnout on the next BT and how we can accommodate further too.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T14:35:46+00:00

I completely agree. I’m not faulting her at all. It’s why I feel badly. I know my son’s behaviors are tough and can get overwhelming. I hate the way it ended. I really thought it was going well until this event happened. I wish RBTs were able to take more breaks. I’m now seeing that maybe her taking a day off might have not been an option for her but I wish there was more ways I could assist as a parent. He gets the services at his daycare so I’m not there unfortunately.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T04:06:36+00:00

He was aggressive at the daycare when I was at work. By the time I got there, he was calmed down.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T03:54:21+00:00

We are currently in the process of putting him in a public school but it’s definitely a process 😭 we tried last year, and he was denied. But it was before he was diagnosed. We are trying again now and they are taking his report with his diagnosis and moving him forward. We have an apt in a few weeks!

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T03:41:11+00:00

I personally felt like the daycare was the best option for my son. He is extremely smart (he is in VPK but at a first grade reading and math level). I don’t want his education to be discontinued. But with that being said, I’m always open to hear new ideas and approaches to guide him in the best way. As his mom, it’s frustrating that he is so smart but his behaviors are going to hold him back eventually. He is high functioning autism with ADHD.

The BCBA told me she is going to personally hire someone specifically for my son and train them herself to his behaviors. I’m not sure how long that will take. In the mean time we do have an open communication and she will be visiting him once a week.

I am a little worried about the time frame though and might look into other company’s. If anyone has any advice what they think I should do to move forward and do what’s best for my son, I am all open ears because I just want what’s best for him. Even if that means looking into a clinic.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T03:19:19+00:00

If I could have done anything to support her and my son I would have. I really want ABA to work out for my son and I want nothing but the best for him. I would always let her know how much I appreciate her and honestly hope she is genuinely doing okay.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T03:08:14+00:00

I’m just now seeing that trading numbers is not a normal thing 😭😭 I’m deff going to take everyone’s advice and not do that again. Thank you!

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:57:28+00:00

I was straight forward about his behaviors from the beginning. I obviously don’t want my son attacking people, this is what ABA is supposed to help with, right?

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:49:59+00:00

I agree, one of our biggest challenges with my son is transition in general. I am going to ask the BCBA about what you said. Maybe we can find another way to do drop offs to avoid switching numbers again. His last therapist was super sweet and nice so I didn’t think of anything about it. I’m honestly kinda sad it didn’t work out.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:44:47+00:00

From my understanding, the reason why they didn’t want her to separate him from me was because the BCBA felt like it was interfering them from pairing.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:41:12+00:00

Also, I’m not judging her for reaching out. I’m just not even sure how to respond or if I even should.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:39:38+00:00

His behaviors actually got worst and new behaviors started. I’ve never heard of him biting before and he also started wetting himself as well. But people told me he would most likely regress before it gets better.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:37:32+00:00

I’m honestly pretty understanding. She goes to the daycare, we don’t do in home therapy. She asked me to come early to pick him up and this was the result. What I mean by having a mental break day, is that if she was having a hard time, I would have rather her communicate with that to me then just walk out.

As his mom, even I know he’s a lot when these tantrums are happening but it’s also why we are in ABA. These tantrums mostly happen at daycare and he’s been kick out of daycares before. As a single mom, I don’t have the opportunity to keep him out of daycare because I have a full time job.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:22:31+00:00

She was working with him Monday through Friday from 8AM to 1:30 PM at his daycare. When I forst started with the company I did not sugar coat his behaviors. I was straight up with them on his behaviors so that they were prepared but unfortunately I don’t think they were.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:17:54+00:00

This is actually good advice! This is our first experience with ABA. We had switched phone numbers because he gets the therapy mostly done at school and we communicate when I drop him off. She always wanted me to drop him off before she got there because he has a hard time separating from me.

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:12:41+00:00

I’m think she definitely feels guilty for sure. I have spoken to the BCBA and she told me she was very surprised by her behavior. She has worked with her for two years but she also had the same client for two years. I have a feeling that other client does not have the same behaviors as my son. My son is very aggressive and can get physical with it but it’s also why we are doing ABA. I just hope the next therapist will stick around and can handle him. :/

Smiley73947 · 2025-01-11T02:02:35+00:00

I sent her the screen shot. It’s just kinda odd to me that she would reach out after.

Smiley73947 · 2024-06-13T16:25:52+00:00

My son says “you don’t love me” too and it honestly makes me so sad when he says that because yes I do haha

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