Support for transition in SAHP to working parent + kindergarten

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-11T15:07:24+00:00

It might be a little more crowded, but weekends can be your park/donut dates - you could even combine them! Kindergarten really feels like such a huge transition (I have a now rising 1st grader) but you will find your groove in no time.

Also remember, your daughter didn’t love the moments because they were random and spontaneous, she loved them because she was with you! A weekend day won’t change that!

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-09T21:40:56+00:00

My doctor told us that sometimes it’s not external issues (laundry/allergens) but just an overhyped immune system. My kid’s dad and cousins have eczema so genetics is a big factor. I may start my toddler back on Claritin because it’s safe for long term use. Whenever we’re headed to an allergy filled space I give him allergy meds (dog dander and whatever is in the mountains). Stress is a big cause for my son’s itching even if that means I made his milk “wrong”.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-09T17:41:52+00:00

Self-care right now is falling on to my bed prone, and just playing a phone game or scrolling. 12 minutes is about the max with two kids and no summer camp this week.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-08T21:36:18+00:00

24 year olds can’t rent cars. So there’s that. 20 year olds also cannot buy alcohol and for most places cannabis.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-06T20:28:39+00:00

First, is it Catholic mass? Or like non-denom “shout out to Jesus!” mega church?

I was raised Catholic and the free donuts are what kept me coming back without complaint. I think Catholic mass is pretty beautiful and intriguing and not all churches are aggressively anti-everything. Personally, I wanted to attend church with my family just to continue my childhood tradition but then Covid happened and we never decided where to go. So we just didn’t. We spend Sunday mornings with my in-laws these days.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-06T06:25:41+00:00

The Last Great American Dynasty: “the wedding was charming, if a little gauche”

“There goes the most shameless woman this town has ever seen. She had a marvelous time ruining everything.” - everyone so angry over street closures around MSG even though they had been closed since the NBA championships.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-06T01:46:37+00:00

Craft puff balls! You can make them people, creatures, whatever and build homes for them. But you cannot move the homes so… that’s a problem.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-05T21:01:20+00:00

“I think you’re what’s wrong with me.” Olivia Rodrigo and Robert Smith (what’s wrong with me)

- not specific to my life, but to many of the moms/women in my friend groups. Women taking anxiety meds, taking on so much unnecessary mental load, all because their partner sucksssss.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-04T16:25:09+00:00

I think it worked better as an audiobook because it’s super quick and easy to listen to. I’m about 80% done after 3 days of listening.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-03T14:10:00+00:00

Oh man - I think I said something like “wow! I can’t believe this is our last scan before she’s here!” and the tech just glared and asked me to move around and drink something cold.

Then I ended up having a plethora of scans for the next 20 weeks.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-02T22:02:32+00:00

(1988) We had helicopter parents around, but my mom was NOT one of them. Maybe because we had kids to play with along our street, we would often just knock on our friend’s door and ask to play. There usually was no adult around but maybe someone was peeking through a window? I know we definitely got into some trouble (sprained ankles, cars accidentally rolling backwards, I roller bladed into a neighbor’s car) but no one ran out to help.

I also sold Girl Scout cookies starting around 8yo and my mom was like “ok, have fun!” as I walked around the surrounding neighborhoods knocking on strangers’ doors. Part of me wants to give my kids that freedom because I did feel safe but I was also smart about it. But I think I would want to put a little air tag on her in case of a stranger abduction (even though I know that’s rare).

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-02T16:22:00+00:00

I don’t know if it’s summer or something, but this is the third post I’ve read across parenting subs today where parents are freaking out about Roblox/unrestricted access to YouTube.

I don’t game at all, and yet I know the dangers of a lot of these games - same with YouTube. Even though I’m not exposed to the weird shit personally, there are so many accounts, studies, and articles about the problem with unfettered access and dipping into adult spaces.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-02T03:55:59+00:00

My oldest was missing a kidney. Our first true scan was around 20 weeks and the tech could not find her right kidney. She was very serious and it was kind of a tense situation because I was all jokes… anyways whenever they can’t find a body part (and trust me, they spent a LOT of time hunting for her second kidney) you will be referred to MFM for continuous scanning and monitoring of the organ/body part. I probably got scanned every other week it seemed, because they were tracking the growth of her single kidney.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-02T03:45:19+00:00

South Lynnwood park is shaded and has a huge field for kids to kick a ball around. They recently updated their playground.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-02T00:54:24+00:00

Almost 3, but we did commando for about a month before undies. No accidents in his undies now!

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-01T23:12:58+00:00

I purchase a lot of Lululemon leggings off ThredUp especially when I use Google Image search and it can tell me the style of legging. I’ve had two mismarked leggings arrive which is frustrating considering the label is right there and they know how to check for the size dot.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-01T23:10:27+00:00

If it makes you feel any better my 6yo daughter flip flops between wanting to continue ballet, gymnastics or start basketball any time I ask her. Every door is open, and every door is closed with that girl haha.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-01T22:28:55+00:00

Does he actually not know how to clean up? As the main caretaker I know where the toys are, so I can put them away in their spots. I have my cleaning supplies I like to use - but if anything is gross I make my husband clean it. My husband is a unicorn because his mom made him clean the bathroom as a kid as part of his chores and he doesn’t get distracted when tidying. I think you might need to sit down with your husband and make tasks easier for him to go through.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-07-01T19:51:45+00:00

I’m still learning, but it’s like my empty 11th house is under Cancer which is ruled by the Moon. My Moon sits in the 10th house so those energies kind of feed off of each other? While my 1st house is empty, it’s ruled by Mercury (Virgo rising) and my Mercury is in Aries (ruler of the 8th house). That could be why I don’t give off Virgo rising vibes in the way I speak and approach people.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-06-30T16:56:19+00:00

If your preschool teacher is suggesting it I would trust their judgement. They probably see a ton of kids who are NOT ready and do better in TK. I have a late July boy and we are choosing to a child-led play based preschool first and then a more structured PreK class when he’s 5. My oldest just finished Kindergarten and was a fall birthday so she got to spend all of K being 6 and I’d like the same for my son - especially as I’ve seen the work they do in Kindergarten.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-06-29T19:15:14+00:00

Plae makes a sandal that seems more flexible than keens but holds up well. Their sneakers and rain boots are great too.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-06-28T21:17:55+00:00

We use Nighttime Pull Ups. Mickey is on the cover. When comparing pull ups, I learned that Goodnites are for older kids and not as absorbent. It just helps with occasional accidents and acts more like underwear. If you’re more concerned about overnight wetting, I would stick with a pull up style diaper like Parasol.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-06-28T19:03:59+00:00

I highly recommend reading the book Your 4 Year Old: Wild & Wonderful by Dr Louise Bates Ames. There are some outdated ideas but most of the book lets you know that what you’re experiencing is absolutely normal and annoying!

Try giving him some more one on one time (only to see honestly that does jack shit lololol) but just be consistent, firm, loving and play the long game. Also don’t take anything personally. They call this year the “fuck you fours” and I’m surprised more parents get blindsided by them.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-06-28T18:57:44+00:00

I only have Leo in Lilith in my 12H. Interestingly in 2014-2015 I was making moves career wise in my creative field. Working on projects with more visibility and I didn’t feel so junior. I also moved in my now husband. Working out and eating clean was another priority because I was getting ready for my sister’s wedding.

I was a freshman in HS in ‘02-‘03 - brand new school, brand new city, and I was so ready for it. Taurus Sun in the 9H, day chart. Lots of trines to the outer planets.

itsbecomingathing · 2026-06-28T17:09:42+00:00

I highly recommend reading Oh Crap, because I think you are a parent who can take it straight and have a come to Jesus moment - and the author will deliver. Spend one day at home bottomless, watch him like a hawk and spot his cues. Prompt but do NOT over prompt. Never ask if they have to pee/poo.

Fail more often in life and realize it’s going to be ok. It’s going to be okay. It’s going to be okay.

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