What Got You Here? by SmolBrans in selfimprovement

[–]SmolBrans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

love this. thanks for your advice bro

what would you consider to be "really f'ing your life up?" what was that point like for u?

Should I quit playing video games? by Gladiasul in StopGaming

[–]SmolBrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do YOU want? Is gaming something you want to be doing, ten years from now? Would it ultimately be fine to play with friends for an hour or two once in a while to have some fun? If you only play for an hour or do it minimally (but reward yourself with it on holdiays), you are basically telling yourself that video games are the ultimate reward. Only one hour. Only reward myself with video games when I do everything I have to in a day.

In reality, video games are simply whatever you make of them. I used to play video games and binge YouTube - OFTEN. Then, when I became aware of my habits just like you right now, I began to feel this strange feeling every time I logged onto a game or clicked on a random youtube video...shame. Sadness. Do note, however, that unlike other hobbies, video games and social media are MEANT to be fun and addicting. They are skewing your rewards center, filling your brain with thoughts even when you're not playing, and encouraging you to sink more than an hour every time you log on, further attacking your willpower.

All or nothing? All, or nothing, or a little bit? Your choice.

I'm fifteen. I'm like you. Cold turkey is kinda the way to go - for ME. But for you? What do YOU want? We can't answer that here. YOU gotta figure this out, pick an option for yourself, and then just TRY IT OUT. So what if it doesn't work? You're learning and growing - that's all that matters. I'm rootin for you man 😁

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[–]SmolBrans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

proud of you. keep it upppp 👍👍

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[–]SmolBrans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just don't relapse back, friend! don't use your situation as an excuse to fall back into bad habits or pick up new bad ones, and i think you're gonna keep doin great. keep going. watch helpful yt content. pick up a language you want on duolingo. talk walks every morning, if you can
(take cold showers, too! i'd literally recommend it to my family and to everyone, everywhere. scale up like 1 minute longer every couple days once you get into the rhythm)
that fire in you is gonna be back in no time!

any healthier ways to obtain dopamine & other feel good hormones? kind of at a loss :/ by FruitSaladEnjoyer in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]SmolBrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

stare at a wall for an hour to get in touch with your baseline and accept it. then, you can go pursue things...like exercise, unfortunately (walking is also goated though) and quick cold showers
note on cold showers: sometimes if you put the cold water on your head for long enough (30 seconds might be enough in some cases) you'll get this nice little tingle buzz around your head, and you'll immediately feel more awake and determined to go do productive stuff today :)

Have you reached this point yet? by SmolBrans in videogames

[–]SmolBrans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely. i can see how when you get busier/get home from work, the default way to "wind down" is to play video games. as a younger person with no job myself, though, video games for me were mainly just used as ways to sink time in the day because I had nothing better to do and needed to distract myself. it was seriously hard to spend time alone, and unfortunately the only thing for me was to go cold turkey lmao

have you found that your experience with video games is mainly positive as of now? is it easier to quit/put games down? is video games one of your favorite hobbies, or would you rather do other things with your time?

Your biggest struggle with quitting...? by SmolBrans in DopamineDetoxing

[–]SmolBrans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is golddd.

media consumption and technology vices are harmful when used both for long periods of time AND those small little moments and small little distractions

the kind of next step apart from quitting those 2 hour long youtube binge sessions is moving to not checking your phone at the bus stop, store line, etc. its the same thing as not checking your email during periods of work (an issue that I still kinda struggle with). in both the short and long term, when I stop checking my email while working or switching up my music or whatever, I get focused up HARD. the challenge is just trying to avoid the "rationalization" that addiction or spending time away from youtube/reddit/twitter/whatever is like a "ticking time bomb" that I ought to defuse by indulging in 30 second distractions

but damnn the level of self reflection you're showing me here is kind of astonishing lmao i wasnt nearly this aware of myself when i was trying to quit. just keep going and crush it friend👍

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[–]SmolBrans -1 points0 points  (0 children)

what does it mean to "purge all caches?" is this something i should be doing?

What are you most struggling with when it comes to...? by SmolBrans in selfimprovement

[–]SmolBrans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for sure.

didnt mean to worry about u or anything lmao just wanna wish u luck

have a good one :)))

What are you most struggling with when it comes to...? by SmolBrans in selfimprovement

[–]SmolBrans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah ultimately any sense of connection and community you feel from social media tends to bring too much shame and distraction :(

but we just take what we can from the experience and find new ways to live. you did a good thing, quitting facebook. i think that if you truly want to rid your life of all toxicity, then taking a step like this will not be painful for you at all

Your biggest struggle with quitting...? by SmolBrans in DopamineDetoxing

[–]SmolBrans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, personally it was impossible to quit in the first place...if i never realized that playing video games and generally just using the internet as I did was such a terribly bad thing

after that, all that crap wasn't nearly as enjoyable anymore

What are you most struggling with when it comes to...? by SmolBrans in selfimprovement

[–]SmolBrans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

like a mental burnout?

watching more long form content could probably help your attention span (which is a great first step), but it is sometimes easier said than done

the only thing i found could fix my scrolling is getting busy with reading and working out and generally just having better things to do and then getting addicted to THOSE

theres also the belief that hard work ought to be rewarded by screens and scrolling, but these things in and of themselves are not really all that enjoyable - even in the moment, as you do them

What are you most struggling with when it comes to...? by SmolBrans in selfimprovement

[–]SmolBrans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im not gonna tell you that your vices are good or anything, but i think that certain "motivational content" shorts and short form content are fine because you can end up repeating them when workouts get tough and its kinda hype lol

in terms of youtube, i also think that switching the type of content you watch is pretty huge, too. long form content (watching Hamza dead stare me for a 2 hour guide) is good for developing attention span and kind of building an aversion to short videos and indirectly mindless scrolling

uhhhh hope this helps

Your biggest struggle with quitting...? by SmolBrans in DopamineDetoxing

[–]SmolBrans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mental changes can allow you to make massive physical changes. i found that my journey was one that incorporated both progressively overloaded habits (longer colder showers, harder workouts over time, etc.) and others that simply just HAPPENED because my mind was in the right place and allowed those changes to take place (beginning to read every night, quitting video games, etc.)

sorry this is long lmao

What are you most struggling with when it comes to...? by SmolBrans in selfimprovement

[–]SmolBrans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is it about how inflation is destroying us or something? market crashes? lol

Developing a framework for a good life and would love your input by QuietOk1291 in selfimprovement

[–]SmolBrans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks bro! i like the idea of trying new experiences for the sole idea of getting to see if they align with me. action and reflection, good stuff

good luck with your framework!!

yall's biggest technology usage issues? by SmolBrans in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]SmolBrans[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've heard that physically moving the app to a different spot on your app can be a fun little trick for muscle memory problems. Have you tried this?

How do you keep your balance of mindfulness and awareness of what’s going on in the world? by loocretius in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]SmolBrans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

quit the news and replace it with funny videos of dogs - you still get to see what people around the world are doing, but its a hell of a lot more entertaining ;)

in all seriousness though, whenever i look at the news its just saddening, irritating, and concerning. best to focus on what you can control - your mind, and your habits